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hi im candi i would love to try and get an advise columm started at our school but i wanted to try the roops on here first....im gonna take all kinds of questions but i would especially like one particulated towards relationships.....im a huge activist and know some french so i can even help with homework lol...and ive been through my share of heartbreak and just obsurdly crazy things so nothing and i mean nothing is off limits ask me anything im not here to judge and believe me i wont!

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whens a good time to give a hickey?
while making out? and wears good places to give hickeys to a guy?

some good times to give a hickey are anytime your alone together or anytime your in the mood or anytime your making out.
on there necks
on there chests
on there wrists
on there hips if your mouth happens to go that low
if not o well

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My boyfriend is a cheerleader and I have a really hard time not getting jealous. I trust him not to cheat on me but it still concerns me that he is always with these beautiful cheer girls (you know the stereotype of most cheer girls). I don't wanna talk to him about it because I don't want to seem controlling or jealous and want to be supportive of him. Any advice?

id ask him things so he dosnt know your prying
lol spying ya
but id be like do you and any of the girls talk
you could always become friends with them too
or even become a cheerleader to spend more time together

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i am 16 and a soffomore girl. theres two guys i kind of like one is 15 the other is 18. are either of thoes like wrong? i want an older guy because im sick of immature ones. the older one is in the sport that is my passion with me but the younger one is in theater with me and goes to my school. which should i go for? and any pros and cons would be greatly appreciated :)

if it was me i would choose the 18 year old the 15 year old is probably not mature enough to handle you plus it will be nice to have A guy that drives. the other thing is what are you more pationet about the sport or the theatre because if you choose the theatre then it dosnt work out with the 15 year old boy ul be stuck around him all the time!!!!

:) hope this helps
i greatly appreciate comments and statuses im tryin to make mentor status =}

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i lyk my friend and she knos im bi sexual and I THINK SHE LIKES ME TO I SEMI FLIRT WIT HER AND SHE DNT GET MAD WAT SHOULD I DO

first off i would find out if shes bi
if she is then she prolly dose like you
i would start flirting more
like doin more serious flirting
hug her
hold her hand
hold her
kiss her forehead
i think you should text her and test the field be like do you think so and so is hot
if she thinks girls are hot just start playin it up
chances are if shes trying to decide her feelings shell want to date a friend first so yahhh
girls can be confusing though so just take your time

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i was getting fingered by my boyfriend that i am very much in love with, later i walked him to the door and he noticed he had some crusty shit on his fingeres he used earlier. is that normal or am i just extremely nasty? and how do i prevent it from happening again?

thats completely normal
when he was doin that u got "wet"
and that wetness got on his fingers
when it drys up it becomes crusty like that
its not u
your not nasty
just next time have him wash his hands after words
but once again it has somethin to do with you
or bein nasty
in fact the wetter you get the healthier you are
soooo
your normal not nasty!

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im 14/male and i think im gay for awhile now ive been attracted to guys and i really like a guy were friends we hang out a lot together
and ive developed strong feelings for him im a bit nervous and not sure how to tell him how i feel i think he likes me so do i just talk to him im worried if he rejects me and i dont want it to get out i might get picked on what should i do?

1st off is he gay? if he is then chances are he likes you too its hard to find people you like and are gay at that age....if he is gay or if you think he is bi and will except you then id just tell him flat out when the moments right id prolly tell him a few weeks before that you trust him and think your gay because your attracted to guys and your not really sure what to do if he reacts badly you can always take it back but that would be denying who you are and you should never do that but if he is a good friend and even kinda worthy of being your man then hell understand

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How many days does a woman ovulate? Is there a calculator or something you can use to figure it out?

it depends on the woman it could very from 4 to 7 days normally around 5....she could have a very heavy flow for 3 days then light for two or three it just depends on the woman

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I need some tips from the girls. Are there any special techniques that you use when you're making out with a guy? ILL RATE

touch her face
pull her on your lap
play with her hair
gentle tugs can be fun
move her body around like move her legs over yours
hold her hands behind you
put a mint in your mouth
or poprocks
or hershey kisses
rub her back
even if your not to the ima touch your boobs phase yet shell still like it if you play with her bra straps thats also a very suttle move that will eventually get you under her bra (just sayin)
depending on how old you are or how far you are in the relationship you could grind on each other too IF YOUR LIKE AT LEAST 14
ummmm if you need anything else ask
candi4545

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I feel a bit embarrassed because I am a good 21 years older than most of you, so I feel kinda stupid. I got married a long time ago when I was only 19 to a guy who was in the Marine Corps and he physically abused me for 2 1/2 years, so I am no stranger to being abused. I just want this guy to see how much I love him and that I would do anything for him. Hopefully he will realize it soon before things get way out of hand. My family and friends already know that he is abusive and I have to listen to their lectures about why I should get out and that they don't understand why I am in that relationship. It's seriously hard to explain, but he kinda reminds me of my dad the way he is always putting me down, calling me names, being so negative and condescending, how everything I do is wrong. He calls me a dumb B****, a stupid B****, and a worthless B****, and not to mention he calls me his whore. I tried to break it off a few weeks ago with him and he accused me of sleeping with someone else and wouldn't take "no it's over" as an answer. i just feel stuck right now. I shouldn't be complaining since I put myself where I am.
Thanks for your comment and advice, i appreciate that someone cares so much.

it dosnt matter if your fourty or 14 every girl knows what it like to give yourself to someone completely to love someone so much you dont see any other way than being with them no matter what thre flaws are...as women we naturally feel like we can take over the world and change anyone....i honeatly believe people CAN change....but in cases of abuse and cheating it rarely happens if you really love him and he really loves you, you should try conciling and anger managemnt on his part i know no one in the world ever wants to go to a therapist but it seems to be the only way he can get the help that he needs even if you dont stay together....when you were married before there is one good thing that came out of it you WERE STRONG, you were strong enought o leave and strong enough to love yourself more...sadly abuse in the marines and army with spouses is very real and if you were still with him id suggest a support group even one online...the problem with abuse i that it rarely gets better statistics show if it gets to the point of abuse were you get broken bones and such the next step is for him to KILL YOU....thats bad...i know it may seem easy to seem worthless but your not...not at all...now to the hes like your father thing that right there is a leap in the right direction just form thinkin about it yourself youve madee a conection that would have taken some people years in therapy to grasp...we idolize our parents no matter what they do my father is a rageing alchoholic i havnt seen him not drunk in at least three months and he lives with us..but i still love him...we love our parents because its incoded into our minds from the time were born there the two people that will always be there to help you but that isnt exactly true now is it...so we then look for people just like our parents to date and so the cycle continues...i understand why your in the relationship but you can do better and you do deserve better if hes not willing to get help to be with you then why dose he deserve your love?....then we have the he wont take no as an anwser thing the real problem with that is that
a. you didnt tell him clearly enough
or
b. hes gonna become a stalker
im serious men that dont take no for an anwser will follow you around and just do crazy things he has anger issues already if you need to get help from the police DO IT!!!!
and you can complain all you want its not exactly your fault...

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I am prganent by my ex boyfriend,and he does not want the baby and does not want to be with me...what should i do??

sadly he dose have the choice on whether or not he wants to be in the babys life or even your boyfriend but he dose not have the choice to not pay you child support get him for all hes worth hunny...and they say there never really daddy til they hold there baby so he could always change his mind at the last second...there are other things you need to consider here to do YOU want the baby....abortion are legal in almost all the states....and adoption is another good option to look at....i think one thing you need to start focusing on though is you and that baby because whether or not hes in your life if you keep it it will be for the rest of your life there is an itty bitty creature about to come out of you and you have to think about whats best for it....maybe hel change his mind boys are like that

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