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The dance isn't until February. The next dance coming up is the Valentine's dance. But I'm still dying to ask him. Is there anything that he'll do if he likes me that will tell me for sure that he likes me? Any more?

Well I mean I told you mostly what he would do.. he hasnt shown you any signs yet?? Well all I can really say is its really good if you start out as best friends to ensure that nothing will go wrong if you do go out. I think that you should have a friend talk to him and you should maybe hint to him that you like him. You should also talk to him about the dance early so that another girl doesnt ask him first... it sucks when that happens... Ok hope I helped &hearts
~Becki~

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I want to have sex with my boyfriend but he doesn't even live in my state and i love him but im only 16 and idk if he'll cheat on me if i dont have sex with him im worried he'll cheat but i love him withall my heart and i think im ready i just dont wanna get pregnant or stds...help.

I dont think it is a good idea to have sex with your boyfriend because you are only sixteen and it doesnt sound like you have a very healthy relationship since you are worried about cheating on eachother. I think that you should talk to him about having sex a lot before you actually do to make sure that you are both ready. Sex is a big thing and it shouldnt be taken lightly. If you are not absolutely positive you are ready dont do it. When you have sex make sure that you USE A GOOD CONDOM with no rips. And i would also be on the pill just to make sure that you do not get ready. Remember sex comes along with a lot of emotional stuff ... all i can say is.. make sure you are ready! &hearts

~Becki~

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Okay me and my x b/f went out for like 3 months.. and even thou that doesn't seem like that long it really was.. we really had something.. but i feel like i screwed it all up bc towards tha end i wasnt really acting like his gf and stuff.. but now its been like 2 months and i still like him sooo much.. and i wanna know how he feels but i dont wanna ruin our friendship that we have by mentioning something so what do i do?? and i know that if we went out again then i would change everything.. but plz HELP!

Hey .. i had the same problem.. I went out with this guy named mike and it lasted a little longer and we broke up... because we werent really doing anything.. and when we broke i realized how much i liked him.. and i kept liking him for a while.. but i was too afraid to ask him.. now i feel like i missed out on something that could have been really good. So i suggest that you talk to him. Maybe you could have a friend ask him what he thinks of you so that when you talk to him you wont feel like an idiot if he doesnt feel the way. But i say GO FOR IT. I hope I helped and I hope that it works out.. keep me updated &hearts &hearts &hearts

~Becki ~

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Okay , I like this guy, and he just told me that he likes me too, we have a problem. Me and him arent sure if we should start dating because Im friends with his sister, and his sister will NEVER buy the fact that me and him were dating...and we wouldnt be able to tell our parents because we wanna have sleep overs and stuff, but i mean we dont plan on doing anything at the sleep overs, we just wanna see each other because we live an hour away from each other, but anyways, my question is, should we date behind his sisters back or tell her with the fact we both know shes not gonna buy the whole thing...???

help :(

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Well secret relationships don't really work so I would tell her and if she is a good friend she will probably understand. But if she gets really freaked out or something i think that you should go out with this guy because having a good friendship is soo much more important than having a boyfriend because i have seen way too many times that when bf/gf break up they are complete enemies. Hope I helped!

~Becki~

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Theres this boy I like, Josh. I have liked him since the school year started and we've been flirting like crazy. My friends say that he's really crushin on me because when other guys flirt with me, he gets all bothered and defensive. All my friends keep asking me if me and him are going out yet and even my TEACHER(gym class, only class I have with Josh) asks me and Josh continually if me and Josh are boyfriend/girlfriend. He even told us to get married over the weekend. Everyone thinks me and him like each other and are either going to, or are secretly going out. Now, even after all this, I was and kind of still am unsure of his feelings. I know he flirts with me a lot and he acts differently around me than around girls. Since the beginning of the year, too. Thats about 4½ months. We talk on the phone and he's just sweet and funny and goofy around me. Now, what I want to do is ask him to the dance coming up but I don't know how to exactly ask him so that I won't be directly letting him know I like him but still letting him know I do, in a way. If that makes sense. I mean, in a way, where, if he doesn't like me like that, I can easily deny it and be believable. Im really confused about all of this and I really want to go out with him. We danced at homecoming and we already act like we go together already..I just want my daydreams to come true but I don't know what to do. How can I "test" and make sure he likes me without him getting any idea? What "signs" should I definately look out for? Any advice would be strongly appreciated. Thanks.

Hey, this guy obviously digs you, but i understand that you are feeling uncertain. If I were you and i were unsure about a guy I would just be like "you going to the dance friday?" and see what he says. If he says yes you could say i'll see u there. If he says why are you askin you could tell him that you were going and you wanted him to go to. Some signs are if you see him looking at you, if your sitting alone somehwere and he comes and sits with you when there are plenty of other girls around... you said that you talk to him on the phone a lot and that you spend a lot of time togehter... those are signs also. I hope I helped! If you have any more questions leave them in my inbox.. I would also like to hear if he went to the dance with you!

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I've been talking to this one guy named Andy for a few weeks. And he really likes me and I just don't really want a boyfriend right now and he knows that. I mean I really like him and all. But then lastnight I went with my friend to a party at her church and I met this guy named Justin...and we like clicked. I mean we started talking at like 2 and didn't stop until like 5. I really like him now...like when I was with him I was getting those little butterfly feelings and I just felt all happy and stuff. And I realized...I don't feel that way around Andy. I mean I'm not going to go out with Justin right now b/c I don't know him very well....but what do I do about Andy? thanks...

- Zero

Well i think that you should tell Andy, that you know that he likes you but you don't feel the same way about him. You're glad being friends. I mean if I had a friend that i could talk to about anything and he was a guy I woulnt go out with him because i have seen way to many times that when i guy and girl break up they stop talking to each other and they are enemies.. and i dont want that to happen to you andy. Now that you dont have to worry about andy, i would try talking to that guy a couple more times and see if you still get the butterflies.. if you do. i would say ask him out :) hope i helped!
~ Becki ~

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