hey this is ama :>] i love coming onto advicenators to help people in need. even though i'm only 13, i think i give pretty good advice. i hate insects, spiders especially, and i get annoyed easily. but when i'm on my good side, i'm patient, but when i'm on my bad, i'm no good at human communication. i would love to grow up and build my own pet hotel, but for now, i'm starting small and taking my time growing up.
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My boyfriend tells me that he can't go take me places to do stuff because he is strapped on cash... hes "strapped on cash" but i find like 5 new porn videos and a new 15 dollar porn magazine.. and he tells me he can't do take me out to do stuff cuz he doesn't have money. He thinks im overreacting when i get pissed... what do you think? isn't there something wrong here? (link)
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Well its obvious. There is something wrong here. Your boyfriend is too fixated on himself to pay attention to you. Or, he doesn't think you're worth it. And you're not asking for much-- you just want what your boyfriend should AT LEAST do. Have a little courtesy to take you out once in a while. You should dump him. Even if you really "love" him. If he doesn't love you as much as he loves himself, your relationship is doomed. If he REALLY needed the money, maybe he would've just sat you down and told you what he wanted. If you feel like giving him a second chance, you can confront him. But when you confront him with his "problem", don't overreact. Just ask him rationally, why when you walked into his room, you found new porn stuff. Maybe it was friend's. But if it happens again, you should just dump him. No guy is worth it if he doesn't even love you as much as his porn.
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14/f i've been talking to this guy for like over a month ans we've liked each other for like ever. a few weeks ago he told me he loved me and i said it back becauses i do. well he usually calls at night between 8-11. and he hasnt for three days. im begining to think hes lost interest but why would he just stop all of a sudden? i've tried calling him but the line was busy. im going to try again tonight but don't know how to sneak that in there. i mean i dont wanna just say why havent you called me? or anything cuz that could seem to clingy. please help. i love this kid and want to be with him more than anything. (link)
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Basically, guys aren't always like girls. Sometimes, they just need some space and you two are going into a phase. He might think you're moving too fast so he doesn't like intensity. It might not be a good idea to talk to him everyday, but at least once in two days instead of one if he still stops calling. But if he starts to call a lot again, its fine.
For the conversation, just start off normally and let him talk. After a while, say "Hey, I haven't talked to you in a while, where've you been?" And just slowly try to talk to him about why he hasn't called you. good luck.
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Sometimes im hanging out with my bff Hope and Star,and i feel a little left out. Theyre hanging out with their bfs and cuddling up n stuff. I explained how this made me feel, but they tryed to get a guy to do it with me. i wouldnt mind, but my mom would kill me. I WANNA BF SOOOOO BAD, but i dont wanna get my mom to get mad. What should i do. (link)
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Unfortunately, what you're experiencing is peer pressure. Just because all of your other friends have it, you want it. But you should wait until the right person comes up. Don't just have a boyfriend because all your other friends do- you should find the right person first and wait- and when you find that right boyfriend, confront your mom and tell her how you feel. If shes going to get mad at you, at least you were truthful about it.
good luck~
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i feel ugly and fat. i feel like guys aren't attracted to me. what can i do to make myself more attractive to guys, besides loosing some weight? i want to hook up with people and get a boyfriend. dont say "just be yourself" or "it will come in time."
only answer if your going to answer my questions. (link)
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every girl feels insecure about themselves and try to act attractive.
not only loosing weight, you can buy a pushup bra, wear deep dark mascara to make your eyelashes longer, eyeliner, and really juicy lip gloss that makes guys just want to kiss them.
you also can learn how to flirt-- or casually talk to guys to get their attention and to like you.
good luck
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i'm not really sure if i am confident on asking any girl out (link)
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Of course you are. the thing you fear is rejection especially in front of everybody. Just ask her casually, if you can see her privately and ask her. As many guys might tell you, you need to look cool or something, thats not true. girls like guys who they feel confortable around. just be easy going and ask normally, as you ask anybody else a question.
she might say yes, she might say no. you may never know till you ask her.
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I'm 13/f...Well, my best friend is a guy. Lets call him...Colby. What happened was, Colby has been a dating machine..hes irresistable to girls. Whenever he goes out with one, im left out. He completely ignores me, he doesnt call me ever, or comes over my hous anymore. This only happens when he has a gf. So i had the nerve to go up and tell him how i felt about it. He said that he promises that it ill never happen again and we will be like we used to ( this happened after he broke up with his old gf) So, colby goes out with this other girl lets call her..Dylan. He always talks about how they make out and all that so of course ill be nice ( no im not jealous and i dont like like him) and say wow thats cool. So he knows who i like and i talk to him aobut the guy i like and his response ould be nmothing..!! he just gets up and leaves..it makes me feel awful..but i love him so much like a friend!! and i dont wanna lose him but he makes me feel im not important and i dont belong in his life... SORRY ITS SOO LONG!!
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~.:MixedEmotions:.~ (link)
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i know its hard, but if this person REALLY doesn't care about you, i don't really thing its worth it. Obviously, he must have some feelings left for you if he wants to rub it in you so bad. Don't let this guy control your feelings! tell him, if he doesn't act like a real friend should, you guys shouldn't be friends.
although you don't want to lose him, you're going to lose you along the way if you don't.
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If a girl hits u all the time does that mean she likes u. and if it does should i ask her out (link)
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you may never know. maybe that girl is playing with you to get somebody else jealous. try to get your friends to find out, and if it turns out she does because of all this playful hitting, go for it!
or, just use your instinct. do you really feel confident with asking out this girl?
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I have a wonderful boyfriend! We have been going out for a week now, and he is very nice, sweet, and pretty funny. Except he smells really bad some times when I am near him, like I smell no deodorant or cologne on him at all. It's very dreadful! Especially since he has gym at school and it makes it worse afterwards.
I would really hate to say anything, so what can I do to give him the message he stinks? (link)
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Never be too harsh. Being straightforward might hurt his feelings, and you never meant to do that!
You should always work your way around it. Sometimes just bring the topic up. like "why don't you wear deodarant sometimes?" really gently. "becasue sometimes, like all guys, you have some body odor". or, you can buy him some deodorant and give it to him as a present and ask him to use it.
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hey well im a 13/f and i have a boyfriend and he's the most awsome guy ever he like always talks to me on the phone and tells me he loves me and hugs me. But there is this kid noah who really likes me and has liked me since 3rd grade and he keeps making me stuff and its really cute and he is really nice and i like him but i love my boyfriend. but my boyfriend dosen't treat me ,like noah does . noah is real sweet!! SO can you help i dont know who i should take or let go :( .. so can you HELP>>??>>??>>?? (link)
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i really cannot help you on this answer, but i'll try.
who do you like the most? stick with the person who you think would treat you better. noah might be a little stalkerish, and if you go with him, he might be a fake. but now, you have a great boyfriend. i would stay with the boyfriend personally, because he's already presented his love for you. but noah, for all you know, could be just doing this because of some weird reason.
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Hey im a 13/f and i have a boyfriend that is almost 14 and he is like the sweetest guy ever. and i love him to death !! But We bolth have this thing were we wanna kiss eachother but we dont know how long we should or how intament it should be so can you help me??? should iit be a peck on the cheek or like lip locking ? we wanna lip lock but yeah can you help?? (link)
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So basically, I can't be there to help when it happens. So you're on your own. Kissing just kind of happens, its a kind of magic that no one can tell you want to do. But keep these facts in mind-
-Do it when the time is right.
-You might want to do it in privacy, since its your first...
-Chew a minty gum or some breath refresher before
-Tilt your head to the right when doing it
-It depends on how you feel. You can do it long, but don't go all out and french kiss. It'd be probably awkward.
-Always remember not to be nervous. Because when it happens, everything will be perfect!
good luck! i can't help you much, but if you need anymore help, just ask me (:
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well i started dating my friend.
He was like my best guy friend and now were dating but we never hung out
any ideas on what to do on our first hang out /date???
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Keep it casual. Don't do anything very romantic and don't expect much. You guys are best friends! You know you're common interests. Do something fun, not just a dinner somewhere. Walk on the beach, go to a cool cafe, just HAVE FUN. You can't make it all awkward from going from friend to soul mates in one day. Its all a PROCESS.
go and enjoy yourself!
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i used to like this one boy alot. and we were always supposed to hang out and things but it just never happend and we slowly stopped talking. its hard to see him and not say anything and i really wanna get back to where we were. i thought i would be able to get over him but i cant i still really like him. what should i do to get back to where we were. how to i slowly get back to that. like flirt in the halls at school till he shows that he wants to be together again??. thanks!! so much. (link)
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really, you can never get back to that same stage that you like. no matter what you do, you'll never be that way again. i'm sorry, but its true. it has happened to me before. start finding out what he likes again and where he's going to be. start talking to him more and avoid the awkardness! the faster your "Friendship/flirtation" is renewed, there'll be less a hole. Start talking to him again! Start hanging out with him. Be a GOOD friend. Catch him in the times he needs a friend. Just be there for him. and you'll be kinda back to that flirting fling!
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ok well heres the thing i think my boyfriend is cheating on my but im not 100% sure. we've been going out for almost 11 months and like last month he said he thinks that im the one. Like im the only girl he thinks hes actually been IN LOVE with. but 2 weeks ago i broke up with him cause i heard he was going to but then he got reallyy mad at me and we talked after shcool and he said he wasn't going he was just having a bad day and was thinking about it. so we got back together and ever sense then he has been like kind of mean to me. like now it doesn't even seem like he likes me that much. and on his myspace he has been talking to this girl named taylor and then during art yesturday he was talking to his friend zach and was just like yeahh i talked to taylor for like 3 hours last night but he whispered it and didn't think i could hear him and i was like you talked to taylor for 3 hours? and he smiled and was like uh no. then i got mad and hes like im just kdiding! and said he just talking to his friend jeremy and mike. but he invited her to this concert thing friday and he wanted me to go too but he invited her first, and he goes to a different school but please tell me if there are ways i can tell if he would be cheating on me! HELP PLEASE!!! thanks! (link)
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sometimes, people are good enough to hide cheating and you may never find the proof but you just know it. a good idea is probably to ask all your friends what they're doing. if they have any activities where they might see your boyfriend, send them on a mission! they could find out if he's cheating or just bluffing or just lying or just innocent. ask his friends where hes going. sure, this is KINDA spying, but its worth it for your relationship!
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