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MY name is Lindsey im 16 and i love to give ppl advice. I'm all about being open minded and not judging others and whatever question you have i will answer to the best of my ability.

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so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do? I dont think I wuold take him back but as selfish as this is I would just like him to say he made a mistake and want me back so I can say no, you missed your chance.

about a year ago the same thing happend to me i got my haert crushed. im not going to tell u form here on it will be easier becasue honestly and truthfully it really wont. yes seeing him in school will hurt and it takes a long time to get over someone you really cared about it took me about a year and im so happy im over him. i know it hurts and you always want to cry and your sad your not the gurl hes dateing. when i had almost completely been over him a couple months ago and i thought i was fine he told me he liked me again and it all started over. give him some time and if you know that he'll definatly not go back out wiht you keep your distance so he wont hurt you keep your distance until you know you can deal with it and you know your strong this is what i did i know it sound really hard to do but it helps trust me becasue then they cant hurt you again and make you sink further in the hole! well i hope i help rate please and if you ever need to talk my e-mail is wjpool@aol.com and aim s/n is wjpool
i undertsnad completely and im sorry you have to go through it
hope i help
-lindsey

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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

ok you are in so way slutty being a slut is like doing this stuff with like so many diffrent guys. and people may say that 12 is a very young age but im 13 right now (almost 14) and what is to say are are to young and you are inmature i know ur not yes you may be young but there are allot more peopl out there doing this stuff and much worse im not in anyway saying this is right but dont feel so guilty just know not to do it agian if you dont want to. learn from your mistake dont feel horrible ok. if you dont want to do it again they its simple dont ok but if you feel its ok no one can stop you ok well im sorry if you feel like a slut bcasue your not well i hope i helped ttyl good luck*!!!!
-lindsey

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do u think that i should kiss my bf or wait until he kisses me? I am very lost but what should i do?

PLEASE HELP

really honestly ive been through this SO MUCH if you feel he really wants to kiss you and you really want to kiss him just maybe give it some time. i mean theres nothin wrong with you makeing the move becasue some guys are really shy and need to be shown that you want it. maybe they think you have have a mixed signal or something you show them you want it then they will feel better to make teh next move.
hope i helped you and i hope it made sense

-lindsey

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I am a 19/f,I met dat guy online 2 months ago he gave me his number,I called him the same day Sinca dat day we keep on talkin we talk until 2 or 3 in da mornin we don't know each other but we send each other pictures.He keeps on tellin me dat he loves me and he wanna married me ,and the way he talks to me make feel that he is not lying. Do you think that relationship will last?

ok nobody can stop you from seeing this guy but if you are going to see this guy take percations and not just that but befor thinking about marriage i would meet the guy first and take your time take it slow there no need to rush into things becasue after its all said and done it it wll all be worht it weather it turns out bad or good. i think it could turn out good and it could turn out bad but thats how it is with everything im not going to tell u not to see him but TAKE PERCATIONS meet him in a public area have a friend watching by do what ever you can ok. becasue its cyber space it could be anybody. and its not true that your not ready for a relashonship just based on your age if you think your ready your the only one who can determine that my cousins got married at the age of 18 and are SO HAPPY it happens allot ok so just if anything be SAFE!!!!!!!
well i hope i helped
-lindsey

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I'll try to make this short and simple. I dated this guy (adam) over a year ago, it didnt work out. The other night I went bowling with some friends and he was there with his best friend (kyle). it was awkawrd, and kyle and I never really talked even when I dated adam, but he wanted to help me talk to adam so we could atleast be freinds. I got home that night and I talked to kyle online. We found out we have ALOT in common, and we already know alot about eachother , and eacothers relationships. So we talked ALL night till 4 am, and found out we had a connecton. so Kyle asked adam how he would feel if he (kyle) and I would date,, Adam got furious and said he wouldnt talk to kyle nemore. So we are torn between, dating and hiding it from him and seeing if it works out and then tel him. or not dating because kyle could lose his best friend hes had forever.. So i dunt know what We should do.. ne suggestions?

i think that you should care about adams feelings but you also have to do what you have to do. becasue finding that person is really hard to do and kyle might be that person and he might now but why take the chance on kyle maybe being your chance on true love you key to being happy so at this point if you like kyle enough GO FOR IT!!!!!!

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How do I prove to my girlfriend that I like her more? Everytime I say I do, she says "Prove it." So i'm out to find a way tp prove it.

yea i mean its not so much on buying things for her but maybe right her a love letter telling her all this sweet stuff and do something really special with her like take a romantic walk ro soemthing like this and when she says prove it shes not really asking you to spoil her shes asking you to kiss her or make out with her but not just in a normal way and a sweet little touch to it well hope that works
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My boyfriend and i have been going out since april 1st and yeah hes aazing well, i found out he smokes weed so i yelled at him the first time he promised he would not smoke but of course he did and told me so then he dtiched me one time to go smoke ssaying that he was going to meet up with his friends when right before he promised me a million times he wouldnt. well now i dont know what to do he keeps breaking his promises with me. yeah i do give him credit for tellin me the truth but i dont want him doing that and he knows that. what should i do next time he breaks my promise. should i let him go or what?

first you need to truly now how much he likes you smoking weed and things like that are hard to stop so u cant exactly blame him it is hard yes but its addictive you need to be a supporte sysetem and dowhatever you can to help him it seems liek you guys like each other and when two people like each other enough they are there good times and bad
hope i helped
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So I have a guy friend that I've been close with for pretty much all of high school and had an on/off crush for him. Well, I recently broke up with my boyfriend, partially because of this guy, but he doesn't know it. I just feel really close with him and can tell him everything. We just have this chemistry where we feel comfortable whenever we're together.
Just a few weeks ago, another girl told him that she likes him, but he doesn't really want a long term thing with her. I talked to him about it and he said he might hook up with her though because he figured there was no one else interested. I wanted to tell him that I like him but I just feel like it's too soon for him to have another girl friend say she likes him. We're graduating soon and I'd figured I'd tell him then but he's already taking this other girl to prom and I feel like I'll lose my chance if I don't let him know.
The other thing is that a lot of people in our grade have been asking if we're going out lately and it just makes it harder for me because by reinforcing to other people we're not going out, I keep saying to his face "No, I don't like you...we're just friends" when that's not really what I feel.

Could someone just help me figure out if he likes me or not and if I should let it go or tell him?

you know what u just need to take a chance it sounds hard to do but hey in the end u will feel much better about it and i relize it very hard to do but it sounds like you two really hit it off and if theres one thing i know personally its to not let it go and go for it if he likes you then you two should be really happy and if not well then you know and if he is your friend he wont be weirded out and hell understand if anything no matter what you guys have at least a good friendship going for you so just take a chance

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What does "friends with benefits" mean

basically to have the benifits of a boy friend or girl friend but just be a friend and have no connention hope i helped

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hey my boyfriend and i have been talking about making out lately. i gave him this website to show him all the tips that someone posted. he says he doesnt just like to make out. and he says he uses tongue. i dont think im mature enough to use tongue yet...i think,...its gross.. no offence for all u people who french kiss. but i dont want to french kiss just yet. hes made out with a ton of girls before. ive never made out before. any help? thanks!

if you dont think your ready then dont rush your self tlak to him about it if he likes you enough he will wait for you and just go by what you are comfortable with and dont feel weird about not makeing out with any one i know you will feel weird but relax and let him take the lead any way if it with someone you really like everything it right
hope i helped

-lindsey

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Hey im 13/f and pretty much everyone kissed a guy but me. Yea i know im still young its just ive been thinking about it more and more lately. I know I'm ready for it i keep playing scenes in my head of how perfect it will be. Its bugging me because its ALWAYS on my mind and i keep dreaming about it. I know Im not gonna kiss anyone soon so how do I keep all of these thoughts out? Its kind of a weird question I know but if you can help that would be great =). I rate 5's for good advice.


Thanks

dont rush it trust me and almost every teenage girl goes through this and dont worry about gettting those images out of your head they should be special for you to think of your special moment dont worry its natural and enjoy it all while you can i hop ei helped

-lindsey

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i gave a guy my number a couple days ago, and he called that night, and the next two days. we have had a really good time talking. he said we should hang out today, and said he'd call around noon. he didnt call until 5'o clock and i didnt pick it up because i was kinda mad that he didnt call when he said he would. but really, i do want to talk to him. should i call him back or wait for him to call again?

dont stress over it he proably had a good reason but he called you bacj didnt he that should count for a big something well just give him a call

-lindsey

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How do I ask this guy that I really like who I talk to a lot in school to hang out? I think he suspects that I like him a little but I just want to hang out with him.

just comely ask him to hang out with u something small you dont want to pull him in too far but it seems like you like him sometime you just have to take a chance it should pay off
hope i ehlp

-lindsey

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Alright, to start things off, I have been dating my current boyfriend for three years in May, and I love him very much.

But the thing is, I'm getting recurring feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We had been best friends forever, as long as I could remember, before I fell hard for him. I broke up with him because I suspected he didn't really like me--it turns out he did. Anyway, he now has a girlfriend. I feel like I still love him, and I can't remember whether I even really stopped loving him or not.

I don't want to hurt the guy I'm with, because I love him as well! I honestly don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

20/f

im almost in the excact same postion and the truth is if you liked ur ex that much you might not get over him for awhile but that doesnt make it unfair for your current boy friend becasue you still care about him alout but the thing is your ex has a girl friend and you have a boyfriend just keep telling your self that you wouldntwant to break up with your botfriend if you cared about him that much and haveing feelings for both is ok i know at times it seems unfair but the fact is you like you boyfriend that you have now tooo.
i hope this made sence or i hope i helped

-lindsey

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