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advice

so yah.. if a guy "hides" your relationship does that mean he's embarrassed of you? i dunno. he's happy and everything but it's sort of awkward i guess. he doesn't deny it but he won't say yes..does that mean he doesn't really like me?

I think he likes you, he's just probably afraid that his friends will make fun of him for having a girlfriend. Or maybe he's just scared of getting into things too fast. But I don't think he's embarrassed by you...if he was he wouldnt be with you right?

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I like this guy.. we hardly ever talk but I still like him.. what to do?

Um just go up to him and start a conversation. Or ask for his IM names or something. Usually it's easier to talk to someone online.

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Whenever I eat something in front of my boyfriend, I get all embaressed. I guess its because Im afraid I'll get food on my lips or face or something like that, so I only take a bite when he's looking away. Its so weird - I dont even notice Im doing it until he says something to me. I feel stupid eating when he's staring right at me tho. Does anyone have any suggrestions for what I can do to fix this ? Thanks a million.

Don't look at him while you're eating. Just look at your food. And then when you arent eating or have anything in your mouth just look up at him and talk to him, etc.

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I will rate if you answer!

I really like this guy and I am going to tell him I like him. What is a good way to tell him? I want to "seduce" him with my words (lol). Thanks!

LOL Well compliment him. Tell him how sexy you think he is and how you two would be great together. :)

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i am with a good man but i cant help the feeling that he is holding me back from something greater and i have been curious about other men what they treat their women like n such thoughts

So what r u asking? If this is normal? Or what you should do?

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i really want a bf really bad all my friend have one and i am killing meself b/c of it

You definitely shouldn't be beating yourself up about this. I'm sure you will find a boyfriend you love and who loves you for you. Good things comes to those who wait, as cheesy as it sounds. :) I'm actually in the same boat you are on this. Everytime I start to think how I'm not good enough I think about the future and how I'll have a great boyfriend or maybe husband and say to myself how silly I was for being impatient. Live your life. If you act like you don't really care for a boyfriend, all the boys will want you.

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Hey im the chick that needed advise on to go over my X's house or not..well i did go over yesterday..he told me he misses me..then he kissed me..well we were making out and i started to feel it wasnt rite..i dont like him anymore but i still wanna be friends with himm..hes like been my bestfriend since we broke up i dont want that to change but i dont like him ne more i dont kno wut i should do? help

You should tell him you don't like him that way anymore and you just want to be friends with him.

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My girlfriend says we should see other people, but I'm schizophrenic, does that make me other people?

Is this a joke question?

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Please, do the people on here a favor and type correctly, instead of wrtin lyk dis cuz ppl lyk muh cnt red dat. No offence, but save the lingo for Instant Message.


Thanks loves

I think people will write however they wanna write. There's no law against typing lyk DIZ.

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im 13 and never had a boyfriend. How old were you when you got your first boyfriend??

I was 14. If you're patient hun, he'll come to you. Don't worry your prince is out there somewhere.

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ok me and my EX boyfriend havent seen eachother since june 25...right thats along time!! well last night he saw a pic. of me and his cousin that we took like 2days ago at the mall and he was like "so who u goin out wit" i said "no one" and he said he wasent wit no one either!! then he was like "so when ya gunna giv me my pic?" and i was like o ya saw it and he said "yea u look fuckin fine in the picture!!" and he said he still loves me...sooo should i get back with him cz i still love him and umm... im gunna see him on saturday!!..help!!

Depends on how bad your break up was....and how he treated you while you two were together. But if you really love him, I say go for it.

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I like this kid and i want to get his sn to talk to him...i gotta ask ALOT of people so..what are good excuses say i go to Mike and i say do you know konrad or his sn...whats a good excuse with how i got konrads and Mikes sn?? thanks

Tell him you're doing a poll around school about something and you need his SN to give him the information. lol

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i cant stand not having a boyfriend, i havnt had one in soo long and i feel like im so ugly i mean when i get one i wont obsess over him or kill myself when we break up, but like i feel like im ugly i mean i have blue eyes brown hair and im tan i dont sound pretty but why cant i get a boyfriend??? what are some ways i can??HELPP

I have a lot of trouble on this issue too. I can't seem to get a boyfriend to save my life. :( I mean, I dress real cute and I never leave the house without making sure my hair and make-up and everything is in place...I also have a really good personality and I'm super friendly but no one yet! :(

I'm sure if you're just patient and act like you don't really want someone all the boys will flock to you. That's what I've been told anyway. :) Good luck! I hope you find the guy of your dreams!

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Hey guys....
I'm kind of really sad right now....Since my girl friend and I have been going out (8 months) she has promised me time after time that she doesn't pleasure/finger herself. In fact when I used to say Krysta I think you do she would get so mad and say shes not like that and she really doesn't.
Last night I was going through her email, and she had signed up for www.loveforum.net. The user name that was in that email was never activated so I didn't think about it again until I asked her why she signed up.
On first off she said she NEVER heard of the site and her brother probably did it, or maybe she did it awhile ago and forgot about it. I took that and accidently clicked on a link called 'Pleasure for girls' in the Sex Talk forum. The user name was PhillyChick847, which is what she goes by sometimes.
She was asking for advice on how to give herself pleasure, and hide it from me. She said she does it 3 times a week in the forum when she told me she NEVER has ever done it.
She denyed that she typed that and said there is more than one phillychick online, I took that! Then just for myself, I tried to login with my name as the password and it WORKED! After me telling her I would dump her on the spot if she didn't admitt it she admitted it.
She was so upset that she cut herself...I was really upset because I can't believe she would go behind my back and do this....its almost UNBELIEVEABLE. She told me she loved me sooo much and she was sorry...she said she just did it because it felt so good when I did it to her.
She still said she doesn't do it that often, but she can't explain why she typed that. Heres the link to the post: http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?t=3965
She made 3 posts and they ALL disturbed me ALOT.
I threw up like 4 times last night, I can't belive she would do this....I'm so upset...I mean maybe if she didn't lie to me it wouldn't be such a big deal. The thing that even disturbs me more is on the time stapms right after I walked her home from the bus stop she went in and did this...and shes really interested in finding more ways...I think the damage to my head is already done.
I still LOVE her so much but I don't know if I want to be with her....she can say shes not going to do it again but no one can stop once they do it, especially if she does it that much...I really do LOVE her but I don't know what to do...That really disturbed me ALOT! can everyone please help me?
Should I break up with her...please help guys...please....

Thanks in advance
Dave

Wow. lol Seriously, this post disturbed me. Probably for the fact that you're really ignorant. You say her pleasuring herself is perverted, but you do it to HER so that's not perverted?

I read her posts, and they're not bad at all. It's not like she's cheating on you or anything. She's making herself feel good...what's so wrong with that?!

Masturbation is not a sin.

And I say she break up with YOU.

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Hi i have liked this kid james and i went out with him 3 other times, but i am still in love with him.
he wants to hook up but i wanna be a couple do u think he likes me or just using me for hookin up. thing is he is one of my best friends so..yeah!
HELP
how can i tell if he likes me
and
is he using me or not?

female

Well I think you should talk to him about this. Tell him you want to be a couple, and ask if he feels the same. If he says no, and just wants to hook up then find another boyfriend potential.

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i like this boy and we've been friends for a while and i think he likes me but how do i get to know him better before we go out he says the same thing to he wants to get to know me more but i dont think he likes me and i want to talk to him on the phone but i never talked to him on the phone i do i talk to him without being nervous.

signed: love struck

I think you two should just hang out together one day. Spend the day watching a movie or just talking and getting to know each other better.

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Im going to my friend's bday party this weekend. i hav no idea wut to do with my hair/makeup/clothes etc! help~ i kno my crush is going to be there. how do i get him to notice me?

For hair: If you have long or medium length hair, I found a picture link for you.
http://chicstyles2000.tripod.com/gellar2.jpg
I think this style is really cute and it gets attention without looking too over-the-top. Take a few front strands of hair and pull them back into a tiny ponytail to about the center of your head. Then take a curling iron (one made for bigger curls) and curl about half of your hair...on the bottom. You might want to get your mom or a friend to help you do the back because I doubt you could do it on your own! It's hard!!!

For makeup: It really depends on your skin tone and eye color but generally put on some black mascara (or dark brown if you're a blonde) and maybe curl your lashes a bit before. I don't recommend eyeliner because it makes your eyes look smaller and I only really use it if nobody's going to see me..Eye shadow I guess also really depends on what you're wearing. But I'd stick with pastel-like colors and maybe a tan/light brown. You don't want him to notice you in a bad way. :P Lip gloss/lipstick really has no limits! Use whatever you want! Preferably lip gloss...it's more casual party-like. Use whatever color you wish!

For clothes: I would suggest maybe a cute mini skirt like the ones at Hollister and Self Esteem. With a solid t-shirt to match it. Flip flops or sandals. Shorts would be cute too. If you don't like showing off your legs then you can always wear jeans or just some really cute pants.

I really hope I helped! :D And I so hope you get his attention! Have fun at the party, and let me know what happened when you get back please!

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hey its me the one that asked about having a bf and liking another guy and well i broke up with my bf and the other guy asked me out and well i need help because he asked me to the movies tomorrow (friday) and i mean i want to go and my mom said i can but im scared cause i have never been out before ah help please

Well ask your mom again a few times to see if her answer changes. If it doesn't then just tell the guy you'll have to go out on another weekend.

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i have a girlfriend were both very happy but my ex girlfriend is back in town and wants me back. i said no. and i have a girlfriend and she flipped and has been stalking me ever since..im afraid it will become dangerous and she ends up hurting my girlfriend. im totally lost what should i do?

You should definitely get a restraining order if you think she'll hurt you or your girlfriend.

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okie well i was at aparty n this guy got bet 40$ to makeout w. me.. but u see we didnt i was messin w. him cuz i new he was messn w. me soo he started to lean over like he wanted a kiss n i wouldnt soo he would get up n come bac n act the same way soo i finally got tired of it soo i kissed him but u see as we were movin in he moved soo i kissed his chin n well he stands up n gose we did it we madeout but everyone was around n they all no we didnt n hes like ur breath stinks n then he acted liek he was puking.. well i rele like that guy but i was rele mean to him.. was that a thing a jerk would do n should i just forget about him

Yes he's a jerk. That's what jerks do. He could've been ALOT meaner but...thankfully he wasn't. He was just being immature and probably trying to show off to everyone there. Boys are stupid, ignore them. :P

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