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heyy everyone. My names Deanna, but everyone calls me dee =].I'm 13 years old, but im pretty mature for my age. A lot of people come to me at school and confide in me with huge secrets, and i never tell anyone. Tons of people also ask for advice, and i help alot of people out with their problems. I really want to help people, as I want to be a child psycologist when i'm older. So, giving simple advice to teens like me would probably help =]. So, feel free to ask a question, I will respond ASAP!

Byeeeeeee

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My boyfriend of a year and a half complains that I get angry too easily. I admit that I do, to some extent; but I always have an actual reason. For example, one of our friends (who has a boyfriend) was, (well in my eyes) flirting with my boyfriend right in front of me, and it pissed me off. By the way, it's not the best time of month right now, so that's causing me to be a bit moody and more bitchy about things. But anyway, so I confronted him about it and he got really pissed off and said he can't take me getting pissed about everything anymore. I almost lost him today and it really has hit me that should change, but I don't really know how. I really don't know how to be able not to get so mad about things. Can anyone give me some tips, if there is any?

Thanks so much.

I have the SAME problem. Me and my b/f got in a fight today and he said i get mad too easily. I'm trying to change also. A way to do it is to take a deep breath, close your eyes and count to ten. Then, look at the other person's position and what they might be feeling. I'm sure you're boyfriend doesnt want to fight with you. So, just realize people make mistakes and they should be forgiven.

If youre really mad, then say to him, "I'll call you back because right now I'm kinda mad and I don't want to say anything I don't mean." When you're really cooled off, call him back. If he wants to talk about the fight, go ahead. But do it calmly. There mightve been some mistakes you made, so own up to them.

Hope that helped =]
-dee

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ok so my friends ex boyfriend likes me. and i like him. we never met. its along story not going into detail. well were meeting sometime this week. and well i was just wondering what do i do? like what should we talk about? where should we go? and i hope my friend doesnt leave. because im gonna be so lost. what do i do? and my friend is cool with me going out with him because well i mean just in case we get to that point. so dont say i shouldnt.

I know you're prob. annoyed with me saying this...but youre def. sure she's ok with it?
If she told u she is she prob. is, cuz thats wut happened with me and my friend and everything was fine.

Anyway, why don't you guys qo catch a movie? A movie is the best thing because you don't necessarily have to talk. But some things you could talk about are things he would be interested. Its a fact that people LOVE to talk about themselves, so ask him questions. Like if he's into any sports, play any instruments, what kind of music he listens to, and if he's in any after school clubs. Conversation is sure to start, and he'll probably ask what youre into too. Don't just say, "Oh, i dont kno. everything i gess". Without sounding concieted tell him everything you're into. But make sure both of you get fair amount of talking time.

If you guys are really having a good time, go to get something to eat after the movie.

Hope you guys have fun =]
-dee

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my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.

who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?

=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted

how can i tell him how much he means to me?

Well, sorry but you did overreact. Maybe you were threatning to break up with him because you wanted some more of his love and attention? I think that might've been it. So, I think you should either (a) write him a note saying you are sorry and it wasn't the right thing to do. Also include that he means so much to him, and you miss him. Also let him know that u want some more of his attention(if thats the reason) and if he loves you, then he will definatly show you more attention. (b) talk to him on tha fone, and say the same thing.
Some people just find it easier to write out what theyre feeling instead of saying something stupid in an argument by accident.
However, if he doesn't accept your apology, let him get over it and cool down. Once you think hes over it, mayb IM him just to talk about whatever. If you feel that the connection is still there, try talking to him again.

I hope that helped.
-dee.

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ok theres a guy in my class. he's soooooo annoying and stupid and obnoxious and I think he might like me! EEW! i have absolutely NO affection for him not even in a friend way. so if he tries to ask me out how should i let him down?? like some phrases or whatever to reject him.

I know how you feel, i've been in the same position before. It would be best to just let him down gently, and don't get other people involved. When he asks you out very gently say,"Well, I dont see us as a couple so I'm going to have to say no. Sorry."
Don't feel bad saying it because going out with him pretending to like him and then eventually breaking up with him would be worse. Thats what my friend did and well, ill just say it turned out BAD.

So just let him down gently and don't lie to him sayin " I see us more as frends" if you really dont see him as a frend at all.

Hope that helped =]
-Dee

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okay, i never had a boyfriend before up until last week. he's coming over sometime in the next few days. i think we're watching a movie but anyways. there's a few problems.

1. my dad doesn't like the fact that i'm dating guys and he'll probably say no. how can i convince him to get to know him? my boyfriend is probably one of the sweetest guys in the world..i just don't know how to get my dad too give it a chance.
2. how can i make this night, not so boring? like, i've never been kissed before or anything, and i don't know what he's expecting of me. so we watch a movie, and then what? board games?
3. does everyone feel so insecure when they start dating? or is just me?

please help.

Thats what i felt lik a few months ago! I got my first real boyfriend and my dad really didnt like me dating him. But, at the time i had no cell so he had to call my house and my dad would answer. He was very polite and made general conversation such as, how are you? and then kindly asked to speak with me. So have him try that and it may win your dad over.

Don't be in a rush to kiss him. After you watch the movie, put on some music and just hang out like you would do with your friends, but like different. You guys will start to talk and im sure you'll have a good time. If you're still insecure about it. For the first couple of times ask your friends(boys and girls) to come over, and it will weaken the stress. But, after a while you two will be totally comftorable with eachother.

Of course everyone feels insecure, it mite be a tad awkward at first, as it is for a lot of people, but don't worry time will pass and you guys will be totally comftorable with eachother.

Hope that Helped!!
-dee

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