Lately I haven't cared about other's problems. But as a child all I did was take care of everyone. Now that I've had some time to be selfish and care about only the select few (instead of everyone) I'm ready to share the wisdom and views I have on the world to help those who really need me. I'm not scared to be honest. I'm an idealist and I'm quite open. I'm not looking to be friendly, but I am looking to be caring
E-mail: salem_wolf2000@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Occupation: Idealist
Age: 17
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Yahoo: salem_wolf2000@yahoo.com
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Member Since: June 4, 2008
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hey 18 female
Well the story goes, I really like this guy and he has told me he likes me aswell! I actually think im in love with him, he is the first person i think of in the morning and the last thing at night! we spend everyday on the fone to each other, thing is a few people have told me they think he might be gay and that is whats stopping me going into a relationship with him
do i just ignore those other people and go into a relationship with him? (link)
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If he finds out that he may actually be gay, just make sure you're ready to hear it if that time goes around.
But live a little and take a chance. Every experience in life you get, good or bad can be good in the long run. It allows you to understand more and become more flexible to everything.
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So, I'm dating a man I've known for a long time. I'm white and he's black. When people see photos of us together or hear about him, for some reason they always have to comment and say things like 'Oh he's black..." or "I'd never thought /you'd/ date a black guy."
I don't understand what the problem is personnaly, I love him and he's so fantastic.
I was wondering though, when you see a white girl and a black man, what do you automaticaly assume or think? Just interested to know.
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Honestly, I just automatically see love/friendship/lack of judgment. That's a little strange people would comment like that though. Next time if you hear them comment just ask them to be more kind and say it doesn't matter due to love.
Glad to hear you got someone to love ;)
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(Will be long! Sorry!) I dated a girl since 7th grade, married her at the end of high school, had a few kiddos with her, and never loved her. Well of course I loved her but only because I'd never been with anyone else. She was my first everything. Then I met TJ. We became best friends several years ago and for a long time there was no attraction because she and her husband were too serious. But they ran into some issues which plunged she and I into a relationship that both of us had on the back of our minds from the start. We are in love now, and really serious, even though she & her husband are back to normal.
My wife found out I was cheating, but didn't know who with. So TJ's unmarried friend took the heat for her so that her husband wouldn't find out. My wife & I are now divorced. I'm in love with TJ and she and I are still having an affair but eventually she will have to choose.
How do I prepare myself for a break up? I threw away everything for her and I don't regret it, but I love her too much to make her do the same. If she leaves me, how do I cope with that and never burden her? I hate the position we're in.
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Your heart will naturally know how to mend it's self without any preparation of the event. I'm not saying get your hopes up, but don't be in doubt. She may choose you in the end if she's really serious.
But if you're really worried I would suggest meditation and not medication. Medication will only dull you in the long run and change who you are.(So I believe, you don't have to listen) But meditation can calm the mind. But like I said, the heart will mend it's self. Even if it takes a long time. But if you believe you're strong instead of calling yourself weak you'll be able to handle it.
On the bright side if things don't go well with her, you'll always know you didn't regret anything and you had a great past with her. (So I assume by the love you talk about)
Wish you luck :) Take care
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