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Hey loves. My names Hannah, I'm 18 years old and I'm currently a freshman student majoring in psychology at Midwestern State University in Wichita Falls, Texas. I'm an easy going laid back type of girl who loves to have fun and help people out. I'm great at giving advice that most of my friends consider me the "motherly type" minus all the boring lecture and things you definately don't want to hear. Some of my hobbies include surfing, snow boarding, shopping and just having a good time with the people I love. If you have any questions at all don't hesitate and feel free to ask. I'm open to answering anything that will help you out in the long run and make you feel better about the situations your struggling with. Thanks a lot and lots of love :)

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ok, i have been with this guy for a while, and the only time i ever see him happy is when we are together, and our mutual friends say the same thing, but he keeps pushing me away, his mom died in his arms 3 years ago and he was really close to her, some one told me it sounds like he loves me cuz he doesnt wanna lose me. does anyone have any ideas???? please help me!

Personally, I think he's pushing you away because he does't want to lose you. He's trying not to get too close because he's afraid of abandonment. Usually people who go through such dramatic experiences like losing a parent most likely become this way. It will eventually heal, however, he may struggle with this problem throughout his entire life and possibly even adult hood. Tell him about your feelings and let him know that you support him 100%. Best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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i took a girl on a first date with a girl and she is a sophmore and i am a freshman. she made me pick the movie and i accidently picked a blood and guts movie. she said she liked it and i asked her the next day for a second date and she said yes. do you think this is a second date out of pitty?

absolutely not. she obviously had a great time on the date and just wants to spend more time with you. i wouldn't worry about it at all. congratulations, you may have a new girlfriend on your hands! :)
xoxo
//hannah

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i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?

thanks for your time.
18/f

I don't necessarilly think your wrong for feeling the way you do, however I do think your over reacting a bit. It's not like your boyfriend doesn't want to hang out with you it's just that he wants some alone time with "just the guys" because he's spent the last two new years holidays with you. I would look at this situation as an advantage and grab a few of your girl friends together to party. Don't feel so down about it. It's really not as bad as you think and I'm sure your boyfriend didn't intend to hurt your feelings. Best of luck!
xoxo
//hannah

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I think I'm in love with my best guy friend. And that's cool and all, but he has a girlfriend, who I've met a few times and she's simply awesome. He says he's been in love with her for a few years, and she goes to a different school. They started dating over the summer, and I thought I would be okay with it all. You see, I've liked him since my sophomore year, and we're seniors now. And I really was okay with it all for a while, but then he started getting really flirty, and it's confusing me too much. What should I do?

As far as having a relationship with him goes, I don't really think there's much you can do. If he's in love with another girl and if they've been together for a long time then getting in the way of that relationship will just cause a lot of problems and unwanted drama. I can't blame you for having feelings for him and I also can't give you the best advice on this sitaution but if I were in your shoes I would set aside a time to talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him that you have had feelings for him since sophmore year and that him flirting with you while having a girlfriend is hurtful and could also damage his relationship as well. Tell him to back off and focus on his girlfriend if that's what he wants or make up his mind because obviously in the back of head he has some sort of feelings for you otherwise the flirting wouldn't be going on at all. Hope I helped and best of luck.

xoxo
//hannah

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hey well....my ex boyfriend and me were best friends b4 we went out...(the entire reason i didnt wanna date him) but now that we broke up after almost a year of dating every time i read something about relationships being torn apart i break down and cry...but now that he broke up with me ive started to cut myself and go into deep depressions...i want him bak bc when i was with him...there was never a time when i wasnt happy...he could make me smile no matter how sad i was...he might have made a few mistakes but so have i...i juss want him to b happy but i also juss want him to say that in order for him to b happy he needs to b with me...i also started smokking when he broke up with me...idk what to do...my life is going to hell since he broke up with me...idk waht to do...i want him bak but i want him to b happy...

signed ~*lost...

P.S.- y cant i b happy???

unfortunately you can't change the way a person thinks or feels. if your boyfriend broke up with you and you know that he doesn't want to get back together then you have to learn to accept the fact that things are over and move on. it's a harsh reality but it's true. i know that your going through a very hard time because ironically enough i've been through a similiar situation myself. it took months for me to realize that things were really over and that i would never be able to look him in the eyes and tell him i love him with all my heart ever again. it's rough for any girl to tackle but it can be done and i know this for a fact because it happened to me. staying strong and keeping a positive attitude will help a ton. make sure to keep your friends and family extra close, letting them know the situation that your in so they could offer some comfort and compassion. take up some after school activities or go to the gym a few days a week. keep yourself occupied and your mind off the situation and eventually you'll notice that each and every day you'll forget about your ex a little more. stay strong and don't turn to inflicting pain upon yourself because it will only make the situation worse than it already is. best of luck.

xoxo
//hannah

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