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im court, i am sweet. i love to be happy. to smile. i love my boyfriend jonathon. i love my bestie krystal. i have a freakish obession with jared leto& jensen ackles. they are sooo sexy. gah.. :) i love rock music, i hate hate hate country music& paris hilton. i look up to tyra banks, i think she is amazing, &what she's accomplished in life already is incredible. i attend college @ kent state..
any other q's just ask me dolls! :)

advice

okay so my absolute BEST friend lets call her lola. Is kinda getting me mad

EVERY BOY IN THE WORLD IS IN LOVE WITH HER!!
and it just gets me so sad :[
cause no one ever liked me. =\ besides in 5th grade, and i am now in 8th.

she is SOO pretty, skinny and funny
and i just wish i could be like her.
i want boys to like me too =\ but they never will.

and i just met this kid and i was starting to like him. then i introduce them and he asks her out and she said yes ( she didnt know i liked him )
its like whats wrong with me?
why can she get EVERY guy?
i wish i could be just like that.
but i never will =\
help ?

well firstly, you can't let someone else like you if you don't like yourself. you need to be more confident and strong. have faith that a guy will soon come your way and be interested in you. you need to be more outgoing maybe, and relax. the guy for you will come along. :)

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16/f ..first boyfriend. 15/m.

i'm not very experienced with relationships.
we've been going out for a month, and this guy has already started touching me. and telling me that he loves me. and discussing future plans to have sex. and all that.
i'm a good student. well, i used to be 2 months ago. my grades have dropped. i've stopped caring about certain subjects. i can keep a steady, mediocre gpa..but...its just NOT enough for me, you know? i just turned 16. i want to know what to do with my life. all this new overwhelming attention from a boyfriend...is..well...overwhelming...

and im not in love with him. i dont even "love" him. i think i just like his attention. i'm very attracted to him. i know this is very bad. but maybe not as bad..since i get this feeling..that he's using me just to let go of some of him horniness [according to half of my friends...] i even catch myself flirting with other guys.
i dont want to do something foolish with a guy...and give myself away to a guy that doesn't even like me for me. that i dont even "love". even though...it's probably not "love". there is no love at this age, i guess...

and, even for this ONE month...SO much has changed. i've gone from socially-challenged quiet/shy girl...to this social butterfly...a newborn.

but i dont care for these social gatherings of friends and my boyfriend anymore. they make me sick now. i want my shy and quiet life back. i don't know what to do.

if i break up with him, i know i'll be really heartbroken. he probably wont care though [maybe he will]. but im just really clingy like that, ive noticed...towards anything.
so. i don't know..


thank you so much in advance.

it sounds like you're afraid you're losing the old person you use to be. the person you knew. change isn't always a bad thing. and social gatherings are a good thing. you can still make time for yourself though. to think, do what you want to do, alone. i get that, it's calming and peaceful..

now with this boy, if you feel he is pressuring you in any way, you need to tell him and ask him to stop. tell him what you've told me, you're grades have dropped and it just isn't you, and you aren't okay with it. you have to make this happen. and clearly you aren't ready for sex, so make it clear to him that it isn't going to happen. and you've only been dating a month, so i know you aren't inlove, like you said. he shouldn't even be telling you that he loves you yet. atleast not until the third month of your relationship. don't say it until you're ready. it isn't right for him to be pushing you, to do or feel anything. so have a long talk.. make him understand. and listen to your friends, they see you so they know what's going on. and if this guy doesn't respect you and what you want then he isn't worth dating. even though you'd get hurt, you knew that was possible going into the relationship it's a chance you took. good luck and godbless. any other q's just ask me dear. :)

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16f.
im not bi or anything but i know a girl who is and like evry time i talk to her she likes a new person... he even likes 4 ppl at once and i dont get how she can... i stuck up for her when ppl were calling her a slut and saying shit about her but now im begging to think she is a slut like cos she goes out with one person and likes another and she will break up with a them and have another boy/girl friend the next week... is she a slut? im not bi i no im not... but i keep thinking about her like since i saw her last but im not sure why...?

do i like her cos i that she would probably break my heart if i did anything about this... i dont think i like her cos im not bi and i never have been. so i dnt get what is going on...?!

you might not think you're bi but just because you haven't been before doesn't mean it can't or won't happen. maybe try considering it. and you shouldn't call your friend a slut- or any girl for that matter. it just makes it okay for guys to do it, and it's not. and she just might want to experience things and change her mind a lot. is she actually doing sexual things with these people she dates? ifso, then i wouldn't trust liking her in that way- i know ou said you don't i'm just saying. but just be careful.

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OK should i be stressing if my bf is talking to his EX? ANd cause he's trying to hide it from me. ( trust me I know) And if so, what do I do?

you need to be blunt about this straight up ask him. and you should be annoyed, your entitled to that. he tried keeping it from you- no matter the reason he was in the wrong. you don't need to be worried unless he say's he still has feelings for her though. just keep a heads up on his where-abouts. and tell him he makes matters worse when he hides things from you. it makes you worry even more about the situation. he wouldn't enjoy it if you did that- tell him that also, then maybe there won't be a next time.

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ok. my mom found out my bf and i have been having sex. Now she's giving the cnstant guilt trip. I mean, I'm sorry if I hurt her, but the ONLY reason I kept it from her to begin with is because OF this. So what do I do, HOw do I clear that acward feeling?

this topic is never going to be normal with any child and parent. it just isn't. time will help, things just need to blow over. let her have her space and you have yours. then when the air clear maybe try explaining that it's your decision to make, and you can't change it and why you didn't want to tell her in the first place. things will be rough for a little while, but they will get better. good luck-godbless.

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me and my boyfriend might make out tomorow. we never have before, and i need help! tips greatly appreciated!!!

brush your teeth before- i'm serious, making out can get gross if one partner has nasty breath. consider breath mints or mouthwash.

don't be so nervous, be calm and yourself, it's something new to you and it's fun. so relax.

:) good luck.

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Well v-day is coming up soon. && I have nooo idea what to get my boyfriend, we have been together for a year and a half now. I already got him a ring and a necklace, so I have no idea what to get him. Ideas?
&& his birthday is in march. Ideas??

try making him a scrapbook. cute pictures of you two, and objects that have meanings to you guys. or make try cooking for him for the night, light some candles, just a low key thing. :)


goooooodluck!

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next month is v-day i want to make something SPEACIAL for my long time relationship boyfriend, get any idea? i want make him something that he will never forgot and touch his heart forever, we been together 8 month which is my first time long time relationship. he been so good to me. pls help me.

well one year for valentines day..
i made my boyfriend a cute scrapbook of us.
a bunch of old pictures and new pictures of us together. a movie ticket from our first date.
just cute little things like that. and you can keep adding to it over the months you're together, it's a nice reminder of things that you two experienced.


or make him a really cute vday card. write him a letter inside tell him how wonderful he is. and how he touches your heart everyday.


hope i helped! :) goodluck-godbless dear.

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