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I've been with this guy for a couple of weeks. He's had sex about 4 to 6 time before, maybe a year ago...he claims he was just horny and looking for action. He's so good to me and I like him oh so much! But I'm scares he's trying to get in my pants since he's known to he a player. But he's so sweet. One of my bestest guy friends was like he's tricking you to get into your pants. I'm not sure...what are some signs he's trying to get into my pants?

Cliche as it sounds, for the most part, you have to go with your gut. Sucky answer, I know, but as females, we have better gut instincts than we think. If he tells you things that don't sit right with you, or just don't feel honest, they probably aren't. And don't think just because he may tell you something nice without trying to have sex directly after saying it, doesn't mean he's saying it out of the goodness of his heart. And listen to your guy friend, after all, no one can interpret a guy's intentions better than another guy.

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so i asked this guy to sadie hawkins dance. he said yes, and my friend has been trying to "matchmake" us.
hes not the type to show much affection and its going kinda slow, so what can i do to speed things up? i really like him and i want this to go somewhere!
any advice!
thankyou
female/17yo

The good news is: Asking him to a dance is a huuuuge accomplishment. It means that even if he's not sure he wants to date you, he's at least interested enough to want to spend the night with you and learn more about you. There isn't much to do to "speed it up", he has to decide on his own time if he really likes you, but try to make it a little obvious that if he were so interested, you would want to see him again (given the dance goes well) Mention little stuff, it doesn't even have to be something you really mean like "oh? you like doing (fill in the blank) too? we should totally do that sometime!" Guys like to live in the moment, so bring up something in the near future to get his mind in thinking about seeing you again so he can consider it. Remember, guys are so less perceptive to signals than girls, it's okay to be a little obvious you want a second date, make him comfortable with asking you

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Okkay, Me and my boyfriend started dating like a week ago.
I think I already love him but im scared to tell him. Im scared because I think its too early to say it. Should I wait for him to say it or what?

Thanks.

Waiting is good. Think about it this way, if you wait, you have chances to absolutely make sure. Also, don't "wait for him to say it first", but it's a good idea to give some time- he might not come to terms with feelings as quickly, and you don't want to pressure him so quickly to feel like he HAS to make a decision about loving you RIGHT NOW. Yeah, sure as women we all like to hear it first, but trust me, any woman that tells you "oh, when he said I Love You, I thought about it and agreed" Almost every woman knows before her boyfriend. Why? Women are more in tune with feelings than guys. So wait, not because he might not love you, but because most guys just need a lot more time than women to come up with the right answers to things!

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okay so theres this guy that i like. and he likes me back. but then he goes and tells me how 3 girls from this other school like him (i know all of these girls btw) and tells me that 2 of them were fighting over who would get to hook up with him and stuff. like i just thought that was really obnoxious of him to do. and yeah when one of his friends asked me out last week i told him, kinda to make him jealous, but idk like i just dont know if i should like him anymore or not. like should i keep going normally like texting him and stuff or should i lay off and play hard to get?

Ha, as trite as it sounds, yes men are relatively unintelligent creatures. It's a safe bet he's exaggerating QUITE a bit about other girls especially if you have suspicions that he likes you. He's "testing the waters" so to speak. He doesn't want to get rejected by you, and is probably blowing things out of proportion in an attempt to see what reaction you give him. I'd say, don't totally give up if you like him, but don't humor him by putting up with the bullshit. Make it clear that if he wants to waste time testing you, you have other options. Even be up front with him about it if you have to. Tell him either shape up and ask you out if he likes you, or to leave you alone

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when you are hanging out with a guy, where ever it may be [such as his house, movies, etc.], what are some cute things that a girl can do that a guy really likes? or what are some cute ways to flirt, etc.? Also, is there something that a girl can do to get a guy to kiss her, without asking it directly or it getting ackward?

You have to make him feel comfortable with kissing you. Every guy's worst fear is getting rejected. Just touch him (not excessively) just really subtle. Brush his hand, or lean up against. Use body language that makes you approachable. It may SEEM obvious to you that you're all over him, but guys are sloooooow to the hint :)

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How do I forget about someone I'm so crazy about? There's no hope of getting back what I had in the past and my only choice right now is to move on. But I need help on how to do that.

I wish there was something better, but the biggest help is honestly time. Also, make an effort every time you find yourself listing all the wonderful things you miss about him, cut it and think about all the good things about NOT having him. (even if it's just 2) Start to look in a new angle, think about all the other GREAT people you will meet, AND, all the new people that will get a chance to know you

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my 1 year is tomorrow and i really need to get my bf a gift!!! HELP! i've done a lot of gifts for him already.. mainly revolving around pictures. i waant something REALLY special. any ideas?

I did this for christmas once:

I bought a plain glass bow, a glass paint marker, a fish, and the supplies (all relatively cheap at a wal mart or something) and wrote a poem about the fish (something cute and silly) and set it up and gave it to him. It was fun to put together and pretty creative (if i do say so myself!)

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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating about a month or so.
His ex girlfriend turned best friend is really nice and all, but im a bit worried about her flirty-ness. I mean, i guess shes like that with alot of people, and i know she approved of my boyfriend's and my relationship, but i just don't know.
I don't know her all that well, so i can't exactly tell her to back off without seeming rude. So i think i'm going to bring it up with him. But i don't really know what to say and what not, because i don't want to come off as a bitch.
I trust him, and know that he would never ever do anything behind my back, but still, it just makes me uncomfortable.

How should i bring the topic up?
I'm 15, he's 17, and she's 16; if that matters at all.

As weird and difficult as it may seem, you have to be blunt about it. You don't have to be rude, but just lay it all out on the table. Yea, maybe she's cool with the relationship, but maybe she acts cool because she wants your boyfriend to see that they can still "hang out" as a last attempt to win him back. Also, if you let her walk all over the relationship she might win him back because she was bold enough to go for it. Trust me, no guy would think it's rude to talk about, in fact, he will probably feel really great that a. you have some jealousy towards her and b. you care enough to tell him you aren't okay with an ex coming between you

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