my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help
You already know the answer! You are a princess and deserve to be treated that way. Why let him continue to break you down. Get out of this relationship is is unhealthy for you and YOU DO deserve more.
Until you are really with someone who treats you the right way you will never know how bad this relationship is. So go out and find the guy that WILL love and respect you for who you are.
NEVER settle when you know your worth it!
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two questions.
16. first serious relationship. ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. sometimes it feels like im just sooo in love and he's the one for me and everything and i cant be without him. but at other times it feels like theres no spark and were just friends and im ready for something new, but at the same time i dont want him with anyone else but me. whats up with that?
and also. we dont do anything! all we ever do is chill at his house watchin tv and makin out. im all for just chillin sometimes but every time? no. the problem is he doesnt want to do anything! theres nothing to do in this town except skate, bowl, movies, shop, and eat. its too cold to go to the go cart track or anything [summer stuff]. obviously were not shopping, neither of us want to skate, he claims he doesnt bowl and isnt interested, and theres no movies out and when there is he says he has no money even though i do and offered to pay cuz i wanna get outta the house but then he says he feels weird about me payin because he should be payin for me, same with goin to eat and he never wants to eat what i eat anyway. im up for like longhorn, apple bees, locos, chilis.. that stuff. "fancy" stuff according to him cuz all he eats is like burger king and yeah... ahh!
A couple of things here. First if he is boring to you just be friends and even though it would be hard let him date other people and you do the same. Everyone wants the best of both worlds but it just doesn't work that way.
Second, if he was 28 and you were 26 buying him dinner and things he would be considered a really big loser! Just because your a teenager you shouldn't settle for any less than the best! A decent guy would take you out and buy you dinner that is how it should be or at least 50/50. Your time is to important to waste with someone you are not connecting with. Talk to him about it and if it doesn't change move ahead my dear!
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well Theres This Guy we went out like in term 1 or 2 in this year and i liked him then stoped then i saw him again nd we talked and im not sure if i like him but his the player type he gets a girl and dumps her in a month so i know i shouldnt tell him cause he wont care but if i do end up liking him what should i do ??
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It sounds like you will not be surprised when he dumps you on your head if you do tell him. You already have all of the information you need. Why set yourself up for a heartbreak when the signs are right in front of you? I know there is always the tiny glimmer of hope it will be different for you, but unless he is a grown man out of his childish I am such a stud phase it is a major waste of your time.
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16-female
i'll make this short..
ive liked this guy for awhile but he has a girlfriend..whenever we hangout we always flirt and sometimes the things he says and does makes me think that he likes me or is attracted to me but hes always talking about how much he loves his girlfriend. but he has taken over my heart
Okay, you may not like this advice but I really think you need to listen. He is totally playing you. He obviously knows that you like him and likes to play with fire when his gf is not around. I have seen this a million times. He is not going to break up with her for you or he already would have. The best thing for you to do is move on. I am sure you are smart and pretty enough to catch the attention of someone who will appreciate and respect you.
I can promise you that the luckiest girl ever did not wait around 6 months for some guy to mess with her head. The luckiest girl ever would have enough self respect to know she deserves better and move on.
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he wants to please me.. but he doesnt want to recieve from me. he is waaayyy to nice (opens MY car door when I drive)... we try to do stuff physically and he always is giving to me (without me even asking). but when i try to give to him, he will stop me and say that he doesnt need that from me... just being with him makes him happy. i feel like he's not attracted to me or something (im pretty good looking as he says), but he swears he is & emotionally i know he's attracted to me. even with intercourse he will get soft & have to stop. is he gay because he doesnt want anything from me?! (i know that NO guy would pass up an offer by a girl). am i not pleasing him? i dont know what to think or do!!
This exact thing happened to me with my now husband of 7 years. I come to find out that he had so much going on in his head that it seriously effected him being able to have sex. Have you talked to your guy about it? Is there guilt from a religious upbringing? Some guys get told they should not have sex until they are married so much that is does sit in the back of their mind no matter what they may want.
Talk to him about it! You may find it to be something so simple. As far as him being nice to you ENJOY it! Honestly this seems like a guy who has a ton of respect for you and maybe that is where it is steming from. It took my husband 5 months until he was able to get past his ubringing and I am SOOO glad I waited and didn't lose hope!
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Everytime my boyfriend comes over we just watch movies and makeout. Its getting kind of old, is there anything else we can do? (Not anything sexual I mean) Were both 15 so we can't drive yet either. Thanks.
Get some games. Board games, card games it doesn't matter. Have your parents take to do an activity sports, movie (kinda the same thing though) hang out with other friends. Do whatever you do when he is not there just do it together. Talk to him about it maybe he is feeling the same. You two together could come up with some new ideas!
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