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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He's an amazing person. He's patient with me, always keeps me laughing, always is there for me, and never yells or pressures me to do anything. He is very outgoing, fun, and I can be my complete self around him. It's like I couldn't ask for anything better, yet some days I feel like I don't deserve him.
Today in particular, I felt very down. We had a normal day, a good day, actually. We had detention after school as well for PDA, but that isn't an issue in our relationship. He is just so thoughtful and I really have never felt this way about anyone. He's my everything and my prince charming... but today I've gotten this crazy wave of sadness overcome me. I do get depressed sometimes, though. I think I am losing feelings for my boyfriend. He was asking what was wrong today and I just didn't know how to tell him. We hung out after school because I needed a ride home and I didn't know what to do either, so I just said I was tired.
I can't break his heart. He treats me like gold and I am so happy with him...but I just am losing feelings for him. I wasn't happy like I am around him usually today... I was sad and felt like I didn't deserve him because he got upset because I told him he was annoying. I just feel like I'm a horrible girlfriend because I yell at him all the time when I'm frustrated or having stress outside of our relationship, and he doesn't do anything wrong to deserve it. He hugged me earlier and I held on to him and cried and ran into the bathroom and cried even more. I can't lose him... I don't know if it's a phase but I don't want our love to die.
I'm so depressed. Sorry this is long... I need help... (link)
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You never know if your depression might fade away, your lucky to find a guy like that. I find the people that use and etc with my ass but, be thankful : ) It happens with people, maybe your just tired of your relationship and need new things going on with the both of you. You yelling him doesn't drive him nuts? He must be thinking that he don't want to loose you either and adores you treating you good because he's trying to figure out all that yelling going on and stuff. Stick with him if he's that good because guys like that is hard to find. : )
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Me: 16/Female, Junior. Him: 18/Male,Senior. So this guy, we’ve been best friends for three years. Literally. Best friends. I could go on for pages and pages and pages and pages about our friendship, how much it means to me, how much its helped me through so many tough times, how he’s basically my rock yadayadayada. I can’t go on about it, but you got to get it in your head that this kid means SO MUCH to me.
And that’s also kind of the problem. He means so much to me. He means so much to me, and as of recently, we started hooking up. I know, BAD IDEA. Please don’t lecture me. We hook up, friends with benefits kinda thing, and we try not to let anyone know about it.
That’s not really the main problem though. The combination of him meaning so much to me, and me hooking up with him has obviously gotten me thinking some “more than friends” kinda thoughts. Which he has made it very clear on very many occasions, will never happen. I’m a junior, he’s a senior, he’s going to college, it’s just not going to happen. We will never date. It hurts me though. I literally think I’m in love with him. And it sucks. And I can’t tell him about it.
Another side of our relationship: the side where I’m a push over and he loves it. He’s a 6’2 jacked up football player. I’m 5’3 100 pounds, and yes, I’ll admit it, weaker than shit. Already physically he pushes me around a lot. He’s a very impatient, pushy guy. Nothing bad, he’s never hurt me or anything, he just knows that if he wants something his way, he’ll have it his way and I can’t stop him. I don’t know how to explain it. We’re good enough friends that if were sitting in his car eating some chips and I wanna turn the volume on the radio down, I’m gonna reach over and turn down the volume. And he’s gonna grab my wrist and turn it back. Ill reach with my other hand and he’ll just hold both my wrists in one hand and not let go until I say “fine, you win, volume stays where it is”. What else can I do? I let him push me around in other ways too. I hate it, but yeah sometimes I feel like his bitch. That’s just my personality, I do what I’m told, I don’t like causing a lot of issues. But he takes advantage of this and I know it.
I just don’t know what to do. He really is a good friend to me. I’m not saying anything about all the good parts… Like how he constantly sticks up for me, uses his size to protect me (or beat my ex boyfriends ass when he slapped me), or holds me when I cry and buys me ice cream when I’m sad. I’m so confused about everything… How he treats me, how I feel about him… And I just don’t know what to do from here but I’m not happy. Please help.
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He's a good friend, but you shouldn't let him take advantage of you, NEVER LET ANY GUY HAVE THE ADVANTAGE to put that on you! Maybe you say that you love him and the sex is where it is right now. Its a great thing that he sticks up for you, be glad. But he can't have everything his way, and you can't always give him what he wants, and another thing is you have to face tough situations. Tell him how you feel and try to resolve the things around you.
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I started dating somebody about a year ago. We broke up for a month, got back together for a month, broke up for three. during the last breakup i started talking to another guy, who used to be my ex's close friend. my ex then told me he wanted to get back together. i was entirely honest with both individuals about the situation, and now i can't decide what to do. on one hand, my ex never did anything for me. does not hold meaningful conversation with me, try to make me happy, tell me he cares or anything along those lines. at first things are great and then essentially i feel like his good friend with benefits, so i dont know why i care so much. the other guy though, goes out of his way to make me happy, asks me about my day, can tell if something is wrong,he pays attention to me,but will be stationed with the military out of country within the next year or so. i have absolutely no clue what to do. (link)
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Go with the one that makes you happy.
Your ex boyfriend is just trying to
make a point that he want's you back,
and he misses you because your with
another guy. =) a lot of guy don't realize
what they have in front of them until their
partner leaves them.
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it's like he's always trying to make me smile or laugh, by joking around or just acting silly in general around me. we have the same sense of humor so i usually respond this way, or if he makes some random noise or something I'll be like "what?" and just giggle. he does a lot of random things like that and he doesn't say why. i'm confused!
i've never seen him act this extroverted towards anyone else before. sometimes he teases me over nothing, too. we sit next to each other in class and often when it's quiet i feel like there's this awkward tension between us, but idk if it's just me, since i have a huge crush on him. but we've never addressed our feelings towards each other. i don't know him that well. we're both these reserved, awkward teens
why does he feel like he needs to impress me when i'm already crushing on him! hard! why won't he just ask me out if he likes me, or even ask for my number? he's not a player or anything, too, he's the geeky/nerdy type (well, so am I) and i've never seen him dating another girl actually. we're 17 btw. BUT at the same time, despite all the attention he gives me during class, when I see him in the hallways it's like he's ignoring looking me in the eye, even though not many people cross that hallway! so now I'm even more confused (link)
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Guys like to make girls laugh because they don't like to see girls sad and frown. Address you feelings towards him, I think he does feel for you..
Or he seriously just cares for you..
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this guy talks to me in class and stuff and I feel like he has a crush on me there, because of his body language and many other things I've picked up from "signs a teen guy likes you" sites. like he tries to get my attention a lot by saying random things, and acts goofy and etc, but is a lot more reserved with others. i feel like the sexual tension could be cut with a knife, but we don't address anything. but when we cross paths in the hallway it's like he doesn't even notice me, or purposely doesn't look at me? once i happened to walk right in front of him and then he looked at me like he was surprised to see me, even though there's few people passing in that hallway, and earlier we used to make brief eye contact (before I liked him, and I suspect, before he liked me) but now, idk. does this mean that he doesn't like me, cause otherwise why would he be shy about even making eye contact and smiling in the hallway, since i talk to him in class pretty often? could he just be shy? he hasn't asked for my number or anything either, but he's like a geeky sort of guy who i've never seen with another girl, so idk what this means. cause when i talk to him in class sometimes we have longer eye contact than normal and smile at each other a lot and stuff, so i don't think he completely dislikes me? i'm so confused. when i walk into class he always checks me out, too (link)
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He possibly likes/liked you. Don't assume that the girl he was with is his girlfriend, she could be his friend/best-friend. He could be shy, but then again he could be teased or pressured into what others are thinking of him, thinks your cute but doesn't want people to know, is trying to be more focused on school and education & family, thinks your weird, or possibly confused. lol. Have you ever said hi to him? You should get to know him before anything. : )
Have fun..
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21/F
boyfriend 21
we both attend the same college
My boyfriend and I are in a rough patch I guess you would say. We are not fighting, but things are not the greatest. He says he is confused and doesn't know who he really is or what he wants. He says he knows he hasn't been the best person lately and he is really and truly sorry for that. He says he is sorry for putting me through sh*t and putting me through pain. He's just not sure what he wants. He says it's him and it's not me and he's really sorry and he wants me to know that. He says he feels like sh*t for making me feel this way. He says he really needs to figure out who he is and what he wants. He said to me "don't worry alright, I just need to work on me :/" I try so hard not to worry, I really do but seeing him like this kills me and I told him that. He says he knows it kills me and he's so sorry for doing that. He knows that he can come to me with anything and vent to me whenever he needs to. He says he is so thankful for me being here and listening but that this is something he needs to do to understand himself and figure out what he wants. He says he needs to do this and he needs to know what he wants and it bugs him that he can't seem to clear his mind. He says he doesn't want to hurt me and that this is all on him. Again he said that he really wants to try and figure it out but he can't seem to understand himself. He's confused and he said he is working on it and he just has to work harder to understand. It's hell not knowing but he's so worth it. I told him that I wasn't going to leave him and that I would be there for him every step of the way. Relationships are not easy but they are so worth it and I know a good thing when I see it. And with him I see it, I feel it and I know it. He says he understands that, he really does. I want to help him so bad but he says he needs to do this himself which I totally understand it just kills me knowing that he's so lost and doesn't know what to do. I'm so worried that we are going to break up over it. I'm trying so hard not to worry and be happy and not thinking bad but sometimes I just can't help it. I know that the more I get worried and the more nervous I get, the more freaked out he is going to get.
I asked him that if this summer, not being together since we are not going to be at school is going to worry him. He said that he did think about this summer and that it doesn't worry him. He said he knows that we would skype and do our best to visit each other whenever we could.
His brother and his best friend told me to ride it out, and that I need to be strong, supportive, and just give him time. They both told him that I'm good for him and we are a good match together.
I honestly have no idea what I'm really asking. I just don't know what I should do. And like I said a part of me is really worried that we are going to break up. I may just be overthinking a lot but I really don't know. :/
I know as a girl, we just like to get right in there and solve a problem and talk about our feelings and try and figure it out ASAP and guys are not really like that. I know a lot of them cannot express their feelings and they don't really like to talk about what is bothering them.
PS: I'm sorry this is so long and probably confusing but I thank you all who took the time to read this and give me advice. (link)
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Tell him I know that you don't know exactly what you wan't in life right now but that is why I am here, is to help you figure it out because that is what couples do in a relationship, they stick together to help each other out and stick through thick and thin, but what your giving me right now, you need to tell me everything on what is going on with you.
It sounds like he wants to break up with you and doesn't know how to putt it in a not so complicated way or hurt you in any other way. He's right just give him his space and time, but stay close to him because you don't want to end up loosing him. : )
Hope things work out and that you get through this.
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Ok so I recently broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago and I feel guilt. I broke up with him because he didnt let me have any "me" time or time with my friends and I felt like he isolated me from everyone but him. I told him I only want to be friends and he has a bit of some anger issues and hacked my facebook accound before I was able to change the password and messaged my dad from my account and told him that we made out. Im 13/f and he's 14. I had alot of explaining that night when my dad called from Florida. Now, he and I talk a bit like friends, but I still like him alot. He says he still likes me alot too. I dont want to go back to him because I dont want people to think that I rely on him to live my life, which isnt true. Everytime I talk to him on facebook, my stomach hurts and I feel like Im still talking to him like a boyfriend except he's only my BGFF (best guy/girl friend forever) So my question for you is, why do I feel this way? (link)
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It means you just like him still.
Its not bad to just stay friends with your ex boyfriend. For him to come straight out to your dad with the truth was the right thing to do, and I don't think he'd be the type to hide secrets.
Going back with him doesn't mean that you rely on him, it means that you miss him. You shouldn't care what people think or have to say, its your life.
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should I ignore this man going forward? he sent me a text which stated " Too bad that I don't meetup to his standards Now I feel terribly hurt & used (link)
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If you wan't the answer then yes but, if your to creeped out then no.
That person is trying to make you feel bad for him/her. Did you date that person before, or really liked you? ,could be the reason why.
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My ex-boyfriend and I ended our relationship about a few months ago. It was due to a misunderstanding. Here's the story... about a year ago, I found out that I would have to eventually relocate to a new city with my family about four hours away from where I live now. Now my family lives there and I have stayed back to finish up my years of undergrad left. I have now decided to transfer with two more years left to go. I used to spend vacation time, like winter, etc, with my family at their new residence. When I was there, I forgot about everything down where I was staying because I was close with my family again. I am a family-oriented person and living away from them was very hard for me. During winter break of last year, was the time we stopped talking. We weren't an official couple before winter break. We were broke up. Ok, to clarify, we went out a year ago and then things happened, we called it off and I went out with someone else... he didn't but things didn't work out on my side but he started talking to me again and we eventually hooked back up. We were never an official couple again but we would still talk to each other and we even "consumated" the "relationship." It was our first, and this was a like a month before winter break. We talked about being in a relationship and he's told me that he liked being single with no attachments and freedom. I told him the same thing too, but mostly, I said this because I was afriad to be with him again because we had a first rough breakup.
So during that winter break, I tried to convince myself that I would try to move up to orlando to be with my family and get to know new people. I tried to convince myself that I could have a future with my ex. We spoke almost everyday during the break up until he went on vacation those last weeks. After the vacation, we never spoke back to one another. I ran into him the first week of the semester and without thinking straight, after all that convincing I tried to do to myself, I told him that I was going to move to orlando and that there was nothing left for me here. I think he was upset a little but he said with calmness "oh.. well im sure they should accept you." I had to run because I was going to be late for class but I didnt really get to explain why I made my decision.
I saw him the next day at a party, with an old friend of mine and they were talking to each other. She was very close with him, almost all over him. I was astonished to see this, he ignored me and so much more. I tried to ask him what the matter was over the next few weeks and i got nothing out of him. I finally asked him if he and the girl were talking and he said yes that they like each other, When i asked him why, he said that i shut him out when i was on vacation and that whhen he told me he had feelings for me, i blatantly said i didnt. I never said these things, infact, i said that i stil liked him but because he didnt want a relationship, i didnt either. we were both scared of reality even though we were very close. i dont know why he just changed his mind and didnt give me a chance. the first time we had issues as a couple was because of something similar to this, where he felt that i didnt like him enough and he tried getting with another girl.. that hurt a lot considring he was my first boyfriend...
Its been months and a few weeks ago he sent me an apology stating that he's sorry and he doesnt need to know that i forgive him but i should try to for my own sake so that i can find a guy who can make me happy. he admits he was a jerk and is sorry.
yessterday, i went to his house for a family function and the girl was there. i know they arent a couple but they are talking and he's taking things slow with her , because im guessing he wants things to last. with me, he rushed our realtionship because he wanted things to pick up fast. he already introduced her to his family, something he never did with me. and i dont know, i feel cheated after all these years, he tries to make things oh so perfect with her after we got screwed over. at his house, i felt really sad knowing that this coulld have been where i was given the chance to impress his family.
my parents never knew about our realtionship, they are very strict but hers knows and she has more freedom of being with him. whereas, i didnt. so i dont know how to feel. i feel really sad knowing that one thing i said to him, screwed everything up. i felt like i was right at the time but now, without him, i feel like i was so wrong for saying it. what should i do? (link)
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Honestly now that your relationship has ended and that he is with another person soon to be, you should just move on with your life. Its not a bad thing, it just means that your being strong and willing do better with yourself. You should always put yourself first before others because, the only way that you could help others is if you help your self. : ) Hope you understand, take care..
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Female - age range: 10-15
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Ok, so this guy(Let's call him Jim) and I(Let's call me Miranda) and we sit next to each other. Well, Jim just came into the classroom and sat down. He showed me a note that said "I love you" on it. I thought somebody just wrote it and put it on his desk and so I said "Who wrote that?" and he kinda thought for a moment and said "I... Don't know..." and then I kinda thought HE wrote it.
Was he trying to say he loved me? I love someone (i'm not dating that guy ._. ) and Jim doesn't date, I think. I've never seen him date anyone. He also gave me a nickname "Cookie".... (link)
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How did you get that nickname cookie?
Anyway's I am sure that who ever wrote that sounds like their just messing with you, in my own opinion.
If your with someone and love them why bother with this little problem, you should leave it alone and don't let it get to you. If he hasn't dated someone, I don't think he should be passing notes like that if he doesn't understand what he wrote. Maybe he just has a crush on you. : ) Have a nice day..
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Okay so there is this guy in my chemistry and gym class. He is sort of nerdy and shy so in the beginning of the school year it alittle hard to talk to him but then he became my lab partner so we talk more. So I've notice that we talk more now and his gotten less shy with me. For example we were on gym and we were playing wiffel ball and every time he was at the base i was covering he would say "Hi Jennefer" which his never done before. But his still super shy and since we sit together in class we sometimes talk and laugh. I'm pretty sure he likes me but how can I get him to not be so shy? (link)
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You can't literally change whom a person is whole.
I'm pretty sure that he'll come around soon or later because it takes time for someone who is shy. He could possibly like you or is kind of kept to him self and is comfortable around people he already knows. Just tell him straight out that you like him and see how he takes it. Ask him to hang out with you and your friends more often and invite him to places, or you can otherwise just ask to hang out with him sometimes or a lot. Then you can start asking him a lot of questions because boys like that but if he doesn't really know you don't bother with serious questions until later on. Get into his interest is another way. : ) hope you like what you read so far, enjoy..
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Female/17
Well, we have been together for almost 2 years but we have been fighting for 6,7 months. There were lost of reasons. He was jealous (but I didn't do anything - I didn't betray him or sth), I was jealous (but he was writing with a girl who fell in love with him). I broke up with him in December because I wasn't sure about me feelings but we got back togheter after 2 weeks.
Then he was jealous about every boy I knew. He didn't want me to have any friends, didn't want me to go to the parties. For 4 months it has been horrible. We fight almost everyday. He complain about everything! That I don't text him in the morning, that it takes me long to reply his messages, that my friends are better people etc. Few days ago he complained that I said to him that I would meet him later because I had to eat dinner. And he texted me that I don't know what commitment is! Come on...
However, he has depression and he cuts his wrists. I love him rather like a friend not a boyfriend. Devotion not love. And I want to break up with him because I feel that I just waste time with him and I might miss a lot of oppurtunities - and relationship with him bounds me. But I'm afraid that he might kill himself after I breake up with him... My friend (who lives 600 km from me) said to me that it's horrible what I'm doing - being with him because of compassion.
But I feel responsible for him. I tried to break up with him yesterday but I couldn't say these words.
I'm not brave enough to do this.
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I was in a relationship for three years and to tell you the truth letting go was the hard thing. From what I just read hearing about your relationship, fighting isn't the key to a healthy relationship because it's just going to give you more problems in life. For your guy to be jealous, and you haven't done anything could be a couple reasons;
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-He wan't you to figure something out on your own.
-He is hiding something from you, keeping secrets.
-He is cheating on your probably
The best thing to do is get him some help about his depression and tell him straight forward that you need to get help and let him know that you are their for him, but the relationship between the two of us isn't healthy for me and the both of us.
The truth is everybody goes through things like this in life, and we all have to stand up one way or another because your going to get fed up with it and probably flip out on him if you hold everything in. If your really that scared to break up with him you could write him a letter, or have a friend do it for you, but the best thing to do is talk to him about it, and have a friend with you just in case anything were to happen.
Your young and sound very smart about knowing what is going on, and besides their is better guys out their for you and your not married so live life the good way. : ) Take care and enjoy.
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