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how do i flirt sucessfully with a woman. i am a green leaf when it comes down to flirting. mst of the time my attempts fail me, i want to be able to make a woman laugh and attract her some how. im almost 7ft tall. that at times hinders me to. your tips and advice are very much welcomed. thanks (link)
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Here's an alternative...
If your goal here is to meet a woman and eventually have a wonderful relationship with her, flirting is not the way to start that sort of endeavor. Flirting usually leads to shallow dating relationships that don't last long, but burn out quick. Anyone can flirt and throw around suggestive comments and compliments, it's getting to know someone for who they really are that makes the foundation for a great, lasting relationship.
But, where do you meet someone!?!... and if you don't flirt to open conversation, then how!?! I know, this seems like the toughest part, but it doesn't have to be.
Here's an idea. Figure out what sort of things you are interested in, and get involved! You like hiking, find a local group of hikers and meet up with them for one of their hikes. Like going to see plays or movies? Find a group that goes out together to enjoy these often. Perhaps you can visit some churches or other such places, get involved, learn new things, grow as a person, make new friends, etc. Many have singles groups that get together and do some great activities together. You never know, you might meet someone there too. Whatever your interests, you can get involved somewhere in your community where you can grow as a person and make some great friends in the process. Most likely, you'll meet some really great females, of whom you share some interests with, too.
Doing it this way isn't all that bad. Getting to know someone within a group, or as friends first, is usually the best way to really see who they are. In such circumstances they're usually not trying so hard to put only their best foot forward, like usually people do in the dating arena, but are truly expressing who they are.
Stay confident, remember there's someone out there for everyone, live life, enjoy yourself, and you'll most likely find a partner along the way: someone you can get to know without the games of flirting and dating, but instead through living, really getting to know one another, and enjoying one another's company.
Hope this helps. :)
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Im a 14 year old girl, and i am in 8th grade. i Was going out with this one gay....lets call him Jay, i was going out with Jay for 4 months and i think he was my first true love, i still love him but i dumped him because it just had to be done, he didnt treat me right but that didnt stop me from loving him and i still do, the next day his best friend asked me out because he had been crushing on me for 3 months and i said yes because he was super nice, sweet, i knew he would treat me right, and he has. Lets call this guy Tom, well me and tom have been going out for a little more than a month now and he is amazing, and my feelings for my ex are starting to come back, i do not want to be with him, no mader how much i love him i can never be with him again, i guess my question to you is, how do i make these felings go away? or do i let them come back because what is ment to be is what it ment to be... anything helps, thank you!
-Ugh lets call me Wendy (link)
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Wow, this is a really tough one. I once had feelings for someone, and thought they were coming back years after the fact. Truth be told, you can honetly have feelings for a good number of people though. If this guy didn't treat you right, forget about it. It's alright if you care for him and want him to have good things in life. It's alright if there are some qualities in him you like. This is normal, something attracted him to you in the first place. Ultimately, it's highly unlikely you are oging to end up spending the reat of your life with him, and either way, it doesn't sound like a good investment if he 'treated you badly'. Besides, has he tried to get back with you, you didn't mention if he had or not, but I am guessing he hasn't made an effort for it.
So far, you sound like a really smart lady. You've made some very wise decisions so far. I would just write those feelings off as feelings- don't let them take over your life and your common sense. There are enough fish in the sea, it's smart to get out of a bad relationship as soon as possible. You did the right thing. In case you ever feel guilty about having feelings for one guy while dating another, please don't in this case. Don't feel guilty about having "feelings" of care and concern for someone, it's not too awful. It's possible to 'love' someone without being 'in-love' with them, or building a relationship with them.
I hope I'm being clear enough on the difference.
Hope all this helps you a bit. :)
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I really like this guy but I found out he likes one of our other friends.
I'm not sure if she likes him, but she's doesn't seem to be discouraging him...
I don't know what to do.
She doesn't know I like him.
I only told our other friend. (since she kind of guessed so.)
But now I've stopped hugging and walking too close to both of them. I can't smile around either. I get a sick feeling.
I don't want to get in between them if they want to have a relationship.
Should I just avoid them? And not go hang around them at lunch and in between classes and after school?
I don't know.
I feel a lot better when away from the two but then all of them will think I hate them...
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Honestly, you need to be honest. Tell your friends what's going on with you, and what's on your mind. It will help keep things less complicated. Even if your friend ends up with the guy, or no one does, it's good to do your part and be honest with everyone.
In my personal opinion, if you don't end up with him, don't let it get to you too much. I am guessing you are quite young, and there are many fish in the sea. Try focusing on school, spend time with friends, build good familial relationships, learn and grow as a human being. Try and discover what your talents are, what your interests are... take on new hobbies. Enjoy life to it's fullest, and keep a positive outlook.
Sometimes life is what you make of it. If this guy doesn't ever choose you, it's not the end of the world. You're a priceless jewel, and someday you will meet someone and you'll both geniunly enjoy each other's company, respect each other, and care for one another. Don't let anything destroy your joy!
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