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ok i am a 15/f
i like a bunch of guys but i am really scared to have a boyfriend and take a chance because i think they might take it to far and it might sound stupid i have never made out with a guy or anything but i am planning to lose my virginity on halloween it sounds weird but i am tired of being a virgin i have some guys that would do it with but i would still be scared the problem is how do i let loose and just relax and go out with a guy its not a big deal if he loves you them he will slow down right well see i don't know what my problem is with guys i can talk to them fine any guy i can talk to fine but when it comes to going out with them then i get really really shy and say no alot of people ask me out and i say no but i really really want a boyfriend how do i relax and stuff what can i do to make me feel better about myself and just loosen up
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If I were you I would seriously consider celibacy. Guys our age are total jerks who think with their small heads, rather than their large ones.
The easiest way to ask a guy out, like I have mentioned before in other questions, is to be yourself and don't fake anything.
Okay, so what's the big deal about being a virgin? You don't gain anything by losing your virginity. In fact, you lose something. You lose that innocence. Rather than getting a pointless boyfriend just because you want to loose your virginity, wait until you find a guy who actually really likes -- maybe even loves -- you and would give you his world. THEN you know you're ready to lose your virginity.
As for making out, there is no predetermined age where something should have happened. I mean, take me for instance. I'm 16 now and hadn't made out up until two days ago. You're younger than me, you shouldn't be rushing into anything, especially seeing as you're underage and theoretically shouldn't even be worrying yourself with sexually centered relationships.
What ever happened to dating for fun, rather than sex, and dating for the company, rather just for the result of sex?
From the sounds of things you probably should give it a couple of years before you attempt to ask out a guy because you seem to be trying to rush into things that take time, and girls like that tend to scare guys away.
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K so there is this guy at my school lets call him "Q" Well Q isn't exactly the nicest guy, but he isn't THAT bad. But alot of people hate him(most actually) But he has a crush on me, I dont want to like be his girlfriend or anything, but I dont know, he seems like he's the kinda guy to just have fun with. Is this slutty? I've never never done something like this before or felt like this. Usually if I wanna fool around with a guy I would also want to be his girlfriend. Plus Q is also my best friends x-boyfriend. She is totally over him, but I dont know. Please help me on what to do! (link)
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You should consider that if a guy has a crush on you, generally he'd want a relationship, not a couple of screws on the side. Personally, I'd say yes, it's rather slutty, but hey don't take my opinion as the be all and end all of your decision. Life is about choices, and don't let other people make them for you.
However, maybe you should tell him how you feel and gauge his reaction. If he's okay with the "bed buddy" idea, then by all means have fun, but if he isn't, I wouldn't suggest using his crush as leverage to get what you want.
Considering what you said, maybe you DO want to be his girlfriend. After all, you want to fool around with him, right? And, you DID say that when you want to fool around you want to be their girlfriend... I might have interpreted that wrong.
Another thing which happens alot and you raised in your question was best friends exes. If you really want to date a friends ex, then nothing should be stopping you. If you do anything however, it should be heeding your friends advice. After all, maybe the person didn't feel the same way about your friend that they will feel about you.
If you need any more information or have a deeper question, feel free to ask me.
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Ok, there's this boy and i really like him but he admitted to me on saturday that he doesnt like me that way and he's sorry.. for some reason i thought i was moving on but i can't.. i wind up thinking about him durring class and i have dreams about him sometimes.. i dont know what to do.. can anyone help? (link)
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There's nothing in particular you can do with this situation, I've been there myself. One of the hardest things to do is let go of someone you really like when they have no feelings for you.
All I can advise you to do is think of something else whenever you think of him. Try to make it something that won't lead you back to thinking of him. There's no real way to make your body relinquish emotional ties to someone when you want it to, I mean, you can never control your emotions, and this is the same. As much as you want to, you won't be able to just tell your body "That's it, no more".
I'm afraid that as convenient as that would be, unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
Dreams you can't do anything about, but it's always alright to fantasize about someone even if you can't have them. Remember, fantasies don't hurt anybody. Unless of course you fantasize about hurting people =P
But yeah. Don't get too worked up about this, it's perfectly normal to take a lot of time to move on from someone, especially if you had/have rather strong feelings for them.
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What are things you can do with a guy, that aren't like having sex? Like making out, and stuff like that. I just need some ideas and maybe how to do them, if thats allowed. Please help! thank you so much (link)
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There are many other choices to be intimate and physical with a guy without actually having intercourse:
Making Out
Petting - (That is, stimulation of the genitals either through clothing or naked)
Mutual Masturbation - (naked version of petting, done at the same time)
interfemoral intercourse - (having the penis placed between your thighs)
Sexual Roleplaying - (That is, pretending to be in sexual sitations. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_roleplaying )
And, of course, Oral Sex.
Hope that was a help. If you need any more definition of any of the terms I described, don't hesitate to ask me.
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there are a lot of hott guys that go to my school or other schools in my town and like at the football games, they're all there. what are some good things to say that aren't like cheesy, to get them talking to you..
P.S. i don't know anything about them.
ANYTHING! besides what school they go to.
thanks in advance.
and i need to know kinda quickly (link)
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The easiest thing to do is to be yourself. Ask what's on your mind. I mean, I'm not telling you to rush up to one of them and be completely random, think about it first, but it's important (and I can't stress that enough) to be yourself around guys. Even the hot ones, because if you fake it and they like you, when they see your real self they'll be even worse because you'd have had the emotional attachment to them.
... Or, you could go for the drunk person response. "Now you might ask yourself, what's a nice place like me doing in a girl like this?"
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Girls, do you think that facial hair on a 15 year old guy is attractive. I know that girls don't really like mustaches. But do girls like anything, or should I just stay clean? (link)
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I know you said "Girls", but I still have an answer(opinion) and I'm going to tell you anyway.
The first thing you need to know is that you shouldn't change yourself just because SOME others find facial hair (or any other hair for that matter) repulsive. If you like the facial hair look, then by all means go for it. It's considered "In" fashion right now for guys to have stubble (just look at Ian Thorpe). Some girls, however, won't be of the opinion that it's nice, and frankly if a girl's going to judge a guy by how much facial hair he has then she's not worth it, because people who date for looks are, well, not worth it.
Personally I don't mind some facial hair on a guy, but like I mentioned earlier it's not the same for everyone. Basically, just do what you want with your hair, after all, it's your body to do what you see fit with.
-- Edit: the answer to the question you asked in feedback, is yes. Yes, I am. =)
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