My name is Brianna Handy ... i was born in Collierville, Tennessee but now i live in Gainesville, Florida.. i love hanging out with friends, going to the movies, tanning, softball, parties, and just having fun... anyways, i just started this advice column because i love giving advice.. but i just want people to take it seriously.. so ask me anything..
Website: .bri-ann-uh.<3
E-mail: XoBrIaNnA055oX@netscape.net
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Location: Collierville, Tennessee
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Member Since: November 13, 2005
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Alright so I know people ask this a lot but hey help me out too. So there's this guy who we can call Joe and we were both at a party last night. Well I got really tired so I decided to go lie on the couch and he was there so I used his arm for a pillow. Well, I gradually got more comfortable and so did he and he had his hand on my stomach and he was playing with my arm all cute and stuff and we were holding hands (with the one that was on my stomach) and everytime hed get up hed come back and get in the same position again. We're friends and that's just not how our friendship is like if I give him a hug in the hall hes like "Oh hey Susan." and its just a brief hug. Do you guys think he likes me as more than a friend? I think I like him as more than one so I don't want to get my hopes up.
Thanks
PS when I was asleep on him he whispered to my friend and asked her if I liked him if that means anything (link)
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yeah.. i must say.. it seems like hes pretty interested. many of your the guys you date were once your friends ... and usually they are the ones you think you would never have something with..but yes, personally i think he is interested in you, but he wants to make sure you feel the same way before he makes any moves or public statements that he has feelings for you. if you want any chance with him, you should try letting the word slip out about you liking him ... it will most likely turn out good from what you've explained about you two. goodluck
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My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?
16/f (link)
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well, i think debating and arguing is a part of every GOOD relationship. it shows you care enough about the person to actually get in an argument with them. so yes, it is perfectly normal to have these disagreements, however you have to know when its gone too far. i understand you being curious if this is going to hurt your relationship in the long run, but thats really up to you and him, actually - its mostly up to you, because you cant tell him when to stop arguing. you need to be in charge of this incase it DOES go too far one time. you have to be cautious and know when to stop fighting with him over these types of things. do your best.. its fine to argue with him, but when you start feeling like it may be going too far, then control yourself and do something to slow it down and stop the fight. best of luck
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brianna-
ok, well there's this guy..actually my boyfriend. and i really like him, actually i love him and i care about him very much! but i'm having weird feelings right now. at this point in my life i really just want to have fun, i mean these are the best days of our lives, and i feel so tied down. like i'm not able to do everything i want to lately..especially when he acts as a third parent to me! and i know that i'm missing out on things that later on i will realize and i'll really regret it. there are so many parties i want to go to-but i know he would flip out..and theres so many hott guys..and yeah. i guess this would be different if this relationship was extremely serious, i'm not sure if he thinks it is..but there are certain things that will make it impossible for this relationship to go on forever, and to get extremely serious. each time i think about it i have a different thought on things, either i really like him and want to be with him. or i'm not sure if i'd rather be single right now. also, not only just because i want to be back into the regular high schoolers life (which i've been excluded from lately because of all this) there are also other reasons i'm having these feelings about all this..right now i really have to focus on my school work, i'm not doing too great..actually i'm doing horrible right now in all my classes, because there are things keeping me from consentrating on my work..if i don't bring my grades up, and keep them up..i won't have a boyfriend or a social life at all. i'll be completely excluded from the world outside my room..and i have so many other normal teenage things and drama going on in my life and i just don't want to deal with it right now..i know i'm very lucky to have such a great boyfriend, and such a great relationship, and i'm very thankful for that. but sometimes i just feel like i want to have fun, be single, live highschool the way most people live it..i'm not looking for my soul mate right now, i'm just looking to have a good time and make the best of my life during these years..we can only go through high school once, and i don't want to waste it all with a relationship that will probably just put me with a broken heart in the end, when i could be out having the best time of my life right now! basically lets just say i'm confused all the way around..i just need someones advice..what do you think i should do?
and let me say thank you very much in advance for whatever you're going to tell me..right now i just need someone else's opinion cause i'm not sure if i can trust my own..
-confused (link)
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well... let me start out with saying i know exactly how you feel. It's your highschool years... there basically there to have fun.. not be tied down. it's even more painful when most of your friends dont have boyfriends like you, and they all go out and have fun. this might make you think twice about wanting this boyfriend of yours. well, this is basically your decision. your going to have to dig even deeper and find out what you REALLY want. consider what life would be like if you dumped him TODAY.. see which way you like it better. Personally, to me, it seems that right now in your life your really not wanting that relationship because of the situation your in, with it being highschool and all. it seems to me that being tied down isnt what you want to do.. i understand you have a great boyfriend that you love, but at the same time you want to be going out to these parties and living the single life. This is a really hard decision, and it really is up to you. try and use your imagination to picture how things would be both ways, if you were single and taken. Which side are you leaning more toward? if you come to the decision that you think you may want to be single, then your boyfriend should understand how you feel. these ARE the best days of your life, and its not like your looking for marriage or anything close to that. your boyfriend should understand this. i think part of the thing is, that you are afraid to dump him for the single life, because you may discover you like having a bf, or that there is no one better out there. thats what happens. but from my point of view, i think that if you let it go, then its your fate from there. your bf should understand how you feel, and if he REALLY cares about you, yall will still be close, and you may eventually end up back together. i think you might need a little break just to experience things as being taken AND single. its what every person needs to do at some point in their life, and i think your time is now. goodluck, and i hope everything goes your way. thanks for coming to my advice column.. and please keep asking questions!
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I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years a few weeks ago for my own reasons that I'm not getting into - just know it was for both of us, not just me, that I did it.
It was a bit of a conversation, but one thing I did ask was that he not forget about me and consider me a friend. Since then, he's attempted contact (via AIM) a couple times, and each time it's ended with me in tears and him saying he doesn't think he can handle talking to me just yet.
The thing is, I don't miss him. I'm happy single right now. This is what I need and I'm glad I did it. I feel bad because I know I hurt him, yet he agreed with my reasoning and seemed to think I was right.
Was it wrong of me asking him to keep our friendship? If I don't miss him, why do I always end up crying?
Please, hold off on the chatspeak. You'll get rated down and nobody wants that. (link)
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no, i dont think what you did is wrong AT ALL. its what YOU wanted to do. theres many explanations for why you may be crying.. i mean you obviously really cared about this guy, two years is a long time. it's good that he understands how you feel, and its good that you told him the truth, instead of being afraid to hurt him and not tell him at all, because that ends up worse in the long run. its prolly really tough right now, but since yall dated for so long, im sure if you just give it some space for a while, you will find that a good friendship between you two will start to form.. and it will result in a happy ending..
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hey brianna.. this is a troubled reader.. my friend knows you and is really good friends with you so i thought i would give this a try..
i love this guy.. and i know i do.. so does every one else. i honestly think he knows too, but im not sure. we were dating for a while but decided to break it off, for some bullshit reasons and he broke my heart. now he likes my best friends older sister. since im younger than him i cant blame him for wanting an older girl. but he knows i love him and he knows this other girl doesnt. what do you think was going thru his mind when he did this to me?
-- in a *bit* of a problem.. (link)
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well... i obviously know who this is writing to me.. its my best friend of course.. and i know what its like. but listen.. theres a lot more to it, i just found out that he liked her too last night b/c they were talking for like an hour and it was on speakerphone and i was in the room the whole time. she doesnt like him, and he knows that. she already knew that he liked her cuz he told her like a week or so ago. he asked her exactly this "but in your eyes its just friends with us right?" and she said yes. he knows her feelings toward him.. shes likes flirting with him (she likes flirting with everyone) and she likes hanging out with him because they get along so well. but shes still in love with her ex.
for you my dear... i dont know what he was thinking. it does sound pretty stupid right, i mean he likes the girl he KNOWS doesnt like him, and he doesnt like the girl that he KNOWS loves him. pretty messed up. but there really is no explanation or answer for them. its simply how he feels. he cant help who he likes, or who hes attracted to. no one can. you cant blame him if it isnt you that he has feelings for. trust me, i know you, and i know your an amazing person, and i know hes missing out. he just hasnt realized it yet. time tells everything.. and trust me, i know how much you dont want to wait, b/c i dont think anyone likes waiting for stuff like this, but you need to try your hardest to get over him. me and you both know every little game he plays, and how he acts and lies. its just him. your wonderful and he doesnt deserve you. right now hes not looking for any type of relationship that has meaning at all. i dont even think he wants a relationship at all, nor is he ready for one. relationships are filled with MEANING... and trust, and so many more things.. i dont think hes ready for that type of commitment, because once again we know how he likes having multiple girls, never just one. it will take a special girl to make him settle down. and im not saying your not that special girl, because you may be - but only time will tell. for now, you just have to accept the fact that hes not specifically looking for the "right" girl.. hes just trying to have a good time with all of the wrong ones. trust me darlin, your better than that. yall are both at different points in your life.. you want a meaningful relationship, and he doesnt want a relationship at all. its his loss, and he will realize that. i
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