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im only 16 and iam pregnat i dont know what to do i feel like im dieing from my inside
the father of the baby want me to have an abort but i want ot have my baby and i dont know what to do is so much pressure and idont think is right to kill a little innocent baby i want to have the baby but this boy dont want to have a baby.. hes 17 and i love him but i cant do an abort.
:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:((: help me please ...

i definitely wouldn't recommend keeping it OR getting an abortion. have you thought of putting the baby up for adoption? i have a few friends who have been in your situation, & they have all said although it's hard, they're glad they chose adoption. it's so hard for a girl your age to keep up with a child. you need to finish school & live your life to the fullest before becoming a mother. plus, there are so many couples out there who are unable to have children on their own. personally, that's what i think you should do.

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I am a married women of 17 years with three kids.I been seeing another man as my bf for over 8mo now and my husband is ok with it cuz he has a gf also. This guy has a gf with 3 kids and they been together for 14 years and she doesn't know about us. Here's the problem: she found out and now he is playing it on the DL for a while. It has been over a month since I seen him and he called me two weeks ago and told me how much he loves me and wants to be with me. Tells me I am his life. I changed his life. I am his one and only, etc. Only problem is he doesn't call for weeks at a time and I haven't seen him in. He says he wishes he could see me but she took the car, the phone, everything from him and doesn't let him out of the house. He is 31 I am 37. I feel he does love me but I don't know if he is being true or out playing around. What should I do? I don't want to leave my husband and he doesn't want to leave his gf cuz of the kids involved but we do want to be together. What does it mean when a guy says you are my life but then isn't around much?

have you ever heard the saying "if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you?" i think you're better off getting out of the relationship. /:

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ok so i meet this guy at a lock in. and from what i have gotten to know him and what his friends has said about him he is great. he is a good guy, and he wouldnt do anything to hurt me. i been on 3 dates with him so far. and know from waht his friend saids he is going to ask me out. and at first i was soo happy and i was going to say yes.
but today his friend was telling me some stuff that he has done before. like he has done weed once and saids he will never do it again. he did it that once cause he got peer pressure into it. then it worried me that he could get peer pressure into a lot of things then. also that he has a lot of friends that smoke. and i dont really want to be around that. also it is long distance so that is already hard enough. and he has cheated before. and my last bf cheated on me and i dont want to go though that again. but i still like him. i just dont know if i should go out with him.
and so far he has treated me really good, and been so sweet.

idk maybe i am just taking this to seriously and freaking out about it to much.

sincerly,
softballbabe2610

it sounds like you have yourself a pretty good boy. so, he tried weed once. who cares? he learned from it, right? you definitely are NOT going to be able to make him avoid smokers. they're everywhere, & that's something that everyone has to deal with. also, i'm assuming you're young. young teens are going to cheat on each other. ya'll are horny. end of story. i'm almost positive there's no getting around it. just have fun & enjoy being a kid. (:

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my friend was telling me about her and her boyfriend "doing it" and she was talking about who did the work - what does she mean? what work is to be done? what do you do during sex anyway? im not ready for it or anything. i was just wondering. i mean, how are you supposed to move?

by "work" she was probably referring to who was on top. usually, while one partner is on top, the other is, for the most part, holding still. sex is a lot of hard work. it definitely take a lot of engery to move so rapidly, so consistently. there isn't a right or wrong way to move during sex. generally it's the back & forth or up & down movement of the hips, but it's really whatever you & your partner prefer. you just have to experiment. (:

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well i know this dude for 4 years and i like him but is that his a player and i don't know what to do he had ask me out before and i said ''no'' but now i do want to go out with him what should i do? and the thing is that my friend likes him!!!! But people say that we make a cute couple!!!! sincerely confused,

why would you wanna go out with a player? it wouldn't be worth losing your friend over.

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