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i am 14 & male. my lyf is hell at da mo cos i am torn between 2 girls, one is really popular & is giving me loads of hints & i like her but these days some girls give hints to take the piss, & the other i hadn't seen 4 2yrs & i love HER tho but i dont think she has the same feelins 4 me. i went into town with her the other day & it was fantastic & she thought so too but she is movin house soon & if i dont do owt i'm afraid i will never see her again. wot shud i do?

okay lol im not sure what "ownt" means but i am going to try to help you anyway =].

so the popluar girl you like, if she is giving hints and flirting she probably has a thing for you, i would persue it and ask her to hang out or ask for her number. you can always get to know her more, who knows, she could be the love of you life or completely differnt then you thought she was.

okay about the girl you love. if she is moving and you might not see her for a while i would definitely keep contact, because as soon as you get your license you can go see her when you want and maybe something can happen then. she may have feelings for you, especially if you guys hung out and had a lot of fun. but the thing with girls is that sometimes they send the wrong signals, sometimes if we consider one of our guy friends like a brother or just a good friend we'll give them hugs at radnom times and act like we are flirtng but sometimes we aren't. the thing is is that girls sometimes tend to flirt in the same way. girls just suck like that. it can be hard to determine the difference.
so just keep in contact with her and what-not.
things will clear up.

and witht the other girl, like i said, just talk to her maybe hang out. dont do aything sexual with her because it seems liek you like the other girl way more. but if you do decide to change you mind about the girls dont forget either one of them. just uuse your head.

sorry if i didnt answer your question well enough because it wasnt that clear if you want you can keep asking me questions.
im here to try and help
xo

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I do not know what to do about mixed signals. all i want to know is how the guy feels because he likes this other girl but throughout this year it feels like we have something but its like you dont talk about it. But he still likes that girl. One week he flirts with me alot we make eyecontact and he just comes up to me,eats lunch with me, calls me,etc. But then the next week he will just drag me along.lets just say its very dramay! How do i know wat do because i feel like i just want to know without just staright up asking him. If he has no intentions of anything then i will try to move on but i just want to know!and do u think that what he is doing is deliberate because of the drama and the "history" or is it in my head?

i definitely think that youre not doing to get a straight answer unless you go up to him and ask himstraight up because something like this happened to me last year and now that i look back on it i really reget not just asking him straight up because now he STILL drags me along to make sure he still has something to fall back on.
so make sure you definitely just ask him out and see if he is sometihng worth waiting for.
youll probably regrtt it if you dont.
x3

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hi,
my girlfreind is cutting her wrists and im really worried about her and want her to stop how do i go about telling her and getting her to stop i dont want her to hurt herself.. please ..!!:(:( i love her heaps but i dont want her to be hurting herself...
im male and 14.
thankyou

hey
just make sure she knows she can call you at any time of the night (im assuming that when she does it) and that youre there for her and that you just want her to be happy and if there is something in her life that is causing her to do then make sure she knows that she always has you and that you will help her get through, she really needs someone she can count on.
who ever her best friend is, if she knows i would get together with her and your girlfriend and explain to her how much it hurts you guys and how much you care for her.
its kind of like peer pressure only in a good and benficial way.
hope i helped

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13/f ok so this year i really want a boyfriend. i had one before but they weren't like real ones. i have a bunch of guy friends and all but how i do i get them to really notice me and possibly ask me out. thanks in advanced

aw thats so cute. but um
honestly. we have all been there. You dont want to date when youre that young because the guys are so immature. girls devlope 3 times faster then guys do and when girls are thinking of relationships they're thinking about video games or well..other thingys. little boys at your age dont really know what it means to have a girlfriend.
i say if yo want a boyfriend that bad, go for it but it will just waste your time.
xo

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I feel so bad that someone i like is in love with someone else
wat should i do stay liking him or move on

okay, im kind of in the same siuation as you are.
infact same thing. but its been a while and it got a lot better because i realized that no matter what i do and no matter how happy we made eachother before that he is just going to forget about me. and it kills me to actually admit this but its true. and after i accepted my reality it got a lot easier because i want someone who wants me back. yea i want it to be him but he will never look at me in the same light as he does her. i don't know anything about your guy but i am assuming he knows you like him. dont let him use you or come back to you as a rebound girl. trust he will if you still like him, which you probably will because its hard to move on but its for the best. be strong and let him know where you stand. and if he does realize he made a mistake by passing you up make him wait until you're ready. that way you will really know.
so to answer your question.
Don't forget about this guy. but...
you should probably look for someone new. not as a relationship but just to be close to so it can develope from there.
i hope i helped.
if you need anything IM me or something

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alright so me and some friends are going to the movies tonight. and the guy i really like is going. the problem is that when im around a guy i like im really shy and dont know what to say. he knows i like him cause my friend told him and he says he thinks im cute. so how do i make conversation with him to let him know that i am definantly interested in him.

ILL RATE 5'S!!!
BUT I NEED ADVICE BEFORE I LEAVE!!!!

aw man. I hate it when this happens. You should definitaly just ask him how his day was. Or ask him a question, even if you already know the answer to it. ex.) what are we seeing again?, whats thos about, whats the name of that actor/actress?,. Just random things should make it easier for a conversation, or tell him about what you did today. but remember to just be yourself. hope i helped

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ok im 15 and theres this guy that always flirts with me his friends say we should go out but when they say it hes like no hes really nice hes athletic hot but my ex said if i go out with him hes goin to beat his ass i know brody the guy that flirts with me could whoop him but i dont want him to get into a fight so what do i do do i go out with brody or not just so my ex dont get into a fight and get hurt pls help me
thanx õxõxõxõ

You need to ask your ex what the deal is because he has no right to stop you from doing what you want. If he still has feelings for you, that is his problem and trying to control your life is definitaly not going to get him in the direction he wants to go. I think you should be willing to talk to him about and see how he feels, if that doesnt help get an adult involved.

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So I'm 15. And I'm a female,
is there something wrong with me?
I'm attracted to older guys, I'm sure they dont like me. Or wont ever, but I find myself wanting older guys, like they seem more appealing to me, because like ALL the guys in my grade are so imature. I wish theyd grow up. I dont know though.
I just hope its nto wrong for me to like odler guys? Because I have no interest in any of the guys in my grade =/

That is perfectly normal. I cant stand any of the guys in my grade. They are immature and degrading. I've dated older guys too and they make me a lot happier. As long as they don't take advantage of you its okay. Sometimes you just need comfort and 15 yr old guys definitaly don't know how to do that.

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there's this boy that lives like two houses down from me and he's like sooooooooooo cute. he's 19 and i'm 15 and i really like him but i don't know if he likes me. he's always staring and smiling at me like he as something to say but never says it. should i go up to him and ask him does he like me or should i just wait and see what happens?

hah wow this problem seems to be really popular in the teen world. I did the same thing only a few years earlier. It was my summer going into 8th grade and he was going to be a junior. i talked to him a lot online and we texted and set up a date for me to have a sleepover with his little sister. It was wrong, i know but it was so much fun. we made out for like 1am - like 3. it was great. i sparked the first conversation because i thought he looked interested. i still talk to him and we might even get back together. So i would definitaly go for it. talk to him. even if he says hes "not interested" it probably wouldn't be too hard to change his mind, talk to him you have nothin to lose.

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ok so i have this wonderful boyfriend and he is wonderful and all the girls in school like him but i also like my neighbor who is super hot. he has a great personality and he always gives me rides on his motorcyce and me and him made out once and kissed a couplle times and i could tell he is in to me to. i kinda see my neighbor as more boyfriend material because my boyfriend was my best friend in seventh grade and he seems like more of a friend to me now. and so my neighbor gets more sexual with me and i like it the aggresiveness. i dont know what to do i fell i love them both!!!

oh jeez. okay you have to tell your boyfriend about your problem because if he hears if from someone other then you he is going to be pissed. But the decision is ultimitaly up to you. I know its hard but you have to think who will make you happier and not who you feel bad for because it wouldn't be fair to either guy. But from what you say you sound happier with your neighbor.
hope i could help

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HI um...I'm a 13 year old gurl((GOING 14)) and I'm dating a 17 year GUY his the best boyfriend a girl can ever ask for his sweet romantic AND I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH well the point is that our anyversary is comming real soon is going to be A YEAR sense we've been dating YAY MY B-day well I want to get somenthing really special and well one of the things that came to my mind was SEX he has never really pushed me into anything but well his a 17 year old dude thats one of their main "goals" and well I don't know wat to do....I NEED HELP plz should I DO THIS??????

okay. it is you life and should be able to do what you want with it but heres the thing. you love him and he loves you. well. as far as you know right? Im really glad you have found someone for you but you need to think. "what if i get pregnant?" he could get in a lot of trouble. there are also a lot of STDs and things you shouldnt get when your 13 years old. He is going to be you first time and next year if he goes off to college things are going to dramatically change for you. What happens if he ditches you? i know you think he won't but he is 17 years old you never know. You would be heart broken if he ever left you. you shouldn't have to go through that.

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hi my name is jess my b/f's dad told us that he didnt want us in the house when no one was there so we left until he left the house and we went back in. well we heard him pull in the driveway so we went out the back door and he was standing right there. now i knw its gonna be so awkward if i ever go to his house again. how can i stop feeling embaressed and awkward and get things better between me and his dad

yea. I had a situation really similar to this one. I was so embarassed and i never wanted to see my friends dad again but the next time i did see him i went and talked to him. i apologized and said that it was wrong to birng stuff like that into his house. he thanked me for being adult enough to talk to his face and that even though i messed up he could stil trust me. Try talkin to your b/f's dad and telling him you realize what you did was wrong and that you will will respect his house and its rules. Whether or not it is true but it will most likely earn his trust back and gain some brownie points too.
hoped i helped=]

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