Q: 16/f

I have liked my friend for over a year now. Almost two years. We're really close...or we were. He's 18 though. I've known him since I was a freshman and he was a junior. I'm a junior now and he's in college. He left to go to college like last week.
In September we told each other we liked each other and all that. We wouldn't go out because he was gonna leave and all that. We would talk all the time and then it went on to the sweet stuff like he cares about me and could picture marrying me, ect. So before we even told each other how we felt I was crazy about him. I had a boyfriend and I still couldn't get over him. So pretty much, I liked the guy so much. I don't want to say love because I'm never too sure but he's the guy I've felt most for.
Well one night we ended up making out.
We were cool after that. I found out he also liked another girl but that didn't really bother me too much because he knew I liked someone else also. I thought about it a lot though because I liked him so much and he started texting her like he texted me.
Well then it started going back to normal again with us. We'd talk on the phone all night and text but he told me he liked me but only as a close friend. I was confused but I went with it.

He eventually would bring up sex and stuff. He knows I don't want it. He always knew about my problems with guys because I told him about what guys have done and all that. Anyway, he would eventually start texting dirty to me and stuff. Then it went back to I like you. Actually he was telling me he loved me and wished he was with me and that I was older. Not like that whole in love kinda thing. He said not like a girlfriend but he did love me and care about me.

Ok so I never understood how he felt. I just assumed he did like me but was confused, just didn't like me too much or maybe he was just messing with me. All I know is that he does not like me as much as I like him. I never told him how much I liked him though. You know, don't wanna weird him out.

Well I didn't talk to him all this week because he left. But he texted me last night and we were talking and stuff. It seemed totally fine and it was really sweet. We texted from like 9pm to 5am. Except I had fallen asleep on him but he texted me before class and after.

He texted me today around 5pm and we texted for a couple hours. It was all about sex this time. Well then later he texted me around 9 and it was the same. Some of it was nice and stuff but then it was like what he wanted to do with me and all that.
Then he called me so we talked on the phone for about half an hour. He tried starting with all that again but when he started like asking questions, most of my answers were, "I don't know" or "maybe". He told me he loved me though and I was like, "mhmm sure I believe it." Then he started going on about my trust issues. He was going on about I didn't trust me two last boyfriends. I mean I think I have reasons not to. One almost raped me and the other cheated. So he went on about how annoying it was when all I said was "I don't know" and "maybe".
Well then he called me a tease. Jokingly, he's brought it up before. He says I am because I only let him make out with me and only have a taste of me and not the whole thing. Anyway, he called me a jerk. I don't know why and he started talking about how he was a player. I agreed but then he was like, "Yeah I break your heart?" I said, "mhmm" I was kinda crying when he was saying this stuff. He couldn't hear it though, thank God. But he was talking about how I'm one of the few girls he's been talking to, ect. He told me I was the 2nd girl he's ever made out with though. I already knew that but still. This stuff kinda hurt because he kept saying he wanted to ask me out when he got back in May. I was like, "Yeah..because that would soo work. Only like 3 months together." He said, "Yeah but you're graduating." I said, "Yeah, in like a year." He asked if I liked him and I said, "Idk" and if I wanted to talk to him. So eventually I got off the phone and he said, "Good night. I love you" Then I just said bye.
All those things he was saying. I don't understand and he's being confusing. I don't even know if he cares or if he just wants sex out of me.
So he texted me after that saying, "I'm so done with you." I said, "I don't even know wth I did" He said, "Your so ugghh anyway, I'm done talking to you." I said, "All you want is sex and I actually kinda liked you. But do whatever you want." He said, "Yeah I know all I want is sex its so wrong so I will get it right." I said, "Just don't do that to me again." He said, "Do what?" I said, "Make me that upset." Then he sent this long message saying, "I'm sorry this is 100% my fault. I feel so ashamed about what I have done with you and to you and all those bad things I said. I'm asking God and you to forgive me and I will never do this to you again. I am sorry I hope I didn't hurt you."

So this was really long and I'm sorry but I am so confused and hurt. I might be kinda pathetic for crying for so long but yeah. I still like him so much but what should I do? I don't want to lose him but I'm afraid he really didn't care about me like that. Thank you sooo much

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Q: 16/f
My bf is so asking for it,I don't know what to do...Every time we're on a date we both get turned on like crazy and it's been like this for a while.We want to have sex soon and it's gonna be my first time,but I'm a bit scared.I told him that and he said he'll be gentle and careful with me...I really love this guy but I'm quite insecure and indecisive about this.Should I have sex with him if I feel like it?I know only I can decide when's the right time for me to do it.Still there are so many dilemmas,like,what if the condom breaks? that causes insecurity...what should I do? I really want him and can't hold back anymore.

Q: (boyfriend is 20 soon to be 21)
We've been dating for about a month, we plan on a long future, we're in a 'serious' relationship, and have sex.

As everyone knows christmas is coming up, I need ideas for a gift.
I know I'm definately getting him a ring pop & a pack of gummy bears. (Inside joke between him & I.) I was wondering if it'd be okay just to do like a little box of candies/desserts. Like get a small cute little box, put a bunch of candy and homemade cookies and brownies, etc in the box and wrap it, and get him like a gift card to go with it? Does that sound like too little? Any ideas of what kind of candy, or desserts? (And on sort of a limited budget.)
Thanks!

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