Hey! Well just a quick word in. I like to give advice, but only when I know what I'm talking about, so I will only answer to certain questions that I'm positive about. But please ask me... send it into my inbox and if I can't help you I will tell you. I'm not going to give you a load of crap. Most of the time I can help you though. Please rate or give me feedback because I want to know how my answered affected you! And like most other columnists if you get mad about an answer because you asked a question on our opinion (Like "what do you think this means", etc) don't get mad.
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Ok, I'm an advicenator and always hate the boy questions, because there's so many, but now I actually have one, haha. I really like this guy, Drew. Last year, he ate in my lunch and we had chorus together. We flirted a lot. Like, at lunch, we would feed each other french fries! He was a little goofy-looking, but I still liked him. He even asked me to the Snowball, but it got cancelled. Well, this year, I hardly ever see him at all. I've only seen him a couple times. And he really changed. He cut his hair, so it's short and he spikes it, and highlighted it, so it's lighter. He's also wearing preppy clothes now. What I'm trying to say is...he got really hot. I mean, I still like him, not just for his hotness, but that's a huge bonus. Well I tried asking him to Homecoming, but he already had a date. So I figured I'd just ask him to Sadies. Well his date for Homecoming asked him to Sadies already. I don't know what to do. I know they're not going out. I never felt this way about a guy, which scares me! My friend and I are thinking about asking him and my other friend Sam to the movies next Saturday. What should I do???? I like him so much!!! Oh, and I'm pretty sure he knows I like him already.
Thanks, sorry so long!! (link)
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Hey! Yeah I have been in this situation before... sort of. lol. Here is my advice... just go up to him when you see him ( I wouldn't do it in front of tons of guys/girls....alone or a few people around is better) and say "Hey! We never talk this year!" or "Hey! You never talk to me anymore!" and that one will get him saying " How do you know YOU don't talk to me" and then you are like "well..." then yall will probably *laugh* or something lol and that will get the convo started. If you don't have a chance to talk to him or yall are to far away smile or something! So then he will at least feel like he SEES you so it won't be so awkward. It seems like he liked you last year so there would be a good chance he does this year! Just talk to him frequently.
And YES you should ask him to the movies. But I would recommend maybe making the group a little bigger just for the first time yall go to the movies so it won't be so uncomfortable. But the next time it can get smaller, etc. But YES ask him!!
Good luck! xoxo
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ok so my couisn has these to friends that i have been talking to on the computer, we have hung out like 3 times or whatever, but that was before one of them and i started flirting, so i was talking to him and i was talking to him about my school bonfire/homecoming thing and i dont no how it happened but now he is coming, and i dont wnat him to feel lonely, because he really doesnt no anyone at my school, so do you think i should invite the other boy too and my cousin, but i dont want to make anything akward with them because we will be all flirty adn everything...so i dont no what to do i just need help...thanks!! xoxo (link)
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I think you should invite all of them because that could be awkward and then he will have someone to fall back on in case you want to go of for like 5 minutes on your own and he won't be lonely. So yes I think you should definatly invite them.
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i have 2 questions...
1. what is the law about dating a person over 18 if your a minor? some people say its not illegal till u have sex some say its if you touch in any sexual way even kissing
2. i am 15 and the guy i like is 18 is that soo bad....
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No its not bad. The law is that when you are 18 it is illegal to have sex with someone 3 years younger than you aka a minor. It is NOT illegal to kiss/makeout/ etc etc. sex is though. Plus if he likes you it could because he wants some and he thinks you'll put out.
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OK. So I went to a coalfield football game, and one of my old friends asked me to go out with him. I did feel sorry for him and I wanted to say no but I couldnt and said yes. He is always calling me 'strawberry' and calls himself 'lovebunny'. eeeeewwwwww!!!!!! so were bf/gf and I dont want to hurt his feelings but I do not like him at all. I mean for a friend he's ok but not any thing more! so what do I do? should I wait a lil while b-4 breaking up with him or do it tomarrow or today? should I tell him in person/ or on the phone? Im loosing my mind here!! I dont want to hurt him but he's just, not my type..
as long as you even try to tell me how to fix this problem i will rate high!! signed Savannah Reese (link)
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Okay the best way I would have to say is in person but if you feel you can't do it in person then on the phone. Okay well just tell him you like him as only a friend. And no you shouldn't wait because then you are leading him to believe that you really really like him when you don't you only like him as friends. You should do it as soon as you see him next and do it privatly not when tons of people are standing around watching. So good luck and I hope I helped!
P.S. I hope you learned your lesson with this one! Only say yes when you really mean it and not to be nice because you will be stuck in this situation again! lol Good luck with it all!
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Okay so theres this guy lets call him scott. During the summer my friend Sam started to like him..alot. but he never liked her and he told my friend joe that he liked me so i found this out and started liking him but i didnt tell anyone that cuz i cant do that to sam but then my friend katie comes along and says she likes himso i cant do that to sam but katie can..joe says scott still likes me but i cant like him or anything becasue of katie and sam so what do I do...p.s talknig might b an optin but im sooo confuced and i rate x-tra high (link)
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Just like him! Tell your friends you do. You have just as much right to like him as they do. And if he likes you back and yall go out in the end if they are true friends they will see it was for the best and they will move on to the next guy. Trust me, its not fair to you not to like someone just because your friend does... its not like they are going out! That would be a completely different story... so just tell your friends you might like him but you aren't sure yet and make sure you can trust your friends before you tell them. And if your friends aren't nice to you about it...they wouldn't be that good of friends in the first place. But I am sure they will understand. Good luck!!
PiNkKiSs43
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I'm so holy-crap overwhelmed by everything right now! Most of it's from this girl. Don't tell me that teens can't love. I'm 13, and I know what love is. I know I'm in love. But she doesn't like me back. So that's two things so far, love and rejection. Then there's jealousy, when I found out that she had an ex and her first kiss. Her ex is coming back. I know it. I can just feel it. And I have nobody to talk to about it: my parents don't understand (I tried), my friends are as equally nerdy as I am, and don't know a thing about love; I'm way too busy to go see a therapist; I'm too shy to tell her all this.
And of course school. I made all the advanced classes, so that's kinda annoying. But not as much.
And finally, orchestra. I'm in my regular orchestra, a chamber orchestra, an ensemble orchestra, and a jazz orchestra, and I'm also taking private lessons. So that's a holy-crap lot of music to practice.
And now I'm way to overwhelmed to focus on anything. I feel like Charlie Gordon, from Flowers for Algernon. At one point, he described himself as "a blind man allowed to see the light" and that's exactly how I feel. I never knew emotions before. Ever. Now that I know love, rejection, jealousy, etc, I know how to feel. And I've been trying to get over that girl, but I just can't! I can't even remember how I went through my life before I became obsessed with her, before I found Advicenators and started asking and ansering questions, before I knew how to love! I want to be normal again! I want to continue life as I previously had! I can't do anything! I'm just blabbering on and on and on, but there's so much to say! AAUGH!!!!!!!! I'm so pissed off, frusterated, angry, weirded out, overwhelmed, confusticated, and just plain SCREWED UP! Please help! I can't go on with life, I'm losing sleep! (link)
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Okay this might be a long answer but first of all after you read this you need to CALM DOWN.
* First please just take a breather for at least 5 minutes. I know you say you have so much to do and are so overwhelmed but you need to like meditate or something. Okay here I bet you have at least 10 minutes to spare if not make it shorter. Sit down somewhere on your bedroom floor, on your bed, kitchen table, anywhere and preferably alone. Close your eyes and don't think anything like "okay now I get to sit here for ten minutes" or anything. Think about what you want or what all you have to do for a few minutes. After that just relax, and try not to think about this girl. You need "YOU time" or just time to think.
* Next question, do you have a planner or assignment book so you can write down when you have what? If not, you should get one and it could help you not feel as overwhelmed.
* Now on to this girl. Don't get offended by any of this I'm just writing down my thoughts on what you said in the question. For a long time I liked this guy and I was exactly like you, I was all over the place! I was obsessed with everything about him... or so I thought. After a really long time, I realized I didn't even KNOW him that well!! I mean we weren't best friends, we didn't talk that much, etc. I'm not saying you don't know what love is but do you really know everything about her and not just what it looks like on the surface? Oh and how do you know she doesn't like you back? Did she say it flat out " I dont like you like that"?? If not, then you never know. But if so, then you might want to try and move on especially if she's making your life so complicated. Before you get way in over your head, consider this. Do you really KNOW her? Or do you just like the idea of being in love with someone? I know you can't just snap your fingers and be over someone, believe me I know, but it does take time. Last thing, if you feel you really really know her and you really do love her, take a chance! It's better than wasting all your time day-dreaming about it and losing sleep!
Hope I helped and if you have any details you want to add or any other questions, just drop it into my inbox.
-PiNkKiSs43
-P.S. I have read that Flowers of Algernon story and I know what you mean.
***Edit-Some people just get scared when you tell them they like you. Why don't you just try and go back to being best friends? Say more than just "Hi" start a conversation. It's better than nothing right? And after you are back to that you never know where that might lead....
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Ok I asked this girl to Homecoming and then if she said YES i was going to ask her out! But then she said NO to going with homecoming! Here are her exact words: "well i dont really like you that way cuz i think your such an awesome friend and i wouldnt want anything to happen and it hurt our friendship" So what should I do now? When girls say this what do they actually mean? (link)
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Okay well a few things. And I'm seriously giving you my OPINION and every girl is different so she might mean something completely different than what other girls say. But in general we are all the same... I know its confusing right? lol
Where did you ask her? online, the phone, face to face? Any of those places could of effected her answer in different ways. And one more thing before I give you my opinion, are you like pretty close to this girl??
Okay well if you are then she probably seriously meant what she said. Who would want to ruin a friendship over a relationship that might not last? Because it is definatly hard to go back to friends after breaking up.
But if you aren't that close, I'm sorry, but I think either she wanted to go with someone else or she didn't like you like that. sorry. I know it sucks right?
So there is my opinion and it just differs on all those things. Please don't be mad about what I said. But she could just not want to ruin a friendship with you. Girls think differently than guys. So just think about that and maybe you can ask a different girl or just go alone and meet your friends there. It still is ALOT of fun that way too. Hope I helped* PinKkiSs43
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OKAY......so my friend (carley)likes this guy A LOT (chris) but he already had a girl friend (emily)..............but heres the thing.....hes only going out with her bc he knows that she will do stuff with him.....and shes only going out with him for the same reason even though she likes OTHER guys @ the same time.......(they have been together for only a week now)
when we went to the movies carley and chris were soooo flirting and he was always looking @ her and stuff......and it was SOOO obviouse that they had a thing for eachother....
but he STILL has a girlfriend....what should carley do?? should she tell chris? and possibly ruin her friendship with emily.....
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I definatly think Carly should wait on this one. It doesnt seem like they are going to last long especially since Emily probably likes other guys and Chris might like Carly. So I think its probably one of those "relationship" things that only last a few weeks. If it last more than a month and a half, I think carly should tell chris and neither of them tell Emily. But thats only if they don't break up by then. Which they probably will.
-PinKkiSs43
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