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So I went to washington Dc with my mom for a political convention. It was three days. The first day we were there my phone fell in the toilet. I had no way of contacting my boyfriend because my mom doesn't have a phone and our schedule was packed tightly. The only thing I thought of was to email him or try using a computer texting app. I texted him to tell him what was going on that same day so he wouldn't freak out. He ignored all texts and emails. I got back and called him and he said he doesn't want us to be together anymore because he doesn't trust me because I ignored him for three days. I don't know how to feel about the situation. what do you guys think about the situation.

I don't want to be mean, but your boyfriend really sounds like a waste of time. You know you emailed him, and there is no way he couldn't have gotten those emails. He is trying to make you feel like you are the reason for him wanting to break up, when its really him being a coward. There is most likely a more selfish reason why he doesn't want to be with you and is just finding an easy way out. Don't beat yourself up for any of it. If he is a good guy, he would find a way to fix things instead of giving you up so easily.

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There is this guy and I am not sure if he likes me. We have never talked before but we have had shared multiple eye contacts everyday and there are times when we stare at each other for quite a while. However, our facial expressions are usually fixed. No smiles no nothing.
There are times when I will look first and vice versa.

Thanks you for taking time to read! :)

If he looks at you a lot, he is definitely interested in who you are. If he smiles sometimes, that is a sure tell way that he likes you. Especially if he raises his eyebrows. It means he wants to talk to you. Maybe the next time he looks your way, you should smile so he feels more comfortable to come up to you and not creeped out!

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So i asked this girl out and she said yes, it was kinda awkward at the beginning at it still kinda is. She acted nervous around me, and told her friends that she liked me, even her best-friend.
But today i found out from one of my friends that she said yes not to hurt my feelings! Was this just a fake? Could it be that she wanted to end the awkwardness by saying she doesnt like me?

I think the best way to end any awkwardness is to confront her about what you heard face to face. Once you get it out in the open, you can get a better understanding on how she feels about the relationship, and you both can be more honest with each other. Never beleive what other people say about your relationship until you have proof from the source. By asking her, you may be surprised about what you find out.

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i need a boyfriend,but im so fucking picky,i like strange boys,dont give a fuck about the looks that much,i like weirdos and sad people,i myself am very weird :) but i like that,but its soo hard to find someone strange,should i lower my expectations or something?

ghostgirl7

You may be surprised that everyone is a little strange in their own sort of way, and some people hide it very well! I think you should give anyone you click with a chance.

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this boy hes a manwhore he does one night stands he says girls have to much politics he wasnt like this at first he cared for this girl a year back hes 17, but she played his so he didnt want to have another girl cos he got really hurt. he's said before he would have a girl if he really liked her i have known him for 6 months now and hes amazing, lovely personality and so funny always puts a smile on my face i know i really like him but he says he wont change who he is but he doesnt no i like him either but what i think hes hiding his real self not giving a real girl a chance hes just going to slags and get nothing of it just sex... despite all this i cant stop liking him? can yous help me please i need to know what to do i want him to see his real self cos he can make himself change hes did it quite alot we were really close meeting up and going on cam and stuff then one day he just stoped taking and know we only talk once and a wile but i cant change my feelings for him i need him to know but i dont know what to say? if anyone could help me i would be so thankful xx

Hey there,
You don't have to try and change anything about this guy. If he likes you back and wants a relationship with you, then you should expect him to be fully committed with you and to end his man-whoreish ways. Tell him in person that you really enjoy spending time with him and that he's the only person you're interested in. Let him know that you are looking for a relationship and willing to take things slow. He needs to know that you're not the type of chick he usually just hangs out with to have sex with. Allow him to process this and to let you know how he feels. Be patient and try hard not to push him for an answer right away. If he feels the same way, then you won't have to worry about him being with other girls. If he doesn't feel the same way, it isn't your fault at all. He told you already that he won't change, but what he really means is that he doesn't want to change. He just needs some more time and isn't ready to be committed yet. In that case, I would try to stay clear of him for a while until he gets his head straight and realizes that the girls he is sleeping with aren't going to be enough for him. They won't care enough, and are probably sleeping with other men too which is why he got his heart broken in the first place. Let him know what he is missin! :) xx

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I asked out this guy at school today and he said yes. The problem is, we don't have anywhere to go. We are both 16 and he can drive. Any ideas?

First of all, good for you! It takes a lot of guts to ask a guy out AND even think up a cool date idea for the two of you. I think going out to do something active or competitive is the best first date you can have because you'll be doing something fun together that he would always remember. You can go ice skating together and then have latte's and dessert afterwards. You can go indoor rock climbing, go karts, mini-golf or even bowling too. You want to avoid boring stuff like going to movies because you won't have a lot of time to chat or get to know each other and get comfortable with each other. Save that for date two or three! Have fun :)

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My current GF did not inform me of them speaking I had suspicion because it was becoming a routine of the texts curiosity is going to kill the cat so I read texts yes it was bad on my part but she should had told me aswell my GF dosent find anything wrong with this because the EX is having family tradigies but the EX has confessed her feeling to my GF, what do I do?????

Although it was very inappropriate for your girlfriend to hide something like this from you, it really is not a bad thing. Would you rather have them hating on each other for no reason, or getting along? As long as their relationship is not based on you as a topic of interest, you both should be perfectly fine. Just let her know that you understand you both have done some sneaky things and that you'd like to be more open and honest with each other. Also, if there is anything your ex may know that could potentially break up the two of you, let your current girlfriend know from you before she finds out from your ex!

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