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Photobucket" align=left hspace=10> Allooooo~ well to start off...I go by as Dennise and giving advice is what I'm here to do and I plan to provide whatever assistance I can offer to the best of my abilities.

I've had my share of ups-and-downs (don't we all) and I'm more than willing enough to help those that ask.

In fair warning: I won't give answers that are "gusshied with sprinkles on top" (or whatever things that that line follows). I will be blunt if the situation calls for it...either you take the honest words or brush it off and go search for a lie~ all in all, it's entirely your choice.
Advice is simply there for people to brood and consider over, not a forceful act.

So feel free to ask me whatever you wish to be answered and the advice shall slide over these keyboards~ ^-^


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hello,
my name is lacey and i have been with the same guy since the 3rd grade lol. im almost 15 and there is this guy who i heard liked me and i kinda like him to. one night he invited me and my mother to dinner with him and his grandparents. but he actually just wanted me to come. now that i started talking to him he hasnt said another word to me. what should i do?

Hi there Lacey. ^-^

Well, it wouldn't hurt to ask him why he's not saying a word to you. You don't have to nudge him for the answer if he doesn't feel like explaining it. He'll eventually tell you what's bothering him after he knows that you're worried. Yeah, guys ARE confusing, hehe, but I guess it's what makes them interesting~

Good luck! =3

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my girlfriend is comeing over soon n shes sick so she doesnt think we should makeout bc she doesnt want me to get sick, but im diein for her to again! how can i convince her its ok?

Well it'd be best to wait a little till she gets better...I mean, it really would cause a lot of discomfort for the both of you if you guys make out while she's sick.
Think of it that it's a good way that she's at least thinking about you so you won't get sick. It'd be fair to your girlfriend if you wait for her to get better.
No need to rush~ take it slow and easy. And if she's coming over, just take care of her if she's not feeling well. She'll love that for sure ^-^!

Hoped this helped a little! =3

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so there is this really cute guy in my school and i really quite like him. he's a year above me though and we never really talked before. so we go home on the same bus and like yesterday he kept glancing at the clothe I'm wearing and smiled at the stickers on my bag :D LOL and today on the bus he looked a bit down at first and usually I'M the one being down because i'm a bit emoish sometimes. so anyways i just couldnt stop smiling because he was just sitting there so cute and then he started to smile as well but he never looked directly at me. he was kind of "talking" to a few girls so i thought he was smiling because of them but then when they talked to him he didnt even notice so he wasnt listening at all :P but im still not sure if he likes me. i mean i can see him always turning around to look at me when he thinks i cant see him. like for examply i keep seing him in windows when hes behind me because it mirrors and he always turnes around. :] but then when i meet him in the hallway or something he just ignores me. or when I'm looking at him and i mean i really want him to see that i like him but how am i supposed to make that happen if he always looks away? i also really wanna talk to him already but i'm really shy and so is he obviously :S

Aww! Sorry but this was a very cute paragraph to read. ^^

But anyway, all I can say is take a step and say hi or...something random to him. Yeah yeah, sometimes shyness gets the best of everyone and you get embarrassed..but don't be! That's how greetings usually are when meeting someone new~ maybe once you've said your hello to him you can just do a simple compliment about him like "oh, I like your shirt," or, "that's a really cool book bag you have there where'd you get?" (well, nothing that drastic but you can say something along those lines xD)!
Before you know it, you'll be in a never-ending conversation.

Be brave to take that step if you want to know him! Keep that smile for him and I'm sure you'll be doing great!

Hope this was of some help~ Good Luck! =3

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ok, this guy asked me out and i think he's pretty cute and i used to have a crush on him. The only thing is he asked me out over myspace and at first i thought it was a sincere question but im starting to doubt it and i think it was someone doing it as a joke...how do i find out if it was really him or just one of his friends playing around?

Find a good time to maybe meet up with him, or talk to him over the phone. Ask him all the questions that you want to know. Don't be afraid of what his answers going to be. I wish you luck! =3

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Okay so ive been dating this guy on and off for the past year and 4 months. We have had some pretty bad issues that lead to our break ups but we've worked through them all i guess. I've always felt great wen i was with him and like everything was perfect, excluding when we were fighting.. Except out last break up we spent 5 months apart and we both dated 2 other people before we got back together. Now that we're back together (Mind u this is the 6th time we have got back together) i thought everything would be great again, cuz well i love this kid and this is what ive wanted the whole time we were apart.. Butt i guess i was wrong.. Wen we got back together he just seemed to be more controlling and really distant.. it even feels weird to talk to him on the fone. I tryed to talk to him about it the other day and he told me he kinda thought the same thing but he didnt know wut to do about it and well neither do i. Also lately i found myself starting to get feelings for someone else.. Friends ive asked for advice told me that maybe we shouldnt be together. Im so confused, please help.

I would have to agree with your friends' advice. If you and the guy your dating now feel as if though your feelings for each other aren't as strong as they used to be, then maybe it's better off to just remain as friends at least. And since you both talked about your relationship now (which I think was a great thing to do ) and feel the same way about it, then it's best for the both of you to move on.
Hoped this helped!

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Okay, so I've been a little depressed lately. Pretty much all of my friends have boyfriends or guys like them, and it seems like I'm the only one who doesn't .. and the thing I can't figure out is why no guys like me. Guys always seem to be interested in my friends and act like I'm invisible. I mean, I'm really nice(maybe overly nice at times) and I'm not selfish, unlike half the girls at my school, and alot of people tell me I'm really pretty. But, the thing is, I think I'm too mature for my own good and I'm not into drama or being all ditzy and loud to get a guy to like me .. but it seems like the loud conceited girls have guys. I feel like there's something wrong with me. I don't know, I just feel like no one really notices me and no matter how hard I try, every single guy I like always says, "Sorry, we're just friends." Ugh, should I just give up and not try so hard to find someone, or do something different for some guy to like me? Because it seems like I'm never good enough for anyone. Any advice? Thanks.

Yeah I know what you mean. I've gone through the same situation as you. But you kind of have to realize that the relationships your friends have with those guys would honestly last like a couple of days and it's over... it's just plain stupid cause it's not like a real relationship to start off. You can't really force a guy to like you also. Just be who you truly are and someday someone will love you for just being yourself. Don't try to be something who you aren't because it'll just make you miserable in the end. And hey, if you want to be loved, you should love yourself first. Love your true self and just find confidence in yourself, it's a step.
I hope this advice helped a little at least. =3

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my gf just broke up with me and she wants to be really close friends.

my Q is, how do i prove to her that i can be a great boyfriend instead of just a friend

Well since she JUST broke up with you...you'll just have to continue on as being her friend as she asked for. Don't rush the relationship you both have agreed on now and give it some time. I'm sure it's tough for you to hold back your actual feelings for her but be also considerate of how she might feel if you brought up about being a great boyfriend for her. As long as your still her friend who she can still lean on, then it's enough to at least keep that bond you both share now.

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My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a week or two. We're pretty good friends, though. He's straight edge. I, however, am not; I drink casually and smoke from time to time. He doesn't know this. I'm pretty sure he'd be mad at me if he ever knew I had tried it. I really enjoy his company and talking to him, so I don't want to break up over something like this, but I don't want to start off our relationships with secrets. What should I do?

It'd be best to tell your boyfriend about the truth. Keeping your secrets silent from the person you care about will hurt you more because you would start feeling a little bit guilty for not saying anything. But when you tell him the truth, he'll come to love you more because you were honest to him and you trusted him. When you're together with someone, you both should be able to trust one another no matter what.
It's hard to pour it out, but think of how it'd be a relief to say it. =3

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