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so i just started texting this guy in my school, we have been in the same school for 3 years but never really talk and he got my number from my friend. so we texted for 4 days straight, just getting to know each other and then one night we were playing truth and he asked me who i like, and i truthfully i have a lil crush on him .. so i was like no one really , i liek this one guy a bit. and hes like who is the guy and i told him it was me and i was like who do you like . he responded by saying this other girl and he told me he kinda likes me. so we have school tomorow, hes not in my class but i see him in the hallway alot . so my queestion is do i go up and talk to him or just smile .. orr...?? and what do i talk about it if i do talk to him? because we both know that we like each other..so it will be awkward. (link)
well if you like this guy i think that you should just ask him out and see where it goes. if you just like him a little idon't think it should be a big deal if he says no. if thats too akward than just wave or smile and walk on. you don't have to talk to him if you don't want too. just don't be mean abou tit and completely ignore him. if you feel too akward talking to hime than don't and just stay with the simple hello... if he wants to keep talking too you i would let him make the first move.. hope that helps a little!


This guy asked me out a like a little bit over a month ago, because we both told eachother we liked one another and have been talking for a while. When he asked if i would say yes I said that i would say no. I felt like at the time we should just still get to know eachother more and I was too confused about whether I liked him, it was on and off everyday. So now i want him to ask me out because im positive that i want to now. Thing is we havnt talked all vacation, like over a week because he lost his cell. I dont want to specificly say ask me out but i want to hint that im ready for him to. What are some ways to flirt more or specific small flirty comments and be more [made up word] girlfriendy? (link)
well, if your that ready to ask him out than i would just do it yourself.


okay so i recently had a question about my boyfriend being a no-show 2 nights in a row and not calling me...that was 2 days ago and he hasnt contacted me in any way since...his phones broken but he could use his little brothers who doesnt use it alot...should i text his brother or wait until he texts me? i really wanted to see him this weekend but im tired of always having to be the one to step up, and i'm trying to be mad at him because i want him to know that he hurt me but its soo hard, especially when he won't text or call me...=/ (link)
if you're mad at the guy than i would just tell him. i mean guys can be totally clueless and he might not get the message. so i would just tell him. i think that you should make the move and call him but not text him. texting is always a wrong way to solve a problem.


I've got two girls after me and I need help deciding. For reference, I'm moving in 4 months which complicates things.

Girl #1, lives in current town. Has very similar personality, but not a similar lifestyle (not a partier and don't have too many activities in common). Easy to talk to and could be "the one." Somewhat dating her now.

Girl #2, lives in town I move to in 4 months, someone I have fun with, she's super gorgeous though so not sure if I have a longterm chance (although she likes me now). Has very similar lifestyle, but different personalities. I've also had a crush on this girl for like 4 months.

Everybody tells me to go with my heart, but I'm so confused on what to do. Both would be a lot of work to keep the relationship going (#1 would require long distance, #2 is a little high maintenance).

I haven't really had a real relationship in forever, so I really want to make one of these work. There are some things that bother me about girl #1 (political views, a little too nerdy) and #2 (a little too wild for me, crazy past and family).

If I start a relationship with #1 just as a spring fling, I know #2 would be hurt. But what happens if I don't do anything with #1, and then move to #2's town and nothing happens? I'll regret that for the rest of my life. (link)
i dont' think that you should go out with someone just for the heck of it. or becuase you havn't had any relationnships in a while. i acgreee with you're friends and i think that you should follow you're heart. if you end up going out with girl #2 if she's too wild than she might get you into trouble (you know beer, crashing parties, etc.) but i would go with #2 because long distance relationships are soooo hard to keep. and going out with #1 would hurt #2 and it would be harder to say goodbye if you get into a good and ongoing relationship. and if you like someone i think that you should go for it!


What should if a boy i like says he doesn't like me but other people says he does? (link)
i disagree with the other answer. if you become best friends wtih a guy and you become BFs with him. what if you break up? your friendship is ruined. boys are shy. if your friends say that he likes you than find out the source. it all depends. say for ex. it came from the guys best friend. i would beleive that. but usually friends aren't always the best source because they just want to spare your feelings.


Everything is just fine with me and my boyfriend except for one thing. His best gal friend which is someone I'm very jealous of sometimes. They talk alot with each other and I know they're just friends but sometimes I feel that he likes being with her than with me. I know he loves me but how can I let him know I dont like this, that he should make some time for me too as much as he makes for her and that maybe she can back off alittle? (link)
Have they know eachother for long? if they have its perfectly normal. trust me! it happened to me! think about the characteristics of her and you. is she more outgoing and does the girl and your BF have more in common? maybe you could go out on a double date or somthing to get to know her a little better and see what she's like. if it continues just confront your BF and tell him you just want a little alone time with him.


I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, however after our 3rd year we kind of aparted because he was talking to another girl.Inspite of it i gave us a chance and have been trying to work with him, our relationship have been inconsistent since then we don't talk for months and then we talk again and end up fighting because he suspects me of dating other guys when we don't talk. He refuses to hear or consider anything I have to say against his allegation on me, he is on denial.I have strong feelings for this person and I don't know how else to fight for us or on is it even worth it based on the history of its existence? .Any advice/input would be appreciated!
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If you have strong feelings for this guy than stay with him but if it seems that he doesn't like you than i think that he isn't the one. If you ever diside to break up with him i would let him down slowly and explain why. Just like what you said in your question.




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