I am a legal expert during the day and a philosopher at night, but I'm also a friend and counselor to many, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
My name is Shawn, I am 22 years old, and I am from Chicago, Illinois. I work at a law firm as a paralegal and legal specialist, while in the evening, I am currently studying at a law school.
Gender: Male
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Occupation: Paralegal
Age: 22
Member Since: February 18, 2009
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I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. I'm in my senior year of high school and he is a few years older at a college many miles away. I am going away to college next year.
It doesn't seem like that big of a deal, since our relationship has been long distance for the most part anyways, except for winter break, spring break, and the summer (he lives about 10 minutes away from me so i always see him when he is home). But we talk every single day and we have really fallen for each other.
I've always been one to say that it is stupid to try and hold on to a relationship through college. College is a time for new experiences and new relationships, etc. However, now that i'm actually in the situation, it is hard. I have such strong feelings for him and we make each other so happy.
I just don't know what I'm going to do when I go away. I don't know if we should still try and make it work, or take a break, or end it all together. I'm pretty sure neither of us wants to end it. I mention it every once in a while to him but we both decide that we just want to enjoy the time we have together including this whole summer ahead of it and make the best of it. And then we can talk about it when the time comes. I think this is best, but it's hard to keep it off of my mind.
If i could get some feedback/advice/some of your own experiences and situations (positive or negative), that would be so helpful. Thank you!
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It all depends on what you define a relationship
as, and how your needs our of a relationship are.
If you honestly see a future between you two, I
say, yeah, go for it.
If you don't, then you deserve better than a
L.D.R. with no possible future.
Be good to yourself.
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Hi, I'm a 17 year old female. and I have been in a relationship with a guy for almost a year and a half. we've been really close our whole relationship. until about 4 months ago, when I started liking someone else. It turned into a huge mess, we fought, and broke up. I was with the other guy a lot. and eventually I realized that i didn't like the other guy and I missed my ex. so after a lot of hard work, we got back together. and we have been pretty good, got back to our old relationship, but there has always been a trust issue. he doesn't trust me and i know it. even if he says he does, he just does things that prove he doesn't. I'm starting to just be over it. I love him of course, but I don't really want to be in a relationship anymore. I'm going to college next year and we're gonna break up anyway. but we go to a SMALL highschool and have the same friends. I would feel alone and be littled if i broke up with him. plus, he thinks I like someone else, so he'd freak and shit would hit the fan. I feel horrible because I don't know how to act. I still act how I used to, but I don't feel the same inside. what should i do?? (link)
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My advice is that you end it now, before it gets
even more serious than it already is, and thus
causing the healing process for the both of you to
need even more time.
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i like this boy name JOE he soooo cute, funny, smart, but he already has a girl freind and i want to tell him how i feel but without making him feel weird. (link)
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Go ahead and let him know. he just might
pick you over her. You're only young once. :-)
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have you ever been so completely fooled by a guy? so entirely PLAYED? the feelings of disappointment and anger are fired up inside me. i dont know weather i should cry or punch my pillow and scream. i feel so stupid. how could i have fallen for his bullshit?
encouraging words might be helpful? (link)
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You deserve much better than this. i think in
modern times, almost everyone has been played on.
Lord knows, I've had girls cheat on me many times.
The best thing you can do, is to remind yourself,
you deserve better. Keep repeating this and the
sting will cool off.
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hiya, im 20 i have a boyfriend of 2yrs, we are not that close anymore, we keep arguing etc and i try to leave him but i cant. anyway, i know this guy whoa 29, married with 2 children. his mum has just passed away after having cancer [she was a close family friend] i see him often and we are really close and have loads in common. we both want each other and are always flirting & touching. we always text each other and he has told me he is having the 7 yr itch with his wife [they dont really get on, she is a bitch] anyway last night we got carried away and he has his hands down my bra and we kissed. it was so amazing, never felt anything like it before with my bf. we both want each other so much, its being going on for about 3/4 months but this is the first time i havent hidden my feelings and kissed him. i dont regret it at all but im so confused. he is just using me to try and get some sex or does he genuinly like me? he always says we have loads in common and he worries about me when i go out drinking etc.
i think i might be falling for him and have no idea what to do!!
emma xx [uk] (link)
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Well Emma, it sounds like he's using you to make
up for what he's not getting out of his marriage.
My advice is that you don't allow yourself to become
an object. You can become emotionally hurt by the
catastrophic results that situations like these
always seem to bring about.
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