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I've been dating my boyfriend since June 8th. It was perfect from the first time we met. We had good chemistry and a lot of things in common, with the same interests and quirky silly attitudes, to the love of animals and art. He and I got along so great.
In the weeks that followed, it couldn't be any better between us. He was everything I wanted, complimenting and comforting me, so loving and so romantic. He always showed me he cared and never let me down. He told me how much he loved me everyday and made so much time for me and invited me to family events. His family really enjoyed me. But somehow it all went downhill. I became punished and got my phone taken and wasn't allowed to see him but when I was off punishment he practically died when he heard I was back. He was so excited. Everything went great and we called each other every night, but then around Thursday, things just got sour. He ignored me all day and I got worried. We got in an argument because I got scared and he didn't tell me he was out drinking, so on and so forth. The next day everything was fine. He apologized and so did I, and it went smooth. However, yesterday wasn't so good. I called him and he ignored my call but answered my texts saying that he is awake. He stopped texting me back and then I stopped talking to him and asked what was wrong. He said I was too clingy and he got mad from what I did Thursday. So I gave him space. Today he and I are supposed to go to the river and he was told to wake up at ten but he isn't answering and I'm upset. He disappoints me all the time. I love him but I don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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Well your boyfriend is right you were being a little clingy. Guys don't really like clingy girls, I mean well to a certain extent but it also depends on the guy. If you text him and he doesn't answer then he's probably busy doing something, but if he really loves you he will eventually text you back just wait and you really don't need to know where your boyfriend is every minute of the day, you should trust him and give him space for their own life. No one likes to be smothered. Just give him some time and space in time he will text you. Just wait a little while.
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im talking to a guy who is 21 and im 17. i really like him and he says he really likes me. but i heard the only reason he is talking to me for sex. my friend asked him and he said no. what should i do. should i keep talking to him or not. im still a virgin and he isnt. (link)
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Well first off your age difference is exactly at the mark or 5 years. Since you are not an adult yet and he is you shouldnot be having sex with him at least until you are 18 because you are a minor and he could be charged with a crime. If you really like him I would keep talking to him. Don't believe everything you hear. It's true that some guys are only interested in sex but not all guys are. If however he does start asking you for sex, I mean its your choice but I would say no. If said no then you would know by his reaction if he's interested in you for you or just the sex. Take the time to get to know more about each other first. Monitor how he treats you, if he shows you off to his friends, he buys you things just because, he treats you special. I would also wait to have sex with him until at least you are 18 if you chose to have sex, trust me its easier when you are an adult. Also I would wait for criminal reasons too because the age of consent for sex is veries in different countries and states most is 16 but some are 18 or other so i would check your state/country
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Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.
Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.
Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed? (link)
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It's natural to feel worried about things like that. Every girl feels that way about a guy sometime in there life, sometimes more. My advice to you is let it play out, if he starts treating you different, like using you for gifts and stuff don't let him, set the ground rules for your realtionship. Only buy him gifts and stuff if he treats you good and does things for you, buys you stuff too. As for giving him the freedom, well its good that you do cause guys don't like to be hasseld all the time you know being with you always. just like how girls need a night out guys do too, just to be guys. But NEVER give the guy the ok to chat up other girls because guys are all the same when it comes to girls saying yes to that. Don't be surprized if you said yes to him that he could chat up other girls, then end up cheating on you because for him you sayin yes gives him the ok to do jus that. Be firm tell him if you want me to be with you then don't talk up to other girls. Be with only me. If he can't do that then dump him. He's not worth it if can't be true only to you.
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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that it would be a huge turn on for him for us to have sex with the lights on. Because it would be really romantic to be able to stare into each others eyes, and he would be able to see everything.
however im very very insecure with my body, and thats why i like having sex in the dark, because i dont have to worry about what i look like. Although he told me he's already seen my 'problem areas' he says i have nothing to worry about and that he loves my body. but im very well aware that im overweight. especially compared to his previous girlfriends. id love to be intimate with him with the lights on purely for the romance of it all... but im to caught up and worried about my body.
is there any tips or anything to help me 'hide' the flaws of my body in the light?
id really love to do this for him, even though im insecure (link)
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Well I only have one thing to tell you. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about the way you look. Your opinion is the most important, if you like the way you look and don't want to change anything than that's great. If however you don't and want to lose a couple pounds then that's great too. It's all about how much self-confidence you have. Don't compare yourself to others because everyone is different. Just keep saying to yourself "I am the perfect me" and you will be fine. As for your boyfriend if he says he loves your body then that should be enough too. Don't ever change for anyone. Plus you should be happy and proud that your boyfriend accepts you just the way you are.Just be yourself.
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me and my boyfriend of a year and a half recently broke up. He told me he lost feelings and we just got boring, and also feels like since he has only experienced 3 girls (hes 20) and went right from his last relationship of 2 years (got cheated on many times) to me and him he feels like he needs to see and experience what else is out there. We broke up over a month ago. The last time we talked face to face was a little over 2 weeks ago. He saw me out the other night with another guy and it hit him hard. He is begging, and i mean begging for me back, spilling his complete heart out (hes not a guy to show emotions at all). He swears he will be there and do everything and he has acknowldged on his own everything he needs to fix without me saying anything
Now im smart, i know guys can be selfish and say whatever they can to get you back and its sad that a guy has to see me out with someone else to realize what i mean.
But i also do know that although its rare some guys can be very sincere and truely realize what they've done. My question is, is there any way to tell? Any advice for how to get back into the relationship and make it perfect without rushing it, and anything else that could help me?
i've been ignoring his calls and texts, and i just dont know how i should handle this cause i do not want to get hurt again (link)
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Yes there is a way to tell if a guy is truly sincere and have realized what they have done and that is if they keep coming back to you telling how sorry they are and what they would do, why they want to be with you stuff like that. So my advice to you is play hard to get. Make sure that he knows who he gave up. Keep ignoring his text messages and calls. Don’t let him off that easy. Go about your daily life, go out with some other guys, make him feel jealous that he gave up someone amazing, make him think about all the times he had with you and if you should run into him well I would talk to him like nothing ever happened, that your life has moved on and you are doing good right now. Trust your instincts. If your heart tells you to go for it give him another chance well then that’s what should do. If the guy keeps coming back to you after this then he’s the one who really cares for you and loves you.I know it is sad how guys have to see you out with someone else to know who they have lost but sometimes that's how it goes. You shouldn't stop doing that though keep going out with guys if he loves and cares for yo uhe will keep coming back. You will know when to take him back if do in time. Remember this though no realationship if ever perfect. Every realationshio has flaws and faults, the key to a good realtionship is to accept yourself for who you are and for who the other person is and accept their faults. No one is perfect.
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