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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer. I don't.
But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.
If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...
Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...
I'll always listen.
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I'm 23 years old and I’m getting married in February, and everything is going perfect. I really love my fiancé, and we have so much in common like taste in music and movies. We both graduated from Columbia. My fiancé was born and raised in England, and I was raised in California. We met when I was at a launch party for the modeling agency I model for. His brother was the photographer for the agency. But here's the thing, he grew up in England’s high society. He's gone out with heiresses and girls a lot richer than I am, and I keep asking myself "why in the hell would he pick me? Why does he want to be with me when he can have any other women he wants?" Although he was a player before we were together. I was the first girl he committed to. I guess in some ways I feel inferior to him. Am I really the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with? I guess I’m afraid that one day he's gonna realize he made a mistake and pick-up and leave; but is that really enough of a reason to break off a relationship with someone I truly love? I don't know how to talk to him and I think he's noticed a change in my behavior too. He keeps asking things like "Baby, what's wrong or Is everything okay, do you want to talk?" And I feel horrible because he thinks he did something wrong. What should I do? Should I marry him?
It's good that your asking yourself these questions before you get married, rather than after. I understand completely ...but you cannot enter a marital commitment with these doubts plauging you mind. Sit down and once and for all tell him about the way you feel, tell him everything, even though it will be hard. And then let him tell you what he thinks...and then after that all you can do is trust that his answer(s) are sincere. That's it. Trust him and trust yourself, but TRUST him. Doubts alone are not a reason to end something with someone you love, and it really sounds like you love him. Good luck in you lives together!
--StarLight88
If you wanna talk more, e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net!
So as of October 25 2006 I had known my bf a year and November 12 2006 will 6 months and I love him so much. I love him soooooo much and he means the world to me. He came into my life when I least expected it and he came in the way I least expected a guy to come to me. I had been going through issues after a hard a** break up with this jerk who was my 1st love who I had been with for a 1 year & almost month. He broke up with me and I so wanted to hurt him, anyways I prayed to go for him to bring someone around I dont care who it was jsut to help me cope through it all. 2 days lata after I prayed that my now bf showed up like I said in the least expected way. He was perfect but I didnt love him at first neither one of us expeted to fall in lvoe but it sorta happened. He is so damn amazing and I am so addicted to him, and he said he couldnt leave me ever if he wanted cause im his addiction like major. HE says he loves me and he has never felt this way for another girl like he does for me. He is like I have loved girls before but not like you. He says I am different then any girl he has met before. We have tlaked about marriage and kids a few time, but anyways let me get to the point I wanna know if this dude right here seems like mr right!! I am 17 and a senior in high school and him the same so its not like I am way young anymore and he anit my 1st love but you think he might be the one?
Rainbow23 is right, very right. Don't rush into anything. I understand that what you're feeling is very intense, it practically consumes you, these feelings of love and need.
But you're still really young, I mean, really young. You've got your whole life ahead of you, so please rush into something on the basis that you are both crazily in love. That's good. Congratulations! Perhaps the two of you are meant for each other, but it's really too soon to know.
My advice is to finish your academic career first...go to college! Seriously. You guys can either attend the same or go to different ones. But college is the closest thing to being in the "real world" without being in it. If your relationship can survive that, then you two have found something special that people often spend their whole lives looking for.
Don't take what you have for granted, be aware that if this is what you want then you will be tested, either by life, people, and even each other. If this is what you want, if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person it is important to conquer each issue together, and to understand...what being together really means. As cliche as this sounds, relationships (married or otherwise, regardless of how in love you are)aren't always a simple walk through the park, there tough stuff.
All I have is one question for you, and the only person you truly have to answer honestly is yourself:
"Are you ready?"
--Star
(If you wanna talk some more, e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)
ok so i like this guy right but he's been going out with one my friends for like a year but now they on a break. and i know he still likes her buut my best guy friend is his boy so he's like he likes u alot but he still likes the other girl so like yeh i have no idea what i should doo still like him or blahh iddnoo hdfsfdklsjdfskl
help please?
Okay, In my little world...if a girl's my friend, her boyfriend is off limits until otherwise specified. If I like him too, which has happened in the past, and they've broken up, I'll wait awhile and before I go for it, I'll make sure she doesn't mind.
Judge your friends emotions though, if she's heart broken, it'd probably be best to wait awhile.
My suggestion here is to just give everyone involved a little time. I doubt your feelings are going anywhere...
yea so listen up
my girlfriend just broke up with me but i feel there is still feelings between us but she said she broke up with because of distance but the thing is our towns are literally neighbors
so what do i do
do i pursue the relationship
or not?
To be brief, let her know how you feel, but if she still insists on your not being together give her space. Respect her wishes and give her time to sort things out...
Talk to her and let you know you understand, ultimately you cannot make anyone love you...but you can be brave and put yourself out there...
--Star
how do you get a guy who is interested in you hooked???
...Step 1: Just be yourself...
Now, tips on how to get the guy, while still being yourself.
Smile! Guys love girls who have a great smile, and who show it off.
Wear clothes that are flattering to your body, but not overly exposing...no matter what a guy says, 9 times out of 10...he likes a girl who knows how to dress without making herself look like 'you know what'. Girls who are easy...eh, aren't treated too nice.
Find a signature perfume that you really like, and wear it often, so that it becomes your own scent. And whenever he smells it elsewhere, you'll be one of the first images that pops into his mind!
Find excuses to be around him, or try and catch him alone somewhere. Find something that the two of have in common...like a class, or an evil teacher.
Find things to compliment him about in the hallway or something, like: "Nice hair" It shows that your noticing him, but at the same time doesn't look like your too pushy...
Most of all, just be yourself, because if whoever this special guy doesn't want you for you...find someone else who does, girlfriend!
--Star
(Wanna talk more? E-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)
talk to. its about a boy
im f/15
i transferred to another school in sep. and well...i have a boyfriend now. he asked me out two days ago and i only known him for less than a month (is that bad?) but he goes to my school. i always wanted to wait for the perfect boyfriend for me like the one im goin to marry and and have kids with but i guess i was just feeling like i needed a boyfriend.. now that im goin out with him i realize that he's not my type but it has been only 2 days. part of me wants us to be over and another part of me wants to be with him. but i feel like it's too late to leave him because i dont want to make him mad or feel bad that i dont have the same feelings..the girls in my school say that he goes from girl to girl and i've seen how he was talkin to other girls and then me. i dont know what to do. i think i just want somebody because of my hormones, not that im thinking about loosing my virginity to him(made the decision to do so when i marry). i havent tounge kissed him yet because it'll be my first time and im nervous like what do i do? i've kissed him on his lips though and i think i had my eyes open lol i cant really remember. but yea i feel like i went to fast that we should have took some time to get to know more of each other before we went out. (we took some time but it wasn't enough). what do you think i should do about the situation also have u ever been tounge kissed..can you tell me what it's like.. i had plenty of chances to experience it but chose not to...thanx
It's not too late babe, its never to late. It's wonderful that you have made the decision to give such a special gift to your husband, and that you have the guts to say so.
It's been two or three days, so, I'd say give it another week, but no more. If you're sure, then be sure. Trust yourself. He'll feel worse if you continue to date him. If you want a chance to salvage any part of your relationship and be friends then end it soon, and don't feel bad. You're being honest with yourself.
Just make sure that the rumors you're hearing around school aren't the underlying factors influencing your decisions...
And by the way, the purpose of dating is to look for a potentiial husband or wife, but also to see what you like or don't like in a person, or see what types of personalities you may or may not be compatible with, thats all. So don't be afraid to date.
And as for french kissing, it can be a little messy...and you know if the person is doing it wrong if you end up with saliva all over your face or his tongue is being jammed down your throat. It can be fun though, and feel rather nice...ah, with the right person...
(Hope this helps! Wanna talk more? Feel free to contact me at cardenb@countryday.net)
ok well ive liked this guy since around the time school started. then he started going out with my friend and they barely ever talk or do anything. they look uncomfortable around eachother but yesterday after school they kissed. all that keeps playing in my head is him leaning down to kiss her. please tell me what i can do to block that image out of my head and not be so worried that anytime i turn around they will be kissing
Try this:
Play it in your mind one time without cringing, or tearing up, or even disgust. Play it one time and one time only, and then file it away like you would if you saw it happen in some movie a long time ago. When you see them at school, think of something else...find another memory that you have of your friend and use that to block out the other image.
If they do start making out at every corner, sometime when its just the two of you, suggest that they tone it down...at least in public, and if they are making you uncomfortable, sit her down and tell her just that. You don't have to tell her why, because that could put a strain on your relationship, just tell her that she is uncomfortable. Plain and simple.
If she really cares enough, she'll do her best to take your feelings into consideration.
(Hope this helps! Wanna talk more? Feel free to contact me at either cardenb@countryday.net)
so i've met this guy last jaunary. we've been dating since march.. and i lost it to him (lets just say i didnt think about it before i let things happend). and well for the past month or so, i've been feeling so annoyed and irritated by him! i've tried breaking up with him twice! its not working!! hes not letting it hapend! he bugs so much! and ive told him im annoyed by him! he just gets mad and says he doesnt do anything to annoy me! half of it is him that bugs to be arownd me, and then the other half is me, that i get annoyed easily! ive tried asking for a break, but he says hes only gona give me my space.. but thats not even working! he still constantly calls, text, ask if he can come over everyday! and i dont know what to do about it! and i feel like hes always trying to win me over from my friends! and i hate it!! please help asap!
Tell him NO!
Don't answer his calls, or text messages. Ignore him at school.
If this doesn't work and he's still persistent, get someone else involved, as previously suggested.
13/m ok i like this girl. I have a strong felling she likes me , but im not sure. is there any way of knowing without having to say anything to her. it sounds like im shy but im not i just dont want to mess anything up 'cause weve been friends for about 4 years. and that friendship is really important to me.thanx alot in advance.
The previous poster was right, you just might have to take a chance.
However, you could take things a little slower and just find a reason or two to hand out together sometime. If you're uncomfortable doing something outside of school, find a reason to sit with her at lunch! Do you have mutual friend?
If so, you're in! If not, then its possible to find another way. Maybe you can study together...
It may take a little longer, but you may find out that you just want to be friends, or that you like her even more than you thought.
(Hope that helps! Anymore questions, please feel free contact me at cardenb@countryday.net!)