I'm 21 and he's 26 and we've been dating 5 months, I think the age range might have a lot to do with how I feel. I just don't think things are working out. He's a nice guy, but there's a lot of things I don't like.
I'm in college and he graduated a few years ago so his whole life focuses around work. I understand why this is, but here's the thing. I work too, but still I find time for other things. His job isn't even that great, he could do better for his degree, but he got sucked into a job where they lie to him about how much they'll do for him and then every time he gets promoted it's really just a lateral move, but he doesn't see this, which drives me crazy, but I haven't said anything about it because I don't want to hurt his feelings. He doesn't do anything except for work and all his friends are from work. Which is another issue for me.
He wants me to like his friends but they're even older than he is and I see them as very stuffy and boring. I can't relate to much of anything they talk about because their lives are just as boring as his is.
He never wants to try new things. Everything is always the same old same old and his idea of a date is just netflix and chill. I love to cook, but he's very picky about what he'll eat and his taste is almost juvenile. This is another big source of frustration for me. He has such boring taste in everything. We never eat out anywhere with new foods, always just places that serve the same things. I love to try new things.
He never really seems to want to go out and do anything. Whenever we go out he always just seems hooked on his phone playing Pokemon go and within a few hours he wants to go home and watch movies. I love to be doing stuff.
I feel like he exaggerates his accomplishments and qualities to everybody. Like he tells people he was the valedictorian, but that was in high school and his graduating class was only like 25 people (private school). He boasts about being in a fraternity, but that ended 5 years ago. He briefly traveled, but talks to people like he's the know it all of the few places he went. He tells people he's an accountant, but really he just works in a finance department for a call center.
We have issues in bed too, but I don't think he knows (which is my fault, but I feel like it would be a really awkward conversation). He's only ever gotten me off once and it wasn't that great. He's horrible at fingering me and that's one of my bigger turn on's. He's not one for foreplay and he wants to switch positions like every 30 seconds until he gets off which is in like 15-20 minutes. I feel like it's all just for him, which sucks because I always got off with one of my previous ex's. Even when we don't have sex I usually give him a hand job to make him happy. He wants me to go down on him now and I don't want to because I feel like it's not fair that he always gets off and I never do.
Other than those issues, he's a really nice guy which is why I've stayed with him. He's cute and dorky, I like how he dresses. He does things like buy me flowers, chocolates, etc from time to time. We typically get along pretty well. When we argue it's fairly calm. He's a marriage minded too, which I want. I don't want to just endlessly date. He's sweet, he compliments me and makes sure I'm not feeling sad and that I know he's there for me.
Other than those things though, I feel our relationship is just so flat and boring. I've tried to fix it, but it always just turns into the same thing. Like he wanted to go on a "hot date" tonight, but what he had in mind was me coming over to finish a movie with him and staying the night (aka he just wants to netflix and chill). BORING! Why would I even waste my time?
I have way more fun with my friends than I ever have with my boyfriend.
I don't know what to do...I hate starting over because so many guys are just asshats who are 10x worse than my current boyfriend, but I also don't want to be stuck in a boring relationship either! :(
Hey im going to try to help as much as i can if you want to keep this relationship then talk to him about how your feeling about him being boring about how you want to try new things and the sex you need to be happy its not about trying to find another guy after this one you have to do what you need to do what makes you happy in the end and if thats being single then so be it if its with him then so be it but dont stay miserable with someone whos not fulfilling your needs and your desires you are a strong woman and i know in the end you will do what is best for you but if he cant do things that help your relationship then i dont see one and its ok to be single not all men or bad ones you just have to wait and you will find one that you will adore
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F/16 ( grade 10) south african
So theres this guy in my class that i like and he also likes me. But hes really rich and im not at all. He lives on a farm with a big house and horsesand im scared that when he comes to my house he will judge me because its not big.
Also in his previous relationship they always bought each other expensive gifts like a diamond ring and matching shoes ( one of them are R1500) and i wouldn't be able to do that. I dont know what to do cause thats the only thing that stops me from being in a relationship with him is that this scares me.
Also : im a virgin and hes not and he smokes weed and i dont and im scared he just expects that from me when we date
hello a guy who likes you will accept you for who you are and it wouldnt matter if your not rich or the house you stay in those things don't matter when you like someone just try to talk to him and let him know what your feeling i know it may be hard but you never know until you talk to someone and i really think he will like you know matter what and on the smoking weed part he can do those things but this is the thing just tell him you dont do that and he should respect that if not then i dont think hes the one for one i hope i helped
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I have a crush on this boy, I've asked a question similar to this in the past about the same one, and trust me when I say its been a roller coaster since then. I had this crush and I confessed my feelings, he said he wanted to get to know me better a few days later. It seems normal, but I recently learned he had a crush on my best friend. I just learned this tidbit of info, and my best friend has never lied to be about something like this before, so I guess it's true. He asked her to my school's homecoming dance right after I told him about how I liked him. My best friend flipped out on him, and I thought that was the end. But he won't get out of my head! He ticks me off so much, yet he's so nice and cute. I want to punch him, yet hold his hand at the same time. I have tried everything to get him out if my head, yet these thoughts keep coming back! I don't know what to do, and these feelings are driving me crazy! Any ideas on how to keep these thoughts out if my head.
Just talk to him and tell him how you felt about how he done you after you told him how you felt you need closure and after you talk to him you will feel better it will be hard to get him out of your head but as time comes a new guy will be in your mind it always helps to talk things out and see where it goes he hurt you and thats not alright be strong and be blunt i hope i helped you out and you have a good friend...
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