Hello, I'm Samantha. I'm 18 and have been through some pretty bad situations before myself so i can really relate to alot of the questions you may ask me. I went through more then the average girl has probably been through before i was 14. And thats what really got me into giving advice. I'm really out going, i giving adivice and seeing that it really does help. I'm funny, nice and caring and i hope i can really help you all. If you need any adivece from me just send me and e-mail.
Yours truely
-Samantha
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There's this boy at my school. He's new, I'm a sophomore and he's a junior. Every time I see him in the hallway, he's checkin me out! And I think he's the cutest person I've ever seen in my life. The thing is, we have never talked, and probably never will becuase no classes, no mutual friends, and different groups... the groups part means like I'll never run into him at a party (he's kind of into the skater scene and I go to the weekend parties, and also I'm more popular than he is). So were not in the same group, but he is actually so attractive to me and there is just so much tension between us and I wanna hook up with himmm!! I have no idea how to approach this situation because theres a lot of setbacks. What should I do about him? (link)
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Well if you do really like this guy, then nothing should really stop you from talking to him. Next time you see this boy, just walk up to him and say "hi". Thats the best way to get things started.
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okay well i need some ideas for something to do for my boyfriend. i've done letters, dinner, photo album, picnic, coupon book, and movies. i cant think of anything else. so if you got some ideas that would be awesome. thanks very much. (link)
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Well what i would do is make him a really nice dinner. One he will never forget. Make sure your parents are out for the night and no one else is home if you can. Get some of his favorite music and play it in the background. Make him all his favoirte foods, maybe have some roses as a center piece. Make it unforgettable. Wear something really nice to so you look really pretty for him [[not like a really fancy dress or anything]].
Hope I helped!
Yours truly
-Samantha
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I am 26 years old and just recently started dating a guy about a month ago. We are having major major problems in the bedroom! He is always starting it off by kissing me all over fingering me and licking me, and then when i touch him he is soft.I am used to guy getting hard right away when we kiss passionately or he touches me. This one is a real challenge to get hard. I give him head and he is still soft. It gets pretty discouraging for me, I dont know what to do. I asked him if he has a problem, cause after all he is 36 so it might be getting to be an issue, He said no he has never had the problem before. I asked if he was attracted to me and he said YES. So where is the problem? am i the one doing this all wrong? Please help me. THere is a total blockage in the bedroom and this shouldnt be happening at all. (link)
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It sounds like he has a problem there. Your not doing anything wrong hun so don't worry. This happens all the time to men. Its called erectile dysfunction. He should probably see a doctor about this and he can get some pills for it so then maybe you would be satisfide with the results. It happens all the time and its not your fault.
Hope I helped!
Your truely
-Samantha
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I have been living with my boyfriend for two years. We live in a very small town without the possibility of EVER having a good future here. I have been planning on moving out of town within the next month. My boyfriend has no intention of leaving his home town, as he was born and raised here. Our relationship has been VERY rocky, but I have created a bond with him. I do love him, but I want to secure a comfortable living in my future. I'm not ready to leave him, and things between us have been going okay lately. What do I do? Or how do I talk to him about any of this?
21/female (link)
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This is a tricky one. Well maybe you dont have to leave his home town. Look around the small town and see if there are new houses for sale. If not you could probably build one.
But if there are no houses you like and are avaliable [[i know this may sound bad]] but maybe you could trick him into moving. Go online and look at houses for sale in the next towns over and when you see one you like take him to see it. Say you need to go to the store or something and drive by the house. Stop and point out how nice of a house it is and get him to look inside of it with you for a while. This may just get him to move into a new home you like. But you want to make sure that you plan ahead try calling up the people who live there and fill them in on what would be happening. Well thats all i got.
Hope I helped!
Yours truly
-Samantha
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Ok. So my bf's birthdays on the 29th of august, and i'm not allowed to be dating him, but i can hang out with him.
I'm sixteen, have a car, and don't know what to do with him for it...
I'm so stuck.
Does anyone know any cute places i can take him or anything nice i can do for him?
We've had sex and all and I want to take him somewhere special and low profile so my rents don't find out.
Is there anything i can do (sex wise) for him that'd be special?
please please pleaseee! (link)
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Well to make it look like you to are just hanging out for a while i would take him and a few of his friends to dinner then say goodnight to them [[make sure its kinda late]] then take him a little ways away to a beach where you know your parents would never find you or him. But remember its no ilegal to have sex on the beach so i wouldn't do it there. Stay on the beach for a while and when you think the time is right go to a room [[maybe rent a small hotel room]].
Hope I helped!
Yours Truly
-Samantha
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Ok,
Heres my situation. I work for the family business and my girlfriend lives approx 600 miles away. To make a long story short, we lived together before out of state away from home, but our relationship fell through, so I moved back home. We began talking a year later and we are both more mature ( I am roughtly 30) and ready for a serious relationship. We are happy together, but... I am supposed to inherit the family business, and if I leave, the business will be closed, and my father will take this fairly hard. I am close to my family, Ive always put family first. I am torn between the two. I mentioned to my father today about moving in a few months, and our conversation didnt go well. I could tell he was hurt, which inturn upset me. Ive always looked up to him. If I dont move, I will lose a really good girl, and the last thing i want to do is hurt her, but its not fair to my family as well...
Someone, please help me. This is a lose/lose situation for me.
Thanks! (link)
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This is a tough one. Well you really do care about this girl but you dont want to close the store then ask her to move down and live with you. But if there is no way for her to move in with you then your going to have to tell your father that this girl is more important to you and may even be your future. Tell him to either sell the store or get someone else to run it. Thats all I've got to offer you have a really hard question.
Hope I helped!
Yours truly
-Samantha
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okay so...i was with this guy for like almost 6 months. i broke up with him cuz he was always lying to me and hurting me. i gave him 3 chances and after that i was done. that wasnt the only reason i broke up with him... i also starting talking to and getting along with other guys. it was hard. ever since then for the past month he has called me everyday like 5 times a day telling me he misses me and wants me to take him back and that he loves me and needs me and wants me. and i have tried to explain to him that like i basically need to move on. like when him and i were together he seemed so perfect... and now that he and i are juss friends... well he is kinda annoying and weird. =/ but then hes like its okay i will wait for you. and im like okay... do you not get it?! like sometimes i find myself thinking about him... but in a ifferent way and its so hard to get over him when he calls like everyday!!! i seriously juss want to move on... but idk how to!!!! i juss like want to make it clear to him that i have been talkiing to other guys and there isnt that much hope for him and i.... but i dont wanna like break his heart... any advice?? (link)
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Well honestly anyway to tell him is going to break his heart, so you just really have to tell him that its over between you to and you gave him mulitple chances and he messed up everytime by cheating on you, hurting you and lying! Tell him your sorry but you've been seeing other guys and are intrested in some of them and to move on find new people.
Hope I helped!
Your truley
-Samantha
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I've been hangin with this girl I like for a few months, she's said she likes me, and I sorta made our last hangout a date. But she's just told me she really likes me, but she's not sure she wants a relationship right now, and is afraid to lose our friendship.
She might be a little guilty cause her mom has had a real rough go of relationships lately, but I don't know.
I don't know what to do! (link)
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Well honestly the best thing you could do at this point is stay friends with her for the time being and wait until shes ready to really date again. She's going through a tough time now and needs a little time to clear her head and really all she needs is a friend. So be there for her comfort her when she needs it and just be a good friend until shes ready to date again.
Hope I helped!
Yours truley
-Samantha
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Me and my one guy friend have been best friends for a good three or four years now, and it's been great. We never fight, we're always there for eachother, and we always have alot of fun and a really good time together.
This is basically one of those "both on-and-off like eachother" scenarios. He'd like me, ask me out, I'd ask to be just friends. Time'd pass, I'd start crushing on him a bit, and never say anything and he'd get a girlfriend, I'd move on. While having a girlfriend, he liked me again, I didn't, etc. etc. This has been going on basically for the whole time we've known eachother, and nothing's really happened, so it's kind of been in my mindset that if something were to happen, it most likely would've happened already.
It's always just been a worry of mine with that question: "Well what if we break up or something? I couldn't bear to lose him as a best friend." Cause out of all ex's, I've only been able to barely continue a random friendship with ONE. And this best friend has told me I'm one of the only girls to ever turn him down as a girlfriend, I'm worried this is going to be just a "thrill of the chase" thing. Finally snag the girl he never got. I've just been sort of used to liking him a bit and getting over it, I don't know if I could actually date him and get REAL deep feeling for him, and not just thinking of him as my friend.
I couldn't picture kissing him or anything, in my mind..it just seems strange. I keep thinking maybe I only have crushy feelings for him, because he's such a genuine nice guy, it's hard not to have SOME feelings for him, he's such a sweetheart. But I've also kind of been thinking about it, and with the certain mindset I've been in all summer, I don't even think I really want a boyfriend at the moment, I kind of just like being off on my own, and single.
But he's being persistant lately with this whole issue, and he never has been this advancing before. Usually he just explains his feelings, and we move on cause I never feel the same at the same moment he does. But now, he's speaking of wanting to kiss me and everything, and I'm just not sure how to respond. And I'm getting constant calls and texts now, and it's driving me crazy cause I'm trying to be very careful with my words now to not giving any "meanings" behind anything that might make him think one way or another.
I guess I'm just asking how should I tell him that I don't think it's gonna work out [ once more ]? That I kind of would rather just not see anybody right now? I just want to be very careful with how I word things so not to really hurt his feelings [ I mean I know his feelings are going to be hurt no matter what, but I still want to put it as nicely as I can ], and just try to keep our friendship intact as much as possible with the least awkwardness there can be. (link)
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Ouch! Thats a tough thing to go throuhgh. Well you really just have to explain as nicely as you can that your friendship means way more to you and you dont want to lose him as a friend. Tell him that you love him but not in the way he thinks. More like a brother.
Hope i helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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Well my boyfriend of a year & 3 months broke up with me June 1st. Im 15 & he was/is my first love. He was alot of my first & I was very happy with him , thing's got out of hand with all of the arguing and other things. I was so heart broken , cried everyday & it was tha worst time iv went through in my life! I still care so deeply about him , he doesn't seem to be taken it as hard as I am. Im doing alot better than I was , I don't cry alot .. im happy [ most of tha time ] & it doesn't bother me THAT BAD to not talk to him. but we go to tha same school , so I don't wanna go back ''/ Because i'll have to see him hanging around other girls & I don't want to have a bad school year because of it. Here are tha questions
-- Do you think he'll want me back or it will make him think seeing me everyday at school?
-- Wat are way's to get him to talk to me , instead of me talking to him?
-- How do you play " hard to get " .
May be silly but your answer's are GREATLY apprciated . Thanks (link)
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Well I've been there and trust me it does hurt. Well the best thing you could honestly do at this point would be to move on. It looks like this guy has moved on to. I know its not as easy as it sounds but the more you try to get him to notice you the more its going to hurt. So move on and try to find that guy that will really care about you and would never hurt you. I know it hurts but you have to try.
Hope my adive helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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I'm 13 [almost 14] female
Emelia = bestfriend 14/ f
Jordan = guy who likes me 15/ m
Nick = guy who likes me and who Emelia likes.12/m
Twaddlez = ex-boyfriend , I still love. 15/m
Okay , so Emelia liked this guy Nick and he liked her , after only meeting once.So then I was talking to him on MSN and we decided to hang out that day , this was 2 days ago.So , we hung out , had a good time ext...Then the next day when we talked , he told me he liked me and I said the same because he's an awesome guy BUT he'slike a foot and a half shorter than me and that BOTHERS me...So he calls me Pebblez , it's just a nickname or whatever and he put on his MSN name " luv ya Pebblez" and Emelia came on and FLIPPED at me because she asked me if I liked him a few days ago and I said no,then it changed.So she got pissed at me , but every other week she's mad about something , she always gets over it in a few days.
THEN to make it all the more complicated , Nick asked me out.I told him I'd sleep on it last night.But Emelia told him she loves him so much and he doesn't like her. AND okay , the thing I don't get is after Emelia dumped Nick , all she did was complain about how annoying he is...now that he's into me , she's all I LOVE YOU.
NOW for Jordan...I've known him for about a year and a half now , we're goin to the same school next year , he's always been super nice to me and all , but I just don't like him like that but he's so sweet , he could give me cavidies.
ANNNNNNNNNNNNNND , there's my [uhg] ex-boyfriend Twaddlez [yes Twaddlez lmao , don't ask], and he just dumped me like 2 Sundays ago and I loved him...I miss him and I really want him back...but he has a new girlfriend.BUT I know he still likes me a bit.And we share something special because he was a greener [make-out virgin] and we had a really romantic make-out session under the sun-set / stars ext and we just share a lot of special memories together.So , I have an advantage , but he's been out of town for a week , he's getting back soon though...
WHat should I do ? Who should I go for ? I know they'd all treat me right and all but honestly , the only person I want a relationship with is Twaddlez... (link)
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Well lets start with your best friend Emelia. It sounds like the only reason she said that Nick was annoying and all that, was because she still liked him and she was trying to recover from it but didn't want to show it to you or anyone else. So she complanied about him to make it seem more like she was over him and didn't care anymore. So now that your flirting with him and like him shes well jelous and its hurting her. Shes trying to show you this by flirting with him and saying she loves him so maybe he'll choose her and not you. It sounds like its really hurting her, so the best thing for you to do would be to say no to going out with him.
Well it sounds like this Jordan guy really likes you, but if you don't like him back the way he likes you then you have to be honest with him and tell him that you don't feel the same way. Tell him it would be best if you two were just friends.
But if you think that might hurt him then introduce him to another girl that you know he would like.
Now for the ex-boyfriend. If you really like him then i say wait for him. He and his girlfriend might one day break up and if they do then you'll be there waiting for him, but you have to give it some time. He's going to be in some pain if they do break up. Just be there for him for a while and if he does like you then he'll ask you out.
I hope my adive helps you.
Yours truely
-Samantha
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