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my boyfriend is annoying..

he's a year younger than me (i'm 18) and he's only been in 1 relationship prior to me. i honestly feel like i have to teach him everything. how to act, what to say, what to expect blah blah blah..

i'm a huge feminist. i believe that women can pay for their own things and i dont like getting anything without me earning it..

he always buys me things. no matter what it is. candy, water, pencil, book.. at first it was sweet, but now its to the point where i want to yell at his face like "seriously stop! i can buy stuff for myself. i dont need to depend on you for money" i've tried talking to him about it once but he keeps doing it..

another thing that irritates me about him is that he wont accept the fact that i have personal stuff that i dont want to tell him about. like just now.. he asked me what i'm doing tomorrow and i said just personal stuff. not a big deal. none of his business. then he starts accusing me of lying. asking if another guy is involved. i tell him the truth- no. i'm not hiding anything from him. its personal and i prefer not to share it with him.. he still wont leave it alone. then he starts b*tching me out about hiding things from him and how he has to know these things.. i b*tched him back out saying "its my life. you dont need to know every single thing that happens. there are things that i want to keep to myself. and this is one of them. its nothing bad. i'm not cheating on you. i'm not doing anything bad. its just something i dont want to share with you. so leave it alone." and he just wont stop bugging me about it.

its gotten so bad to the point where i told him "when you finally learn how to respect me and treat me right- come talk to me. because right now you're acting like an overcontrolling jackass"

i just dont know what to do anymore. we have been dating for about 3 months and he's very sweet sometimes and i like him a lot, but there are times when i just want to yell at his face and cry because he is so annoying and causes a lot of drama and fights..

what do i do? everytime we try to talk about it, we end up fighting. help!!

You already know what the answer is...the best thing that you can do is introduce him to someone else. You seem better off in a solitary lifestyle. You seem too independant to be in a relationship, especially w/ young hopeless romantic. Why attempt to date when you're not ready to include someone in your life? You sound like a very strong woman. Was this a relationship founded on sex? Three months isn't very long to be in a serious relationship...if you're not ready to take the next step w/ him by working on your communication (and respect) then it's time to move on.

Best of luck Chicka.

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ok so my name is brittany and i am 13.. my bestfriends name is kayla and she is 13 as well.. the guy she is datings name is grey and he is 16. ok well she said she is inlove with him and he said he is inlove with her.. but what they both dont know is im inlove with him. i cant get him out of my head and i feel so much for him... they have been going out now for about 2 months and havent even had one fight yet. now every site i go on to get advice about this gives me the same answer.. like "you have to move on to other guys" "your to young for him anyway" "healing takes time" i dont want to tell him that i like him cause i dont want to get shot down. and i love kayla to death and dont want to hurt her.. but i CANT help my feelings.. do you think they will be together for a long time.. like get married? knowing that they are young ..do you think they will move on to other people? i REALLY need to know what i should do.. do i have a chance with him at all? like if i cry and tell him or if i cry in the rain and tell him then i run off... do you think i have a chance? i dont think i do at all... I REALLY NEED ADVICE

I really doubt that your best friend will marry this guy.Two months isn't a long time. If they aren't fighting that shows that they are mature. For a 13 year old to be dating a 16 year old is a big difference. If they are comfortable w/ one another & respect is given then I have no place to judge. You are in a extremely tough situation. You mustn't tell any of them how you feel. If you value your friendship then don't tell your best friend because it will only make her feel insecure. You'll be putting her in a situation where she'll have to sacrifce her happiness or your's. Don't tell the guy because he'll either go back & tell your friend, he'll feel weird hanging around you or you'll stroke his ego (making him feel like he has power over you).

I was head over heels for my best friend's (in high school) boyfriend. I made the mistake of telling her, which then led to accusations & strain on our friendship. I thought the two of them were going to get married. You can never make a call like that because lots of things happen before you even hit your twenties. Opinions change, you learn new things. You learn what you like in a person & what you don't like. I never told her boyfriend, but 6 years later I did & I found out that he liked me to. The timing was perfect because we were both available. My advice to you is, you can't do anything about it now, but hope that he's available in a few years (don't wait immidiately after your best friend breaks up w/ him. That's disrespectful towards your friend.)

Hang in there. Journalling or venting to another friend is going to be a common thing right now.

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How do you show someone that you love and care about them, in a way that they will appreciate, when they don't want you to?

My ex broke up with me. At first I thought I wanted to date her again. Okay, maybe I do. But I later discovered it was more than that. It was about my inability to express my love to her in a way that she would appreciate. This is what causes the heartache. The dating is just an added bonus to the aspect of reciprical love. So know then, the question becomes deeper than how do I get my ex back. Instead it is how do I show her that I still care about her, without irking her more. In the end it seems that everything you do in the beginning is wrong. I.E. Writing lots of corny letters, becomes harrasment after a breakup. Sending gifts, are no longer seen as expressions of love, but as trying to buy love. And showing up unnannounced on the doorstep, is seen as creepy, instead of simply surprising. Why is this? And furthermore, on the deeper note, how do I show my care to her, when she doesn't want me to?

I first want to apologise for answering this question very late. I'm not sure if this will be any help to you now, but it never hurts to share one's opinion.

When you are in a relationship w/ someone you get accustomed to certain things. When you breakup it's hard to get use to the fact that things can't be the way the were. The only way can show that you truelly care about her is not spending time w/ her during the first two weeks of the breakup. This will give her the space she's needing (the one who does the breaking up generally are the ones who just need time be independant). This will also give you time to "detox". Those couple of weeks will feel like you are going through rehab. You will have withdrawls & will crave to be w/ her. You'll feel miserable, but in the end you will thank yourself for not getting in contact w/ her because you have avoided saying anything that will jepordise a chance of staying close. Depending on the reason of the breakup, you can try to talk to each other. Remain friends, show her you have a life. If you become unavailable to her this will show her that you are strong & stable...you don't need someone to validate your life. If you care about her let her know by listening to what she says. If you two don't get back together, use that as a chance to get some feed back as to why. What is it about you that she pushed away. A platonic conversation relaxes the both of you & you'll find yourselves a bit more content.

Since this advice is passed due I am curious to know how you handled the situation. Did you two get back together or did you go your seperate ways? Were you able to remain friends? Were words shared fired & you can't speak let alone look at each other? Just remember what ever happened, it happened for a reason.

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hey girls again....13/f...."canadian"...i kinda have a crush on this guy...hes really good-looking but i dont know how to start a converstaion! Hes been in my school for 2 years and ive seen him around everywhere so it would be really weird if i just went up to him and said "hi, whats your name?"...im not the shy type i just dont know how to start a converstaion with him! also,im not really friends with any of his friends, just one of my good friends SOMETIMES hangs out with him...how should i start the convo?? thanks soo much

Nerves get in the way of a good love story. Literally stop day-dreaming about this guy, that way it's easier for you to be casual if you run into him. You don't know him, he doesn't know you...you have nothing to lose. If you wipe him from innocent day-dreaming, your nerves will calm & you'll find it easier to approach him. It seems your afraid because your wanting to meet him w/ intentions...that's a stomach twister.

So you know someone that knows him...that's great. You can work this to your advantage. I'll need a bit more details to help you have a great meeting, but remember it's all about timing & confidance.

If you're daring you can say to him in passing something really flirtatious.

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i went out with this boy and he broke up with me after three dayz i feel so crush ed he also told 1 of is friends" i only went out with her because she liked me" my feelings are so hurt right now i dont know wut i should do he said he broke up with me because it just was not working out i need help

A crush will do just that "crush you". It sounds like the boy is immature, he's probably still trying to figure out the new world of hormones. Guys will say or do something that to them may seem noble, but from a female view can be hurtful. In this case, the guy originally didn't think of asking you out until you initiated the act. It was in your favor that he agreed. Not many girls even get that chance.

What you need to do now is not let him know that this is getting the best of you. You can easily do that by keeping a smile on your face (especially when he's around). Focus your attention into other things you love. This is important because you need to keep your mind off this guy in order to get over him. Most importantly, you need to remind yourself everyday that you're better then him. Your confidence alone makes you a sexy lady.

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ok this is prolly a stupid question.

but what are some REALLY good kissing tips?
i need ta know pretty quickly.

thanks soo much. anything will help.

Make sure your breath is always fresh. Brush your teeth as needed & keep mints. Don't chew gum because the saliva creates bacteria & produces bad breath. When you go into kiss keep contact until the final moment. This will build anticapation & both your addrinalins will be going. There's many different ways to kiss. I would recommend buying the book 'The Art of Kissing'. by William Cane

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I am thinking about taking a girl i like to the Panic! at the Disco concert coming to Charlotte, NC. I've been to concerts before, but never been to a concert date like with a girl. How do these work out? Could I have any tips on how to make this date successful?

If you know that this girl will enjoy going to the concert you shouldn't be sweating bullets. It's a casual affair. Just approach the girl when it's convienant. Tell her that you have tickets & is it possible if she could go with you. There shouldn't be any pressure. A date can be viewed as anything, it's to what level of intamicy you want to bring to it. going to a concert is perfect because you will be spending time together & getting to know one another. After the event is over, see about going to a Denny's or some kind of diner where the two of you can actually carry a full conversation. If she decides to buy a soda...pick up the check without even asking. It's the chivary that wont go unnoticed. You don't have to announce that the two of you going on a date is a date, unless you need that title.

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how do you prove love to someone you love?

you shouldn't have to PROVE that you love someone. True love is an act that abides by it's own. If you are trying to get someone's attention & show them how you feel about them then sure, gifts & such will due the trick.

Whatever you do for love should not be done for a reward it should be done out of pure happiness. Those types of acts will not be forgotten because they will be memories imprinted on both your hearts. If you truely love someone you will be strong for them when really you're falling apart.

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ok so theres this girl in one of my classes and i think shes beautiful and i like her but i no if i were to ask her out that she would say no. so what should i do?


P.s. im a little over weight to just to let you know

your lack of confidence is what's going to turn a girl off. Do your friends think your funny? If you can make the girl laugh then there's your ticket to flirting. You need to first be able to approach her because how are you two going to be friends let alone boyfriend/girlfriend.

Weight shouldn't be an issue, unless the girl is shallow. If you address that you are insecure with how you look that will reflect back & again that will destroy your chances.

If you ever get flustered around her, take a mental deep breath & think of her as if she was one of your fellow buddies. Keep in mind the female always wants what she can't get. If you throw all your feelings out to her in one shot then there's nothing for her to chase.

Best of luck

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