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How to break up with him?
Female/17
Well, we have been together for almost 2 years but we have been fighting for 6,7 months. There were lost of reasons. He was jealous (but I didn't do anything - I didn't betray him or sth), I was jealous (but he was writing with a girl who fell in love with him). I broke up with him in December because I wasn't sure about me feelings but we got back togheter after 2 weeks.
Then he was jealous about every boy I knew. He didn't want me to have any friends, didn't want me to go to the parties. For 4 months it has been horrible. We fight almost everyday. He complain about everything! That I don't text him in the morning, that it takes me long to reply his messages, that my friends are better people etc. Few days ago he complained that I said to him that I would meet him later because I had to eat dinner. And he texted me that I don't know what commitment is! Come on...
However, he has depression and he cuts his wrists. I love him rather like a friend not a boyfriend. Devotion not love. And I want to break up with him because I feel that I just waste time with him and I might miss a lot of oppurtunities - and relationship with him bounds me. But I'm afraid that he might kill himself after I breake up with him... My friend (who lives 600 km from me) said to me that it's horrible what I'm doing - being with him because of compassion.
But I feel responsible for him. I tried to break up with him yesterday but I couldn't say these words.
I'm not brave enough to do this.
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I was in a relationship for three years and to tell you the truth letting go was the hard thing. From what I just read hearing about your relationship, fighting isn't the key to a healthy relationship because it's just going to give you more problems in life. For your guy to be jealous, and you haven't done anything could be a couple reasons;
* Either
-He wan't you to figure something out on your own.
-He is hiding something from you, keeping secrets.
-He is cheating on your probably
The best thing to do is get him some help about his depression and tell him straight forward that you need to get help and let him know that you are their for him, but the relationship between the two of us isn't healthy for me and the both of us.
The truth is everybody goes through things like this in life, and we all have to stand up one way or another because your going to get fed up with it and probably flip out on him if you hold everything in. If your really that scared to break up with him you could write him a letter, or have a friend do it for you, but the best thing to do is talk to him about it, and have a friend with you just in case anything were to happen.
Your young and sound very smart about knowing what is going on, and besides their is better guys out their for you and your not married so live life the good way. : ) Take care and enjoy.
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