I may be 15..but no one said that a 15 can't give wise ass advices :)
I believe that every person in this world..should be a leader of them self. They should not follow a path but make a new trail of their own to leave behind.
soooo..
the names serena i go by serenity. I guess i LOVE helping people out especially based on complications on love and friendships and family stuff...i can relate by far on those topics..as well as everyone else in this world can too i'm sure :D
I'm not your typical 15..year old.. i would probably be a freshman but i'm a junior right now :D and it's going to be helllllll
But excluding that fact..i'm not your typical girl because i think everything through a million times.. (it could be a bad thing who knows) I don't believe in the statement in which people try to act soo strong by saying oh you know people can lean on me and i can support them but no one can make me fall...well ahem* stupid person...if you can't fall then how the heck do you stand back up? in other words if you never fall then how do you become stronger??
People need to learn how to fix there own flaws before fixing everyone else's...
Mathew 7:1-5
read that bible verse. It's good.
i'm very social sadly i'm not afraid to speak my mind...sometimes not speaking your mind out causes half the drama in your life..and yet of course speaking too much of your mind...causes drama too.
ask me a question. i'll give you an advice thats probably not your normal advice..you'll see why if you just ask away ;)
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I really want a Boyfriend, but I have a problemo talkin to them! I like have no effin clue wat to talk about I just feel really awkward when talking to them! I can talk to them fine when i'm with like one other friend with me! i need to know how to talk to them beacuse I am really boy crazy! hahahaha HELP! (link)
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Uhm well if it helps for your friend to be there..Then just for a while have her by your side until you get into the comfortable mode..it may take a while..but i'm sure it'll happen..hopefully?
Well truthfully i saw you question and i was interested in answering because i thought OHH i'm good with talking to boys!
So let me tell you a little secret...I guess one big way of talking to a guy through flirting :P
No really~
Approach a guy or if he's near you is a lot better. But just say ohh did u see that celtcis game they won the championship or the red sox..etc what ever sport and just entwine your self into a deeper convo.
Don't plan your convo...Because 1. You get too excited and you think about how great this convo is going to be with this boy..then once you have the convo it might not have filled your expectations so you'll be upset.
2. it's sometimes easier when you just see something happen while your near a guy and go free style from there and just let the words come out from what ever your thinkin about in your noggin.
Like i know that usually when i'm with my guy friends something funny happens and i just say like..."...wow.." And they start a convo themself :P
Ask questions it HELPS!
Like. oh your hair it's shorter? and they would maybe say no i didn't get a hair cut..and just kinda like blush and say ohh sorry i thought you did..well hmm something does look different...about you. and maybe he'll say Well i did get a bit tan from vaca or maybe he'll say huh i don't why.. then u just improvise from there
LOOK CUTE/GOOD
it def helps!!
Put some curlers into your hair
put a little make up on
New clothes
Shows your body curves
ETC!
i Hope this helped :( i don't think it really did..
But i tried my best..( i'm a girl so it's a little harder for me to come from a boys perspective :)
-Serenity
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Oh dear. That sums it up. I`m starting to like a guy, I`ve only ever talked to him once. He`s not living here right now but he moves back in two months. I`ve learned a lot about him from the newspaper, facebook, and my friends. I feel like I am learning as much as possible to get an idea what he`s really like. My friends have commented that I`m obsessed. Sometimes I do talk about him a lot - hey, I`m excited to see how this works out. Really, what does it take to be labelled as 'obsessed' and really, how bad is it anyways? Thanks!
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you said it yourself hun. your just REALLY REALLY excited to see this boy. :D
Like heres another example..
Your getting ready for a dance.. and it starts at 7:30 you start getting ready at 3. Are you obsessed with the dance?? NOOOO your just really excited, so your getting pre gamed for it :D
in other words you just getting ready for this to boy to arrive. and honestly your sort of being smart about getting to know him more. Yet for now lay off of trying to know what he's like through facebook and such. It's A LOT better and more interesting when you go on dates with the kid and learn how he is from there :D
BEST OF LUCK
-serenity
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okay ssooo i have a boyfriend, but i just would really like more from his side and i feel like im pulling all the wieght forward. i know that he likes me a lot, but he has a problem showing it and i just need to know how to talk to him about it. thanks (link)
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so..let me guess this fact straight..you know he likes you a lot.....yet.... he doesn't show it enough...
Honey..lets remember..it's a man. ALL men have different ways of truly showing there affection..some show it by..sadly violence and others jealousy or just talking sweetly to there lady etc. Your man def has a different form of showing how much he cares..But also think about this..if he didn't care..would he still be with you? Would he call you and kiss you and hug you..i mean he does kiss you and hug you right? If he does then BOOM thats another way of showing that he cares :)
maybe..your pulling the weight TOO much.. and it's not balanced.. Relax..try to not worry about how he should show more care for you..instead try to look through the ways of which he ALREADY has shown that he cares for you and STILL does.
I bet girl.. it's really hard to stay relaxed and just observing him without really talking to him :P but you gotta take chances.
After taking a couple notes down on how he possibly shows that he DOES care. Talk to him after. Just tell him that you care.Then tell him how you sadly worrying that it's not that same case with him. and if because you already know that he likes you a lot then he should be surprised and should deny the fact of him not caring right away :D
GOOD LUCK
and remember never use these advices or suggestions to actually make you decision for you..No one knows you any better other than yourself. So only use these advices and suggestion to help you make the right decision for you :D
were only here to help
Best of luck
-serenity
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i mean me n my gf love eachother, n her friend whos a guy lovesmy gf too but my gf told him there only frds but hes still loves her anyways n were fighting for her love. she loves me , n hes starting to fall for me too n now i feel like im in a love triangle and i dont know whut to adivice him or myself or figure out who loves who when she says she loves me n she only sees him as a frd n he loves her n hes falling for me too n i dont love him just her (link)
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dude..so this guy is bisexual? there nothing wrong with being bisexual..but...consider this as a challenge..hunny you LOVE this woman don't you? In the factor of Love comes the factor of trust along with it..
You trust her..you know you do. Don't let this little challenge disturb your relationship with the woman you love!
Trust me..this is a small situation that your dealing with..Lets just thank the lord that you and you lady aren't fighting! and that it's just this man whose making everything chaotic..
And also i'm 99.9% positive that this woman would not bother wasting her time with a person that she doesn't love and would think of an excuse to run off with that man who loves her..so she does love you..and you just gotta trust her.. She only likes you because if she didn't ...then why would she still be wasting her time with you? :P
know what i mean?
She already did choose you! She's still with you as of today isn't she? you've already asked her if she liked him right?
FIGHTING FOR HER? LIKE I SAID YOU ALREADY HAVE HER! :p
you both need to work together.. tell this man how happy you both are with e.o and how if anything he should not waste he's time no longer and should leave both of your love lives alone..
SIGH*
good luck!!
And remember let this advice/suggestion only HELP you..Never choose a decision because someone said to. No one knows you best on this website but you.. Were here to only help..
Best of luck!
Sincerely
-Serenity
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ive had the boyfriend im going out with now for about 4 months and i realllly like him but its hard to see him because my family doesnt know about him and if they did find out about him they wouldnt like it because he is 18 and im younger. but when i do see him im always soo happy. and he aways makes me happy and hes really amazing. but hes going away to college about a couple hours away and hes still gonna come up here and i told him were still gonna stay together but i really dont know how thats gonna work. and right now im kinda cheating on him but i havent done anything and he doesnt know and i feel sooo quilty about it and he told me the only way he will ever break up with me is if i lie to him or cheat on him and yeah.
so there is this other guy but we dont live in the same state. he really likes me and i like him too. but i also like my boyfriend. i know this is horrible of me. but yeah. we see eachother on webcam and we talk on the phone for hours. and hes really cute and nice and stuff. and he tours alot so hes gonna come see me soon. and he doesnt know i have a boyfriend and hes been wanting to ask me out. but i told him lets wait. because if i did go out with him while id have my boyfriend id feel 849354x more quilty.
i really dont know what to do. i know it is probably better to stay with my boyfriend now but i honestly dont thnik we are going to last much longer. because he is going to college and college life is totally differnt, but hes not into partying so i dont htink he would do anything. but i really like the other guy too.
i just need some help on what to do or think.
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Honey...if this 18 yr old man..was truly making you so happy...then how can you be thinking about being happy with the other kid from the other state as well?
Trust me..if your with a man that you think your really happy with and in love with..but your also thinking of other men as well...then usually things aren't going to end out so well either way.
if you have a doubt in mind right now..it's better for things to end sooner than later.. it's a lot easier that way. Less painful, i mean the pain would be over faster.
It's REALLY hard to do..i agree to break up with a boy. but it's worth breaking up with a boy than damaging your own heart and turning into a complete wreck.
Good luck...Think wisely..
Only use these advices/suggestions to HELP you never use them to force you to make your own decision..it's your future..no matter what anyone says you know yourself best...
were just here to help :)
GOOD LUCK!
sincerely
-serenity.
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