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Q: 16/f

2 months ago a friend that i liked the whole year screamed "(my name) i love you!" and i didnt really respond cause we were kinda far away. then later that night i was talking to him on AIM i told him that i loved him and if he really did like me. he didnt answer me, then signed off. then about 2 weeks later he signed on i IMed him again and he took like an 20 minutes to IM me back (he wasnt idle or anything and my friend was talking to him so i know he was there)he said "sorry i think we'd be better off as friends." i still really like him..alot =/ i dont see him that much anymore but i see him every now and then in the hallways. anyone have any ideas why he took so long? and what should i do? i would appreciate anything you say to me or any advicen you give me. thanks so much it means alot to me.

Well my dear...things happen that are confusing...so my advice would be to talk to this man...and see how he really feels...and I don't mean on AIM :D, but face to face...it is the best way to clear up any misconceptions

and if he does not like you its not the end of the world...there are plenty of other guys out there, maybe hes shy, us guys can get like that....alot....but just confront him and talk to him and clear up any misunderstanding you might have...

and don't worry...heck your young...there will be A TON of guys in your life...alot of them probably better than him, but since he is the subject at hand just take my advice and talk to him

I CAN NOT GUARANTEE THAT HE WILL LIKE YOU, BUT I CAN GUARANTEE YOU WILL HAVE A LOAD OFF OF YOUR BACK...

:D

Q: well im 15 and female..
i kinda like this guy that i met at a graduation party. hes funny,nice,cute, and hes not afraid to be himself. the tuff thing is; we dont go to the same school. at first, i thought he liked me, because he always called me. then we started talking more, and now we really dont talk that much.. except occassionaly online(we met august 5th) i really want to go to homecoming with him, or at least hang out with him, but i dont know much about him, and i dont want to make it seem wierd between us. i barely know him, i dont think he has a girlfriend(and i want to ask him, but i would think its wierd because i barley know him) but i want him to notice me and for HIM to start talking to ME more, instead of me keep trying to talk to him(because i think im being annoying, and i dont want that!) please.. any help at all on this would be greatly apreciated!!!

Well dear, may I first say "Hello!" I am Justin T. 18/m here to help you in your pickle!

Sounds to me like this guy really could care less...here is what I would do, the guy always likes it when the girl tries first to start a relationship...so what I want you to do is just stop talking to him...stop...see if he calls/IMs/emails you, and ask questions about him every once in a while to get to know him better...just throw a question into the conversation you know? Eventually you will get to know him...and hopefully go to Homecoming with him! (yay) but if he doesn't call, then why bother worrying about someone that doesn't care for you? Instead find some new boy toys lol.

:D I do indeed wish you the best of luck!

-JT

Q: i'm going to homecoming in a group with all my friends, and the guy i want to notice me is going too. he doesn't have a date, but i don't know how to get him to ask me to dance. and i also don't know what to do during slow dances. i'm going to their homecoming even though i don't go to their school, so i don't know any of the other guys so they won't ask me. but i don't want to look stupid and just standing there during the slow dances. and i don't want to ask him to dance. so that's not an option. what do i do during it? dancing with girls is funny for a minute or two but after that i think it gets old.

I can tell you to slow dance, the guy you like most likely knows how to, but you just put your arms around his shoulders, and he around your waist...and you go with the flow, or so to speak...it comes natural for most I really don't think youll have to worry about that...

As for getting him to ask you, go up to him and bring up the topic of the dance...just talk about it...maybe that will work...also, don't come off as nervous, be casual...its all cool...nonchalant...collect, hopefully he'll get the hint and ask you to the dance! I hope he does!

Best wishes,

JT

Q: okay it seems my problem is i can get guys.
ill like some guy alot intil he starts liking me. then it seems like i dont like him anymore? which i know doesnt make a bit of sense. for instance i liked this guy justin but he had the same last name as me but we arent related or anything.. and he started liking me and for some reason i just didnt like him anymore. but recently we work togather now and i like him again and i do this time for sure hes sooo adorable but idk how to get to start talking to him again cuz im sure he doesnt like me anymore. but thats not only it, hes the ONLY guy everytime i go to say something to him i say something stupid and make a complete fool out of my self and for some reason he makes me feel stupid when i talk to him sometimes. but at work its different we just talk like were friends. but i want to be more then that.
help me please..
i rate fives.

Listen, I want to earn my fives girl...and the only way your going to find out whether or not he likes you is by telling him!!! So that is your homework from JT *hehe thats me* is to go and tell him...

ironically my name is Justin...*blinks*

anyway, the thing about you saying something stupid everytime you walk up to him, there is a word for that dear, and its called love :D

I wish you the best

JT

Q: i like a guy so so so so so much but im afraid to go out with him because ive never kissed a guy before and im really freacked out by it and dont know what to do please help! thanks

Hahaha, how cute, listen kissing is not a gross thing at all...in fact it is truly a magical experience...don't be afraid dear!!! GO OUT WITH HIM!!!

I wish you the best!

JT

Q: Hi. My boyfriend just recently left for college.. It's 2 hours away and I don't know whats going to happen. I don't know what to think. I am just really confused about everything. Please help me out if you have been to college and know what i am talking about. or if your in the same situation.

I know this is hard, but statistically long distance does not work...but, screw statistics, if you love this man, if you WANT to be with him, and are WILLING to MAKE it work, then darn it you do it...I know what your going through, and it is hard, some relationships work, some don't it just depends on how much the couple is in love...and if you have a strong love between you, all will be well...

I wish you the best!

-JT

Q: Hi...im 17 female to begin with so i no im still young. but i have some real issues went i get intimate with a guy, if im friends with a guy i can talk to them easily and be totaly relaxed and myself but as soon as i start being in a relationship then thats when i become quiter and my personality does not shine through whatsoever. my mind also seems to go blank when im with them like i have to think of conversation and nothing comes out so then they think this is the real me even though i know im a fun girl and really friendly. i hate this and because i live in a fairly small town im worried that this has/will spread throughout the scene of people i want or do accosiate myself with. HHHEEELLLPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Greetings!!!

My name is Justin Taylor, I'm 18 years old, and I will be advising you today, I understand you completely dear, and it's not your fault, what you need to do is quite simple actually, be yourself, I know that is rather unoriginal, but if you say your a fun and friendly girl then well darn it BE A FUN AND FRIENDLY GIRL! I have a feeling that your mind goes blank because you don't want to say anything, "offensive or stupid" to damage the relationship, well my dear you took a risk getting into a relationship, time to take another by communicating! That is the only way you can tell if a relationship is going to work! COMMUNICATION! So the next time you get into a relationship, I want u to talk! just talk, about anything...don't be afraid, if the guy likes you, he will listen, and he most definatly wont find you stupid or whatever...I do wish you the best my dear!

-JT

Q: so i really like this guy. and last semester he kinda said that he will go to a different school and then the other day he said that he have to stay. so school startet three days ago and the first day he was there. but the next two days he was'nt. and i dont know if he's coming back now or not cause next week my class is going to a camp for 1 week. and i'm really worried he's going to a different school now cause i really like him and the school is not the same without him. so what should i do? what do you think????

thx alot

Greetings!!!

I've been through the whole moving process while I was in a relationship or in the process of getting a relationship...I know...its hard, but I only have one peice of advice for you my dear, and I hope I don't come off as harsh, the best thing to do if he moves, is to move on...yes you liked him, but due to circumstances beyond your control he moved...and yeah, it does indeed suck, but all you can do is to move about your life as happily as possible :D, but let us go to the other scenario, the one where he doesn't move (YAY) I wan't you to go up to him and tell him ur feelings!!! Tell him fast so he won't have a chance to move! You dig me? :D I wish you all the best dear!

-JT

Q: There's this boy that I am on and off with. I mean I really like him but I have a tendency to find the tiny bad things in people and trip over it completely and normally that's why I have dumped him a lot. I don't know if I should give him a longer chance and stick with him or move on... But I do really like him and I always will and I know that I get jealous when girls flirt with him. What should I do?

Greetings! I am an 18/m, and let me tell you something, no guy is perfect, I have a friend like you that finds the tiniest things wrong with her men haha, but you must not concentrate on that! As for the question of whether or not to stay with him, I don't know, I've never met him, but what I can tell you is some questions that might help you in your decision...

Has he been good to me?

Is he sweet?

Do I think he cares for me?

What is the evidence that he cares?

Does he remember key events in our relationship?

ask questions to yourself like that to aid you in your decision...relationships are magical things indeed...as for your issue of jealousy, don't get jealous my dear, if he is true to you, than that is all that matters...

I wish you the best!

-JT

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Greetings users! My name is Justin Taylor and hopefully I will help some souls in need of dire assistance, I analyze alot and hopefully on this site that "skill" is a good thing, so ask me any sort of question and I will try to answer to the best of my ability!! I love to help people and hope you will find my advice comforting if not re-assuring!