Well my name is leesle and I am here to help anybody who needs the help.
I want to study to be a rape crisis counselor.
i am very interested in hearing your stories and will give the best advice i think is possible.
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I met this guy about 2 weeks ago and I am really starting to like him. I want to call him tonight and ask to hang out. Last time we hung out was at it house and all we did was watch a movie and make out/cuddle a little. What else can we do? I want to call him, but I'm so nervous of rejection. And I need THINGS TO DO other than watch movies and go to eat. (link)
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go to the park and take a walk
go to the mall shopping
go to an amusement park
anything fun
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well there is this boy...as all girl stories start... that im falling hard for, a few days ago at church practice for a play the youth was putting on i saw his phone and i put my cell number in it and he didnt delete it. however a boy in his band, alex, saw in a text that i liked their *lead singer* and he has been following me around since. also everytime i look at him playing songs with his band he is looking at me, i usually look away first and i turn back and he is still looking. one last thing is, he has been really nice to my mom lately(idk if that will help but i think its cute) so my big question for this long story is~~does he like me? all i want is honesty. dont lie and tell me he likes me just to answer! (link)
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maybe he doesnt like you.but... hes defenitely interested. =]
staring and smiling are signs of him being physically attracted to you which then leads to sentimental liking.
hope you get the guts to talk to him.
hope i helped. =]
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Hi, We broke up cause thing s were getting to serious... We both knew it. I just wanted to start over and stay together. She wanted to break up and take time and space. she'll still talk to me... I think there might be another guy... And she's scared of committment i think too. The only reason is because i've been in the same situation. So i kinda understand her. If there is another guy what do i do? The only guy it would be is someone that her best friend likes... so i don't know that there is really anything there. Do you think she really wants space or is just trying to let me down easy? She's said she still likes me but just can't be with me right now... What does that mean? I feel like it's a cover up but i'm not sure... (link)
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well...
maybe she is trying to let you down easy.
you said you think she is scared of commitment so maybe she's getting scared of what ya'll had.
and about the other guy i dont think there is much problem if her friend likes him too.
if things were getting to serious in the relationship i doubt that she is ready to enter another one. so just give her time. and if she says she just needs her space then maybe she will come back to you.
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Hi. Me and my girlfriend broke up about two weeks ago. And i miss her... So much. I honestly feel like she is the one for me. How do i get her back? I'm almost positive that she still has feelings for me... But i'm worried that if i do the wrong thing i may lose her forever... What should i do? (link)
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Well it all really depends on what was the reason ya'll broke up in the first place.
maybe she does have feelings for you but you dont know for a fact if she still wants to be with you.
if you did her wrong then it will be harder for her to get back with you.
Just try to think about what she is feeling right now.
if she still really likes you she will get back with you if you ask her back out.
but dont do it out of nowhere
first make sure that she still has feelings for you and that she will be willing to give the relationship another try.
and well nobody can really tell you what to do.
but all i know is if the two of ya'll were meant to be together then it will happen no matter what .
and if it was not meant to be... then there was a reason.
hope i helped and wish the best of luck with her.
litt0lkv
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What are guys "attracted" to? Like their hormones. And is there anything that I can to do stimulate his hormones? Or trigger butterflies? (Do guys even get butterflies?) (link)
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it all depends on the guy.
certain areas stimulate certain guys
some guys like it when you touch them on their area
others love when you kiss their neck and hickie them up
others though get excited b doing things to you
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so i have this boyfriend but everybody knoes him ngirls just come to him and flirt and he does it beck what do i do? I want to get pay back bt don't know how to he mess up evrytime and i don't like this girl that got him introuble and he gave her a hug when i was not in front of him and i told him to stay away what do i do (link)
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payback on your boyfriend??
can you say bad idea?
i mean come on .
your suppose to work things out with your boyfriend
you cant expect him to hate everybody you hate.
you cannot get jealous over dumb things like a hug. because at the end of the day the fact is he hugged her.
so he hugged her so what?
your the one who gets to call him your boyfriend
and your the one who gets to kiss him
so get over the jealousy problems and talk it out.
because if you take it to far you might ruin your relationship.
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Ok, I had a school dance on Friday night. Now, in all the school dances i've been too, I always end up with a boyfriend by the end of the night. I know it's not exactly a good thing that that happens, but it happened again on Friday. The thing is, I've known who this guy was for a long time, but I'd never really begun talking to him until Friday. He's pretty cool, but my ex, who is now dating my best friend, is the one who hooked us up. We were just kind of hanging out when my ex came up with this big plan to hook us up because he thought we liked each other. Now, my ex really likes to play match maker, but he only gets people together because he keeps bugging them about it and eventually it gets so annoying they give in. Well, my ex SAYS this guy actually liked me and wanted to go out with me, but i'm not sure who's idea it was. So basically, I don't know if this guy actually likes me, or if my ex just annoyed him into liking me. Help? (link)
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i seriously think you should ask your new boy friend. if he seems to hold back and not say anything then it was your Ex
dont let anything hold you back though.
because the longer it takes for you to ask him the harder it will get.
hope i helped and wish you the best of luck.
litt0lkv
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15/f
ok well me and my ex have been broken up for about two weeks and we only went out for about 6 weeks. and i get so jealous when i see him with other girls. i want to get over him but i don't know how. my aunt told me that part of the reason i can't get over him is because i'm not satisfied with the reason he broke up with me. and that reason was because his "concussion messed up his feelings for me". no, i'm not satisfied with that reason but but i don't think that's what's consuming me.
i thought i was falling for him too :/ but we only went out for a short amount of time. in a way i kinda think i need to just hear him say that we don't have another chance together to knock some sense into me but i know he's too nice to say that to my face.
i do miss him but i know he probably doesn't care about me anymore. it's so hard to talk to him in person. so i messaged him on myspace askingif he could do me a favor and call me. i need to get some things out. he hasn't read the msg yet and now i don't even know if that was a good idea.
i'd love to hear other peoples opinion on this and if the message was a good idea. thank you :] (link)
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hey,
well i can see why his reason to break up didnt satisfy you. i mean because of his concussion?
can you say lying?
i think you should discuss it with him and if he still feels something for you maybe ya'll can work it out.
but...
if he doesn't and he does tell you that well... he doesn't want to get back together then you should just move on. i mean your still pretty young i dont think you need to stick around for any boy.
and about the message thing. it was a good idea. well in my opinion. but the message can help you figure out some things too. if he doesn't ever call you or he does read the message and never replies it might mean he doesn't want to get back together. =/
well i hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck with everything
litt0lkv
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okay i met this guy he looks quiet,shy and cute he's one of my class i didn't notice him before and now i do, and i started saying hi to him, but the thing is he seems really shy and he never said hi to me first like i have to do it first one time i was looking at him and he was looking back but he didn't say hi he just looked back and i was the one who waved at him and said hi, and then if i dint talk to him, he wont talk to me, but he looks at me sometimes and i said hi to him again the next day and he was laughing/smiling but he never ever talks to me at first. I saw him today after school and he saw me but he didn't talk to me or said hi to me is he just shy or just uninterested? what should i do? (link)
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Well maybe he is interested but he is just too shy to tell you or to come up to you first.
I think if you get to know him better then he will eventually talk to you first. maybe he just needs to get used to being around you. so dont get disappointed if he doesnt talk to you first for a while. i think you need to show him that your interested.and maybe little by little he will get comfortable being around you. and then the magic will happen. =]
hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck in everything.
-litt0lkv
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I am 16 female!
I have liked this guy for ages and recently at a few partys i have got with him and stuff, and hes been telling people like a couple of weeks ago he would "do" me haha! But im not sure if he is just messing about he has a very bubbly personalty! I like him so much and i dont no what to do apparently he dosnt want a relationship, i always find myself looking at him in lessons and stuff and he dosnt acted bothered about any of this although he use to talk to me alot more and dosnt anymore i dont no whether to just try and move on becasue he dosnt want a realtionship or to just like try and make him jelous so he notices me more or something??? (link)
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well it all depends on what you want...
If you want a relationship with actual feelings involved then you should definitely move on.if you actually want a boyfriend and girlfriend long term relationship i dont think he is the guy for you.
If you want a fling or just a friend with "benefits" then maybe he is the guy for you.
From what you said he seems like he just wants sex. He seems like he is that type of boy who just wants to have a fling. you know what im saying. the type of boy who is all outgoing and has that thing going for him. but hes a player.
so if you want a fling go for it. a relationship move on.
if you decide to stay with him and have a sex based relationship just make sure to use protection and take care of yourself. because at the end it is really YOU who matters.
hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck with everything.
-litt0lkv
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16/f- there's a guy in my grade who i've never talked to until this summer at our friends' parties. so when we got back to school, we began talking a lot more, and i started to see that he was pretty sweet. since it's only been a month, i can't say i know him TOO well, but i guess we're somewhat close friends now, and i've started liking him as more than that. according to my friends, he likes me too, but it's not like he came right out and admitted it, so we're not totally sure. the only reason i'm so hesitant about liking him and believing that he likes me too is that last year he used to like one of my friends. she's the kind of girl that any guy can easily fall for, because she's so attractive and bubbly. meanwhile, i'm average-looking and more of a listener than a talker, so i find it weird how his taste in girls has shifted. lately, he hasn't exactly been subtle about his feelings for me, but he still won't admit it, so i don't know what he's thinking. i'm less open about my feelings for him, so maybe he's afraid of rejection/humiliation? i'm not sure what to do: continue being subtle or try to show him how i feel? my friends and i are probably 80% sure about his feelings for me, but what if we're wrong? i don't want to tell him only to regret it. (link)
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ok.
i see you have two issues going on
1st that he used to like your friend
2nd you dont know if he really likes you
well let's break it down shall we.
i think he obviously likes you if he acts like it.
i dont think you should let his past bother you. i mean unless he was like in LOVE or really OBSESSED with your friend then i dont see a problem with you going out with him. but if it really bugs you i think you should discuss it with him. it might be a little ackward but its better to find out the hard way then to always ask yourself if he still likes her.
also...
dont let your self-esteem go down.
yes, maybe your friend is that one girl every single girl wants to be, and yes she is bubbly and outgoing.
but sometimes that's not the type of girl guys want as a girlfriend. so maybe your girlfriend material to him.
so think about it.
nobody is perfect so just give yourself a chance and give him a chance.
take a risk and dont look back.
maybe it will turn into the best relationship in your life.
but dont do nothing because somebody tells you to. do what you think is best and follow your heart.
hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck in everything. anymore questions just ask me.
-litt0lkv
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okay. so theres these 2 guys that i like. one of them i've known for like ever, but we are not exactly close. and im never shure if he likes me or not.
the other. i started talking to on the internet. and he lives out close to me. hes really sweet, and he asked me out. i've never actually met him, so i told him that i would have to meet him first.
well today after school. i noticed the first guy looking at me and smiling. but he didnt say anything to me. while the other guy is trying to figure out when we can meet. and im afraid of meeting the 2nd guy and going with him and the 1st guy wanting to go out.
i dont know what i would do. and it scares me. i think that if the 1st guy asked me out. i would extremely consider it. but i dont want to hurt the other guy. =[.
help me. please. (link)
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well...
i think you should consider the feelings of the guy you actually know in person first.
i mean you may feel like you know this guy you met online but think about it. you dont actually know somebody until you have actually conversated with them in person.
think about the facts.
what if the guy you met online:
*is not what he seems to be
* looks nothing of what you thought hed look like
*is not even his age
so just think about the facts and choose what you think is best.
i would advice you to go the first guy.
atleast you know that hes real. =]
hope that i helped and wish you the best.
-litt0lkv
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14/f (SORRY ITS LONG)
So there is this kid in my grade, Let's call him Connor. Last year we talked once or twice and that's about it. Then when this year's school year began he came up to me and we started talking like we've been friends forever, and ever since we've been completely close. He waits for me at the end of the day and we walk to our lockers together, We walk to the buses together, and hang out at Reck alot together. Throughout the time we've been hanging out I've developed a crush I guess you could say. Well not a crush, I'm positive I like him. A LOT. We call each other our "bestest friends" And he's always giving me high fives and nice smiles in the hallway. One day he came up to me at lunch and started playing with my hands I guess you could say, He told me he'd meet me outside the lunchroom so we can walk to our next period like we usually do. When he left my friend Addison came up to me and she was like "That's weird" and I was like "what?" And she was like, "Connor, he was like flirting with you yet he constantly texts this girl in another school, Jackie"
I was pretty dissapointed but I shrugged it off and tried to ignore it and push it in the back of my mind hanging out with him like normal. It was going great and I never heard of this Jackie girl until today I was walking with my friend Dana in the hallway (She's really good friends with Connor too) After he gave me the usual high five in the hallway Dana was like "You know he likes that girl in the other school right?"
That wasn't so hard to forget. I mean at first when I heard he texts her constantly I was like Okay No Big Deal he doesn't like her. But now that I hear he does, I'm bummed. And completely confused, It seemed like he liked me so much.
For example, He waited for me at my last period class like usual, We started walking down the hall when his friend called him over, He told me to go on without me and He'd catch up. I did as I was told and as I was walking some Weirdo kid comes up and starts hitting on me, He was saying some stuff that was making me uncomfortable. He was like "how are you doin?" When Connor comes up out of no where, goes in his face and was like "How are YOU doing" The kid instantly ran away. And now me and Connor laugh about that. It was like two weeks ago and I haven't seen the kid since and Connor was like, "I saw him before I was about to smack him" And I was like, "I don't even remember what he looks like" And he was like, "I'll always remember that face"
See what I mean? He likes Jackie, But yet he's acting like he likes me!!?! And I don't know if I should move on from him or what!? Maybe he really means 'Bestest friends' And i'm just getting mixed signals? Argg. Help!!! (link)
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i can understand why your confused.
let me break it down to you on what i think may be going on.
he MAY or MAY NOT like this Jackie chick. but it doesnt mean he doesnt like you.
maybe hes the flirty type of guy. you know the usual smile, highfive, and casual touching.
maybe he just really cares about you in a "best friend" kind of way.
maybe you think he likes you but in his eyes hes just being a really friendly friend
im not saying he doesnt like you, because maybe he does. but if you stop and think about it maybe its just the fact that you like him that gets you all happy when he does these nice things to you.
some friends just act extra friendly with their girl friends.
but if you really want to know how he feels about you ask around.
tell somebody to ask him how he feels about you.
and maybe then you can figure out whats going on and stop being confused.
hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck. =]
-litt0lk
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15/ female.
hello everyone! well, i have noooooooooo luck what so ever with guys. every guy that i have truely liked, it always either never works, ends bad, or doesnt happen. i don know whats wrong with me!! i know im not ugly cause i have a lot of guys always hitting on me and telling me im pretty but, they always just try to get in my pants, and im not all about that.
i been wanting to have a real relationship for a while now. im sick of just hook ups. and ughh! i don know , i know of a few guys that i would love to go out with, and im cool with them, but idk how to get them to like me.
i don know ! i just need some advice. thank you guyssss (link)
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i understand what your going through.
it sucks too.
but if you interested in a guy just let him know your interested and find out if hes interested in you.
make sure hes not a player or that he just wants a hookup though.
so make sure its worth it and get to know the guy before you start having a relationship.
best of luck
-littolkv
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16/f
Alright, well i like this guy and we talk every night for an hour or 2 on the phone. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now. Well whenever my friends ask him about me and stuff, he tells them different things. Like, one day he told one friend that we are about to date, and then yesterday he told a dif. friend that he dosen't know. Also, today i was walking out of school and i looked out of the corner of my eye and he was right behind me. He dosen't know that i saw him, he was only like 5 inches away and he didn't even say hi and i am pretty sure he could see me!! i am so confused, he talks to me on the phone but at school, he dosen't, he has before but not much. I don't get it! i am so confused! His name is steven and mine is cassie! (link)
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hey cassie,
well he probably is too shy in person.
i know what you mean.
me and this boy used to talk in the phone for up to 5 hours sometimes!
but at school i was to shy to conversate with him like i did on the phone.
just go right out and say it.
dont be shy.
hope i helped.
litt0lkv
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16/f
Over the summer I met a guy and he was adorable and i fell for him so badly, but he lived about 40 minutes away. So i saw him only 3 times. And
i just started at a new school and i met a guy named Ryan. He's a junior and he's really cute. Ryan looks and acts just like the guy i met over the summer. I developed an awful crush on Ryan and i think it may be because he is just like the summer boy. So one time in class Ryan asked me what my name was and what town i was from. Then later that week he said hi to me. Then this week he came up to me at lunch and started talking to me then he went back to his table and asked me if i wanted to sit with him but i said no thanks. The day after his whole table was telling me to sit there and i just said no again. And then today nothing happened between me and Ryan. It was almost like he didnt notice me. Im so confused and i want to know what hes thinking. I want to know if hes interested in me. So if anyone has any advice or ideas, please help me. Thanks :) (link)
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Well you just cant approach Ryan because he reminds you so much of the guy you met during the summer.
but...
you may approach him if you think you like him for who he is.
i think he probably does like you but feels hurt at the fact that you rejected him twice by not sitting at lunch with him.
he probably thinks that you are not interested because you probably seemed like it when you rejected his offer.
he probably still likes you and the best thing for you to do that i think is good is to approach him if you like him.
maybe a little hi in the hallway or go ask him if you can sit with him at lunch.
i dont know maybe it will work.
hope i helped and if he really is THAT hot dont let him get away. =]
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okay, um..
my ex said he loves me,
while im going out with someone i truely care about.
the thing is, i still kinda like my ex.
but nowhere near how much i love my current.
also, im having, flash backs, of how me and a long time a go g/f. [[yeah, im bi]] used to do.
i miss her, more than anything, i always will miss her.
i cry at night, just because, i write poetry. most of it's about her.
but im never gonna see her again, so im not gonna keeep talking about her.
my ex, him and i are chill.
we still talk,
but the thing is. idont think my current cares about me as much as i care about him,
but see, i don't talk to him much, but i see him all the time.
what i mean by i don't talk to him much, is over the phone.
and he talked to his ex [[the other day, one of my BEST friends.]] for 4 hours, but it was about me,
so idont really know what to think,
i really caree.
but the thing is, idont think he cares.
he shows it ALL THE TIME. on the school bus.
and when we hang out, he has this look, that shows me he cares.
when i just cuddle, and hug him.
but i haven't kissed him, he wants to kiss me,
really bad.
but he's being patient. so it's okay.
and the thing is.
i cheat on alot of guys. but i don't WANT to cheat on him.
so it's really amazing to me.
=]
but im also depressed alot.
i used to cut, it's a habbit im stopping.
and don't tell me that because i cut, i don't need to have a relationship. because my relationship is helping me more than you could ever know.
but it's also confusing me,
i don't know what to do,
but. help.
i really don't necessarily have a question.
but im asking so many it's scary.
i can't ask them though.
because i don't know how to,
but helpppp,
please.
--destiny.
if you wanna talk it would help.
aim: randomconfusionx
um,
but im grounded, and not supossed to be on the computer.
so idont know how much imma be on,
but please answer.
please.
(link)
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well...
it seems like you love life seems really conplicated rite now . no wonder your really confused.
lets start with your EX GIRlfRIEND- if shes gone forever and you kno yall will never be together again dont let her get in your way of your new relationships. she'll always ne in your heart and be that one good person you had . but dont let her get to you. your still REALLY young to be so depressed. trust me its not worth it.
now your EX - i think you need some time away from him. if he loves you like he says he does tell him he needs to respect da fact that you have a boyfriend. and that yall can still be friends. maybe the time apart will lhelp you get over him faster. like completely over him.trust me ive been through it. you can still heva succesful relationships even if you do like someone else
now. your BF- if you dont think that he cares as much as you care about him. give your relationship time. you are too young to be making out anyways .a peck here and there is not bad though. just givve him ime and everything will probably fix up
and just try to stop the whole cutting thing. come on. your probably smarter. instead of cutting just try to keep on letting he issues out thu poetry like you have been doin
hope i helped
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