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Q: I'm 15, sophomore, female. He's 18, second-term senior, and a friend. We've only known each other for a few weeks, but have gotten very close: writing 2000 word, 21-paragraph emails to each other, my Facebook wall is 90% his posts/tags, as are my notifications, and we talk all the time, and often end up separating as a pair to talk more personally. But he has a girlfriend (of five months), who lives in a separate state. He's been very flirty with me, extra-close, but nothing outright; however, all of our friends, and even people who don't know our dynamic tell me he likes me. I really like him, but I recently heard from his ex's friend that he's a womanizing cheater who flirts with anything that moves and hooks up with plenty of random girls. What should I do? I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I was starting to think we might have had something going on. Help?

I'd say if you really have a thing for him and your gut feeling says that he might have a thing back, then you should go for it. You have to be subtle at first by snooping around and seeing what you/your friends can find. I'm sort of in the same situation as you currently. Since he has a past of being a womanizing cheater, you need to watch out for that and you can't let him take control of you. You have to be the woman that he needs, not the woman that needs him. This is where a new found confidence comes into play.

In terms of his girlfriend of five months, after a certain point of figuring out if he's into you for sure, you have to talk to him about it. You, for sure, do not want to be "that" girl that breaks up relationships such as this. The fact that she lives in a separate state might be more of an incentive for him to go for you, but DO NOT accept any sort of intimate relationship with him unless he is single. You (I hope) have more respect for yourself, for him, and for his girlfriend than that.

With ruining your friendship, you need to ask yourself if this boy is worth risking a friendship and you need to figure out how much this friendship is worth to you. In developing a relationship, I think becoming friends is a vital part, but after that certain point, you need to figure out within yourself if a relationship with this boy is enough to risk a friendship. On the other hand, you don't even need to risk this friendship. You should hangout one on one and just talk to him about it calmly. Tell him what you want and ask him what he is, bluntly. Sometimes beating around the bush can definitely be avoided.

I hope I helped!

Q: so i just met this boy and i am really infatuated with him.

we hav been texting nonstop for a couple of days and today he didnt text me ONCE

im so upset.
clearly if he liked me he would of texted me or something

y am i not on his mind??

He's probably playing tricks with you to keep you hooked. Some guys use this exact method, texting you nonstop for a couple days and then not texting you at all for a whole day so you're left sitting wondering why he hasn't texted/won't reply to your texts. You just have to learn how to play the game, as well. It can be fun once you get a hang of it.

Good luck!

Q: I am a 17 year old girl and i am interested in a younger boy, he is 14. Believe me, i know it sounds bad but if you knew how he treated me, you might understand. The thing is i will be 18 in the month of may, and he will only be 15 in October. Also, it's weird to think, my brother is 12 and the boy i'm interested in is 14. He acts very mature for his age, even with his friends!... and looks like he is 17 or 18. One person that I've talked to about it said he might be infatuated by a pretty older girl that has come his way. Honestly, if that were true, he might have just made a move on me already and he hasn't. My mother mentioned that it's illegal when i turn 18 and if i pissed off anyone in the family, they could turn it into a legal manner, and i could go to jail. I know its different, when the age range is 16-19 but does the age difference really matter in this case, or should I leave it be, since i'm finally happy? PLEASE HELP.

I know of a couple where the situation is flip flopped and the girl is 14 and the boy is 17. The age range is still the same and they seem to be managing just fine. She (just like the boy you're speaking of) looks like she's 17 or 18 and acts extremely mature for her age. They can talk to each other for hours on end and they have so much in common, despite the age difference.

You only live once and you're definitely not expecting to marry this boy. High school should be about having fun and experimenting and if this boy is as great as you describe him to be, he shouldn't be ordering lawsuits against you if things get bad.

Good luck!

Q: whenever my "lovely" boyfriend and i make plans a few days before it never happens... and its frustrating and he says it me all the time... but when he comes home im always dressed waiting then he tells me how nice i look and asks me if we can go tomorrow... in my world tomorrow never comes and it never will... do you think he is just embrassed to be with me in public? we dont do nothing together never.... somedays i dont even see us with a future... should i even wait to see if things change

My boyfriend did this to me all the time. He would also hate to spend time with me if it were the two of us. One day, he promised me that we'd do something together, but then he told me he had a "headache" and that we should just both go home. I did the dirty girl deed of the cold shoulder and I showed him how upset I was. We talked about it face to face and now he's lightened up and we spend a lot of time together. What I think you need to do is just talk it out with him. Tell him how much it bothers you that he tells you empty promises and if he continues with it, I would say wait it off, but don't wait too long. You can't be around a lost soul forever. :/ Good luck!

Q: ok so theres this guy everyone thought he liked me and i liked him. well when some of my friends asked him he said he only liked me as a friend and nothing more. but when people look at use they say he likes me and everyone knows i like him.
so what could be going on?
does he like me?

Well, does he give you more attention then he gives other girls?

If he does, then he probably does like you but he's not completely sure and ready to come out with his feelings. He's probably just waiting for a while more to see if he really does like you. Or he's just not ready to tell you yet.

Q: I just had the greatest date ever. I know a guy at school, and we've talked on a few occasions for an hour or two at a time. Anyway, we had a wonderful date tonight, and of course, ended up making out. A lot. We talked a lot too, but ooh my god, i don't know where to get started with the making out part. Anyway, we sat on a stairwell and started making out, and I ended up sitting on his lap, straddling him, which felt so good and comfortable for both of us. But i don't know if I got carried away or not. I was kissing his neck and touching the top of his chest. And when he dropped me off, we made out in the car for a good 15 minutes or so. ANd I don't know...is all of this generally appropriate on a first date, even if you totally get along with the person?

It depends on you if it is okay or not. Different girls have different rules for first dates. If you feel comfortable with the guy then in my opinion i think it's fine. So just as long as you and the guy are comfortable than i'd say go ahead and make out. There's no crime in that.

Q: ok well theres this guy and we had a relationship 4 a lil while but it ended so we talked on occasion. now he only wants 2 hang out when my best friend is here. i asked if he likes her and he sayd no but it doesnt make sense then. then i thought it was 2 hook his firned up with her but his friend has a girlfriend, my friend says its 2 try 2 get me jealous but i dont no if thats it, wha do u think?

Maybe he wants to hang out with you AND your best friend because he still wants to hang out with you but he doesn't want to hang out with you alone. He probably wants your best friend there with you guys because he is comfortable with her there and he knows you are comfortable with her there, too. I don't think he's trying to start something. Hope i helped!
-Lizzie

Q: Hi not sure if you can help just feels good to talk:) i'm 22 married and have 3 kids 3yr 2yr and 4 months. I have went thru alot in the past couple years, my 2 year old having heart surgery the day after she was born tops the list. But anyway i'm so busy I dont have any time I have got bigger and and just getting low selfesteem about my looks. I never needed makeup or anything whenI was younger so I have no clue how to even use it really lol. I'm not depressed or anything I love my kids more then anything but i'm gettting really self conscious about my appearnce now. any hlep will be appreciated to help me feel better about myself

Well, you can try to work out and lose weight. It may seem hard at first but you'll get used to it. I work out every night for about and hour before i go to bed. You can go to the gym also if you would like. You can also spend time with your kids, take them out to the park. Take them out for walks. That'll also help keep you fit. I hope my advice helped.

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