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i'm kelsey >i go to blue valley west high school..

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im in love with this guy. weve been going out for almost 9 months. its real love, not just your average 14 year old junk. anyway.. i just totally dont feel like i deserve him. hes way too good for me. he loves me and he wants to be with me, but i just want the best for him. last night i broke up with him because i think he can do so much better. i want him to be with someone that does deserve him. i cant stop crying and i stole his cape (dont ask) and im attached to it. i miss him so much. but weve broken up and gotten back together so many times, it wouldnt be fair if i got back with him now. what should i do? please help me!

you can't be thinking of him if your breaking up with him. you say he wants to be with you, and just maybe you should let him make the judgements. be smart, don't do this to yourself.. or him.

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i've been with my boyfriend for 19 months and i love him more than anything. the other day i had a dream i was making out with this hot kid at school. does this mean anything? by the way, this is like the 3rd or 4th dream i've had of this kid.

if you love your boyfriend, why are you worried? don't tell anyone about the dream; you might mess something up between your boyfriend.

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the guy i have a crush on is really shy around grls and isnt into grls alot or my friends told my and i dont want to sound obsessed with him so how do i get the nerve to go up and talk to him without sounding like a freak?

just go up to him. maybe he'll ease up, and let me tell you.. you'd rather have a SHY boyfriend then a FLIRT. u can't trust the damn flirts.

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my friend is quite the slut..im not being mean or anything but she is..shes had 13 boyfriends since september and had sex with 8 of them..how do i tell her what she is doing is wrong and that she should stop b/c its not helping her reputation..and how do i tell her w/o her getting pissed off and taking it the rite way x33 cOnfUsEd

hmm that's crazy. i guess she has to learn from her mistakes. i know you might be worried about her, but i don't see how you could avoid her getting mad. maybe let her know what the people are saying and ask her how she feels about it. don't lie to her! if she gets mad, then back off, because atleast you can say you tried.

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I have been with my boyfriend for three months but I fancied him as soon as I first talked to him. We have gone as far as kissing (with tongues) and he has felt my breasts and stuff. Him and I both want to start doing other things like dry sex and fingering but I'm really worried about him fingering me. Should I shave? Would he be freaked out if there is hair down there? Any advice would be good. Thank you.

okay.. you shouldn't be doing stuff with someone your not comfortable with. if you really want to know, ask him. if you cant know for sure then just don't do it!!

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his name is ryan and i have a little thing for him. he has a huge thing for me & he's really truly a nice guy & smart. but i'm scared that if i finally do say yes to him... (he's been asking me out for a while now) that it wont be as great as my last relationship.i'm scared that me & him won't have much to talk about and then i'm just gonna have a hard time breaking up with him..and i dont wanna end up in a mess like that all over again!...and plus i still have a thing for my ex who obviously still has a thing for me...but i dont think me & him will be hooking up anytime soon since he has a girlfirend & he thinks i dont care about him anymore...

your previous relationship, you actually liked him a lot. that isn't bad, but that means he raised your standards for every other relationship. if this new guy is into you, and your not sure, dont take the chance of lowering ur standards. don't ever lower you standards. i saw you stay single until you figure stuff out; and if your ex has a girlfriend.. don't be stupid and mess that up. he might have been doing that to you

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Okay I am 13 and my boyfriend is well 13 too ((12 days older than me)) we have been going out for 3 months and 8 days ((since September 1)) and I asked him what he wanted for Christmas and he doesnt know and i mean I said the same thing but it is easier to buy for a girl than a guy. But what would you get him if you were me? I don't really want to get him clothes or anything so yeah. PLEASE help.

XOXO
Charmed-Cherry21

i seriously ALWAYS have that problem. girls are easier to buy for then they are, but some stuff a guy might like is.. calogne, a shirt he might like, a movie he might like, a CD he might like.. anything. don't be afraid to ask him. its probably better to know what he wants then surprising him and him not liking it.

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theres this guy who liked me all of last year.. i "went out" with him once, but he dumped me the same day, and i knew i couldnt count on him, so even though i liked him, i never said yes the next thousand times he asked me.. now that he's finally moved on and has another girlfriend, i think i was being stupid, and i miss him so much.. i know i should tell him but i dont know what he'll do.. i'd even settle for just being friends, but see since i said no so many times we dont talk that much anymore so we're not even really friends.... should i tell him how i feel? i'm afraid he'll be like "too bad, you had your chance" cause i did that to him so many times.. and i feel awful now cause i feel like i made a huge mistake:( so what do i do??!

you never really know unless you tell him. you don't want to move on wondering what he could have said. hey, he might even like you back. just give it a try, there's nothing to lose.

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I've been going out with this guy for about 1 month and a half. He cusses me out every once in a while for stupid reasons. But other days hes as sweet as can be. 3 of my friends say I should break up with him, but I love him a lot. Today, when school was out, he seen me and stayed like 50 feet from me and wouldn't even come over and talk to me. It's like he always trys to ignore me. It's just weird how he can be nice one day and an ass the next..whats wrong? Is it him or me? What should I do? Should I listen to my friends? Or stay with him?? I really love this guy and I don't want to break up with him, but everyone says its for the best i just don't want to though!! 14/f/tn

honestly, i don't think its love. you can't love somebody and be with them for a month. if its this bad after a month, what about a year? do you like feeling like this? do you like being confused? is he worth the pain? it's not a good feeling to know your friends don't approve. think about those questions, they can help.

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theres this guy in my acting class and I think I like him.(dont tell my bf) and i wanna ask him to go to the dance but then i dnt what the hell should i do

if you like this guy, tell him.. but not before you tell your boyfriend- there could be some serious feelings getting hurt and it wouldnt be good..

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I go to your school im in one of your classes and ive IMd u beform so i think u no who I am do u? I have a bf yes and i love him...i think(he is a dick most of the time) but i told u! and do u no of any nice freshman guys who would like to take me to home comming?

i THINK i know who you are.. and, you told me he was an asshole and you were going to dump him!! i could ask people if they would be interested in taking you, but for the most part- i think you should check it out. dump that boyfriend of yours! hes so horrible to you :(

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Hi well Im jj15 and i need ur help and fast!
I am going out with a guy named rocky , well everytime I go and talk to him he just says Hi and then says that he has to go, Im afraid that he's cheating on me.
I tried asking him if he was and he would just stare and say no then he gose off somewhere.
I am really afraid!!!!!
Help me plz what do I do?
please dont erase this ?!!
and I got my pic on my coulmn now

i don't think you should be worried about the cheating thing, i think you should be worried more about how much attention your not getting. unless you see him flirting with a certain girl, you should stick to talking about him not talking to you enough.

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Hey Kelsie! U prally no who I am! lol well im very cute and i have a greatpersonality and I excipt people for who they are! I have neardy frinds, friends that other people call whores!(when there so not)! But i have a boyfrind now but im not happy hes nice and every thing and i really wanna date for the dance(homecomming) can u try and fine me one if not thanks any way!

hey! maybe since your not happy with your boyfriend, you should break it off with him before homecoming. if you promised to go with him, though, you should go with him. if you didn't, then take a friend. i've heard its a lot of fun that way

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ok well theres the guy that i adore n we went out for 5 months then we broke up n he went out w, someone els for like a week they juss broke up n i dont no how to get him to noticed me n maybe hint to him that i wanan hook up again
14.female

make a lot of eye contact. do what you did to get him the 1st time.

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Kelsey Castanon, your an amazing person and you always listen 2 me but i really need you help!

okay well, you know who i like and i dont know if he will go out with me because of what his friends might think?

haha, hannah your a great person too! well.. why should he care what his friends think? i know him, and i don't think hes like that! i say go for it..

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what do i do? my girlfriends's best friend hates me (or so i think)... (14/m) any advice is good, thank you

first, tell your girlfriend your upset.. then, ask her to ask her best friend whats going on- maybe she'll know.

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