Hi Im Shandy ! Im 16 years old and my Birthday is December 1st ! I am a christian and i love the Lord with all my heart ! My parents are divorced and i have one lil brother his name is Brandon and he is 5 years old. I have a bf who is the greatest his name is Drew Plemmons and im deeply in love with him we have been dating for almost 3 months now ! If u wanna know anything else just ask away ! I hope i will be able to give all of u great advice ! Thanks for looking at my column! :)
E-mail: Shandiebaby11@yahoo.com
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Location: Mount Pleasant, NC
Occupation: Student Im a senior in high school and im homeschooled
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My guy friend..lets call him K..likes me and I like him back..atleast I think so. We got kind of deep and talked about our feelings and stuff..and he told me all the reasons he liked me..I really liked him at that point..he's so sweet. One weired problem..when I'm not talking to him...or just talking to him online..I feel like I can't decide if I really like him or not..but when I talk to him in person it's totally different. I dont know I can't stop thinking about it and it's tearing me apart. If anyone could help..that would be GREAT! THANKS! (link)
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You need to look to him as a friend for now and one day just ask him really how he feels..;) hope i helped ya !
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ok this might be cheesy but i have no freekin idea hat to get my bf for x-mas.. he isnt into skateboarding... not like punkish stuff and like hes just kinda a prep i guess.. but im soo clueless on what to get him! i dont wanna get him somthing that he thinks is retarted!!
help! 13/female (link)
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A sHirt from his favorite store...or a gift certificate from his favorite store hope i helped ya hun !
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i like a boy named jim and my friend asked him for me if he'd ever consider to go out with me/she said nice things about me to him/etc. he said he wasnt sure because he doesnt know me well enough to do that. obviously this means to get to know him better. but i have the horrible case of SHYNESS only around HIM! and ive tried really hard to fix this. i need guy's opinions: what would convince him to go for me? my friend's say he'd go for me it's just i need to get out and show him what im really like. ive got everything that would make him say yes, except my voice keeps holding back. i need advice and help.. any is great- thanks so much. oh yeah- im 14 and try not to mention asking to go places, because in our grade, we arent really into that mode yet. ;) (link)
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You're too young anywayz..sorry to say just be friends first then see what happens..that way u look interested in getting to know him not just wanting a boy friend ! Hope i helped
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I like this guy a lot, but he goes to a different school and lives kinda far away from me. Well we meet acouple of weeks ago and really hit it off. We talk on the phone alot and just resently i went to the movies with him. At the movies nothin happend. I didnt really know what exactly we were (friends, friends with benefits, dating). So i texted his phone later that night to ask. He said that he liked me and he wants to be more than just friends. Well last night at a basketball game we went to, i meet his parents who reffered to me as a friend of his. We just sat at the game and talked. Then afterwards he walked me outside and kissed me. I really like this guy, but i dont want to just be some girl he calls up to get some from, i really want to have a relationship with him but i dont know what the next thing i should do is?!?!?! I might have the chance to go see him again tonight, should i take it?????
Please help, i'll rate high because its so long (link)
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You should def go ? But how old are u ? I mean if ur younger parents may refer to u as a friend because they don't really wanna fess up to their son having a gurl friend ya kno ? But take the chance and be open with him ! He will come around and his parents too ! ;) Hope i helped!
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I met a guy almost 5 years ago who was everything I could have ever wanted. He was perfect in every way for me...then we lost touch. We were too shy to keep in touch, but for awhile after we left each other...I can't stop thinking about how perfect it was. What do I do now? (link)
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You need to get ahold of him ! Find out where heis and what he is doing ! Don't let love pass u by hun GO GET HIM ! First Loves are really never over ! good luck !
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I am and have been sexually attracted to my bestfreind.We grew up together and have lived together acouple times. He moved out of town so I didn't have to face it. NOw he's back and I wont him more and more everyday. He doesn't know that I like him like that. I have a boyfriend and he has a couple girls, but i am feeling him. What am I to do? His mom and my mom been bestfriends since grade school and it will shock the whole family. Should I tell him? And will it lead to what I wont? (link)
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You should def tell him...and soon ! True love last forever u will never know what will happen until u tell him ~! Good luck ! ask me anytime !
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i love my bf but i dont know what to do. last year i really liked this guy, we had a lot of fun but never went out. this year we are in no classes together though. i saw him at lunch the first day of school. our eyes met and i felt really hurt. i feel such a deep connection with him, but i feel like i just like my bf as a crush. i dont want to break my bf's heart, he is wonderful. im so upset, i dont know what to do now. (link)
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Tell your bf how u feel and tell the other guy ! True love waits so if u find out the other dude isn't the one and ur bf really loves u then he will be there if not maybe u and the other guy are meant to be ! Hope i helped ! ;)
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hey this is the girl with the friend thats pregnant..u got it all wrong..we are all praying and talking to her and encouraging her to do the right thing but we cant tell her we support her in her choices shes making with her non christian boyfriend, we know a sin is a sin but we cant support what she is doing..we have to get her back on track and telling her what shes doing is ok, is not good....anyway, thanks 4 ur advice! (link)
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Oh Okay yes i totally agree that you can't agree with how she is living but u can't change the choices she makes either i suggest praying for her. God will deal with her heart and about the way she is living ! God Bless !
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OK this relates to the other questions ive asked. I'm really shy around girls and its hard for me to not studder when i talk to a girl. I get all sweaty and clammy when i have to talk to a girl i like. My mind goes blank and i cant think what to say. Got any pointers on how to fix this? (link)
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Be calm ! Girls love attention so u have to get outta not talking to them ! Just be urself relax they will think ur cute even if u are shy ! Gurls love to talk so belive me all u have to say is hey whats up ? and she will prolly talk ur head off for hours ! unless u get a shy gurl ! Which i wouldn't recomend ! Hope i helped !
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ok...well...i set two of mi best friends.so now they are dating.but after ive set them up its like i like him now.but i set him up with mi best friend.so now here i am waiting for this guy whos dating mi best friend who i like who says he likes me back who might break up with my other best friend now! what should i do??? (link)
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I think u should get him to talk to ur best friend and tell her that he likes u and if its okay with her that u two would like to hook up. Say that ur not trying to hurt her feelings that he thinks hes just not her type and he should try to date u for awhile and get to know u ! Hopefully all of u can stay best friends..But if its going to hurt ur best friend then i wouldn't date the guy ! Ur friends will be there when boy friends aren't there ! I hope i helped u ! Good Luck !
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i used 2 live in north carolina nd i had a great boi friend. then i moved nd we broke up because he was cheating on me.. well now i'm moving bac nd i still love him nd he loves me nd he said he never cheated on me, but wen we 1st went out he was cheating on dis otha girl w/ me. sp should i go bac out w/ him or not? plz help me
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First of all u rock becuz i live in NC TOO ! and secondly u should sit down and talk to him start out as friends and see what happens ! Hope i helped !
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I've liked the same guy for 2 years. We are friends and all, but I know he'll never like me...But now I have two questions. My best friend EVER likes him now, and she always gets the guys she wants. I'm so mad!! What should I do about her? Also, how do I get over him and move on to another guy that might actually like me? I really need help so I'll have a good school year without losing a friend or being obsessed with a guy that'll never like me!!? (link)
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First of all does your best friend know you like the guy ? If so she should not even try to date him if she is a good friend ! I think u should tell her how u feel ! And about the guy ! Gurl there are soo many guys out there who would like u and ur personality better than anyone ! U just have to let him come to u !:) Good luck ! Hope i helped ! Feel free to ask me for advice anytime www.advicenator.com/shandiebaby11 !
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hi, i have this major crush on this guy who's been my best friend for basicly ever.i told him how i felt and he sed it was fine w/e u know? but now he acts like he's scared of me and he's like acting all paranoide with me which is something i told him i didn't want happening between us just cuz i like him,and thats why i didn't tell him, he sed it was fine nothing like that could get between us! He's even meen once in a while so obviously it did get between us! wha should i do, what's happening?
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I think its totally awesome that u told him how u feel ! Some people are friends forever and are in love and they never tell the other person ! If i was u i would call him up and invite him over ! I would ask him if he likes u too and i would tell him that u want to act normal and still be like best friends! If he likes u too then u may just have u a new bf and a great best friend ! Hope i helped feel free to ask me advice anytime !
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i was talking to my boyfriend last night.. and we were jokeing around and he broght up somthing about him and his x-gf kissing.. and i mean it was when they were going out and like that didnt bother me... but he talks about her alot.. like fun thngs they used to do... and it like hit me that he had been "in love" before too... and well.. i know how all my relations ships and my feelings havent compared at all to this one... but i have no idea about his...... how do i ask him.. he always tells me just to talk to him about it.. but im scared to.. i dont know why.. i know he wont think twice to tell me everything... but still.. i dont know how to bring it up! (link)
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Just be honest with him..U can't have a good relationship without talking things through.. Just ask him say sweetie..I was wondering have u ever felt like this (u and him) with any other gurl ? And im sure he will tell u ! Don't stress over the small things gurl ! If he loves u and treats u good stay with him ! Hope i helped !
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months.... and we met at church camp where i asked jesus into my heart for the first time.. and that totally changed my life.. but then when we got home all reality came back.. i had used to be really bad.. such as have sex and drink... and well now i stopped all that and my boyfriend is really religious... and he found out about all that and he told me that when you ask jesus into your heart the first time all your sins from that past are forgiven... and he told me he loves me for who i am now and my past doesnt matter to him.... but now.... we were like in my pool and he get touchy feely.. and im not like that anymore.. we still didnt do anything or anthing. .but it scares me cuz i think that he might try to do something i dont want to.... and also... people sign his buddy profile guest boook telling him lies about me haveing sex with a 21 year old and stuff like that... and he still worries.. and ill tel lhim they arnt true.. but it still bothers him.. i dont know what to do... and my parents are leaving for a week and ofcourse me n him are ganna hang out... i just dont wanna do anything that we will regret... and i dont know how to tell him that without embarrasing him.... please help me!!!!! (link)
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Girl I have been in the same boat ! I asked Jesus into my heart about 6 months ago and it changed my whole life. You should sit down with your boy friend and tell him that you think the two of you should pray about it and try to wait to do sexually stuff when you get married. If he loves you and cares about what God thinks he will totally understand ! Also congrats on giving ur heart to Jesus he is soo awesome he is the friend that will never let u down ! Feel free to ask me questions anytime ! :)
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