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Hey guys! It's Kathleen! I'm 14 and I'm going to FMHS! I love answering this kind of thing, and I love giving advice to whoever needs it! I might not always tell you the right thing to do, but I think I'm pretty good at it. So, ask me something, and I'll answer you A.SA.P.! Later!

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ok so, i am only 13 years old. and i think i might be in love! my boyfriend is only 13 too. and i heard that he is like...an intch close to loving me! so now im scared bc i have never been in love before and i really dont want to get hurt. so do i break up with him before i get hurt or do i go with it and get hurt! i really need some help and ill rate high to anyone that gives some good advice.

If you really love him (which is rare at 13, but it could definitely happen!) then just keep going with things! It's better to love and be hurt then never loved at all. But... there's one thing that's strange... you "heard" he's an inch close to loving you? That means he doesn't yet... so, maybe try to get to the point where you both love each other before you go too far in your relationship. Don't break up with him yet... Loving someone is not a reason to break up, but just assess your feelings and don't let yourself get hurt. The biggest mistake girls your age (and my age and pretty much any teenager) makes is to center their lives around a boy, so when he decides he's not so into her anymore, she falls apart. Don't let that happen to you by staying busy doing other things while still paying attention to him.

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Ok so I used to like this guy. Then I got to know him better. He was a total jerk. Now I don't like him anymore, but still I feel really weird around him and I kind of shrink back. Do you think I still like him subconsciously or sumthin? by the way I'm 14f

sorry if this sounds stupid and petty and selfcentered but I really need to know!!!

You might still like him. People fall for jerks all the time even though they don't really want to. If you shrink back when you're around him, I'd just not be around him as much if you want to be done with him.

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Okay... my old friend constantly had boyfriends but I know I am prettier than her...and people have told me that but I can't seem to get a boyfriend. All the guys just want to have sex but not be in a relationship with me. I am 17 and have never been in a relationship. I know I can get a boyfriend but they all want to just have sex. Is there something wrong with me?

No, there's something wrong with all the boys you're meeting. And getting a boyfriend doesn't always have to do with being pretty. Maybe look at the boyfriends your friend has, cause if they're interested in real relationships, you should go for the type of guy your friend is dating... don't like, steal her boyfriend or ex, but consider changing your taste in guys. Just hold out you'll find the right guy...

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I'm 15 and I live in Oklahoma. I think I have feelings for someone in the grade below me. Naturally, most people would say that's alright, right? Well I have a brother in his grade and he has a brother in my grade and somehow those factors make it a bit awkward..

Is this okay that I have feelings for someone who is a little younger than me? I really can't help it.. He really makes me laugh and we get in trouble for talking in class and he has gorgeous eyes and the most adorable smile... and he's pretty much the opposite of all the other guys I've had interest in.

My other problem is that I think I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We're still good friends and I'm generally one of the only girls he talks to. He'd tell me he loved me so much and I thought I could see in his eyes that he meant it. Then, SUDDENLY he ended it, but I don't see how you could stop having feelings for someone that quickly! Did he just never love me, or do you think it's possible he still does?

Hmm... Well, first of all, for this guy who's younger than you, I would say it's fine. If you really think he's that great, it shouldn't matter how old he is... I'm not sure if this will be relevant/irrelevant to the situation, but my mom is 8 years older than my dad =O but they're still happily married and everything's fine... Right now it might seem weird to date someone younger than you, but in a few years it will be perfectly normal anyways, so give it a shot!

As for your ex-boyfriend-
Did you ever ask him why he broke up with you? Write him an e-mail or a note asking and seeing what exactly went wrong...

The ultimate decision: who do you like more, the younger guy or your ex? And, if it is your ex, does he still love you?
I hope I helped, IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more advice! Good luck!

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Hy, i'm in 7th grade and i'm 13. I'm going out with this kid. and hes really nice and sweet and all...but i do not know if i like him or not. He likes me..a lot. but i think i like this other person. Hes really hott, and i think he likes me b/c he always stares at me, but i'm going out w/ the other person. and they're both good friends. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO AT ALL!! should i stay with my bf or go with the other guy?

-Konfused Kid

7th grade = not old enough to have a boyfriend unless you REALLY think you love him... Which could happen, but that's a slim chance. Maybe tell this nice hot guy that you'd like to take a break and become friends...

Maybe go out with this hot guy... But the nice guy sounds nicer. And isn't that what you want in the end?

IM me on TobleroneKiddo for more advice if you need it and good luck!

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ok i like this guy righT? well hes going out w/ my friend..lets say her name is casey. So i'm best friends with casey and shes going out w/ the guy i have liked, for a very long time. One of my friends told me to trick him into liking me..but i dont want to hurt casey. I mean yeah i love him and all, but the thing is casey is my best friend, and i told casey for the first time i liked *him* about 1 month ago...and the next day..she came up to me and was like OMG hes my bf now!! and i was like oh that great casey i'm happy for you! and she just shrugged it off like she didn't even care. i dont know what to do! should i just wait and let them die off..(Which they will thats what casey does) or should i share my feelings with him? btw i'm about 13

... Alright, well, I'd say that this guy isn't worth you and "Casey"'s friendship... Tell the guy how you feel, but also tell him that you and Casey's friendship is more important, and ask him who he truly likes better... If it turns out to be you, YESSS! but be nice to Casey. If it turns out to be Casey... ='( Sorrry. But relationships these days don't last that long, usually... So don't worry about it and be happy for your friend! IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help, and good luck!

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There is this girl at school. I like her alot. She said she used to like me. I want her to like me again. How can this be accomplished?

Hey! Thanks for... er, questioning? Heh heh. =D

Anyways, this girl... when did she like you? And how do you know? Leave me some more information or I can't help much... If you don't want to leave anymore information, here's my half-thought out response-

Go up to the girl, say I like you, see what she does. If she gives you a weird look, just run away. If she doesn't, say whatever hits you at that moment. =D

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Okay. I'm 16... and there is an extremely good looking and ultra popular boy that I've hooked up with. Nothing serious.. and I'm not willing to go into what we did. But it was pretty much understood that we didn't want to become bf/gf or have any feelings and that I was probably his random hookup. I want to keep it that way, although I'm starting to get feelings for him. Have I totally screwed myself over? What do I do?

To be honest, yes. You probably shouldn't have done that, because now you'll always be expecting a little more from your relationship.

I'd confront this boy and tell him how you feel. However he takes it will reflect the overall result of your relationship. If he's a good friend, he'll understand that you need more from him than just one hook up.

Good luck! IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need further advice.

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i asked u a question before about my boyfriend... and how wed gone out a few times before and i guess i worded it wrong... weve gone out a couple of times but we went out for a really really long time each time.. and it was really nice.. then one of us would get all weird and then break up then wayyy later wed go out again. its not like we go out for a few days then break up then go out the next day or nething... so i dunno if that makes it different

i just cant stand to be with him too much cause it breaks my heart.. theres way too mne memories!

Look, I know how you feel. I went out with Colton, my ex, twice, (God only knows why) and I knew after the first break up that it wasn't going to work, so going out a second time was just a dumb mistake. Once you break up at this age, that's it. If you were like, 16 or older or REALLY serious about your relationship, it might work.

If it's really that bad to be w/ him because of "memories", you need to make new memories with you friendship instead of dwelling on something that has a slim chance of happening. It sounds like this guy doesn't take your relationship nearly as seriously as you do, which is never good.

You can always fall back on your old friends and family and stuff, so get worried over this boy. He might seem worth it right now, but soon enough you'll forget about it.

IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help, good luck!

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theres a guy ive gone out with quite a few times and i like him again. alot! i dont think hed want to go out again and talking to him about it is out of the question. we hang out alot n stuff so yah its great being friends with him but its like taunting me!!

You went out with him a few times? Meaning you broke up a few times, right? Well, it sounds like this isn't a very steady relationship to begin with, so why don't you just stay friends?

If talking to him about it is "out of the question", e-mail him or write him a note, or, as I usually say, show him this link so he knows how you feel. But I'd recommend you stay friends, because God only knows your friendship might get wrecked if you keep going out/breaking up.

Good luck, IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help! =D

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ok im dating this guy right? and i thought i loved him, but now i just feel mad or sad or weird around him... like hes annoying me or something. i really think i love him... but its like i need a break. i donno how to tell him without hurting him... ive been trying to spend a lil less time with him lately but i donnno. i dont want to send the wrong message, i still wanna go out with him... i just need some time on my own. i end up getting really angry or vexed or hurt when i talk to him online...even tho he doesnt do anything wrong. ok im not gonna sign this just in case people i dont want reading it read your advice thingy, but u know who i am. or...do you? >:-) hehe

Tricky situation, I must say. Well, I'd say talk to the guy, and find out exactly how he feels about you and if the feelings are mutual.

If so- take a break, and continue being friends and stuff, just hold out on the seriousness of the relationship. He'll understand, if this is the case... and...

If not- =flinch= Owch. Well, figure out a way to gently let him down by writing a note (though I did that with Colton and it didn't work according to plan) or keep going out with him until you really feel like there is something wrong.

It sounds like this is a deeper problem than just your boyfriend, so maybe sort through other things going on in your life, i.e. school, extracurriculars, friends, family, whatever worries you.

Maybe show the guy you're dating this link. ;D It might give him a good idea of how you feel w/o messing everything up.

xoxo, kath

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