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Okay so, Valentines Day is coming soon and I need some ideas on what to get my boyfriend. I've been dating him for eight months, and hes hard to shop for. I want something thoughtful so, I dont want to get him a gift card.
So if you have any ideas please help me out :)
That would be great (link)
Ah Valentines Day, the day of love unless of course your stuck in a rut. What to get your boyfriend? It depends on what type of guy he is. I won't say I'm 100% right because well, I've never met him. All I can offer right now is what I got my boyfriend our first V-day. I'm making him a scrapbook with pictures of me a him he thought it was adorable.


15/f

i'm not sure if i'm a good kisser or not. i mean, i've made outtt with alot of guys. but i wasn't fully there, a little drunk to be honest, and so were they. that was middle school. yeah i know that was bad, i'm not like that anymore. anyways, i know, i'm getting close to having some serious relationships now that i'm in highschool. and i dont wanna like go to kiss them, and tottaly suck. do you think since i've had a ton of experience before, even though i dont really remember what i did, i'll still be good?

+ how do i get rid of the bad reputation i had in middle school? i mean im not like that at alllllllll anymore. like i learned how to have a good time without it, and i'm not just, that person amyore. all these weird people always come up to me, or IM me, and be like, oh yeah i heard your like the life of the party at parties, how much beer can you bring? and ahh. yeah no. i want that to stop. what can i do? (link)
Go pick up 17 maganizine like right now it has article on kissing perfectly and it really helps even the worst kissers so if you aren't sure check out the article. It might be gone but its on Rihana on the cover.

Ignore them and they'll go away it works trust me


Hey, Ik this is long, but please, help...
Ok, I'm a 16-year-old sophmore. I really like this guy that's a freshmen. We'll call him J. I just started liking him not too long ago. Because @ our church group, we sometimes sit by each other and flirt... and at the end we stand up, and hold hands, and pray 2gether. Everytime we hold hands, he holds mine really tight. He squeezes it and pulls me closer to him... That's how I started likign him. Ok, now the real problem...The only 4 people I ended up telling where my bffs. However, someone else found out, and texts his buddies, and now the whole school knows. Everyone basically found out Thursday and Friday night! (including J) Everyone found out while I was cheering Thursday night @ the girl's game and Friday while I was cheering @ the boys game. (for basketball). At halftime of the boys game, I realized that everyone finally new. As, I looked up in the stands looking for 1 of my friends, I found J, and he just smiled and nodded towards me and I couldnt help but smile and say "hi". But, now, I don't know what to do. I dont know if he likes me or what... I don't know what to do... Especially since on Monday everyone will be bothering me about it...all day! Please, some1 help me ASAP!! Before Monday would be great! Thanks so much in advance! (link)
If you like him you should have told him yourself. Now that he knows continue life as normal. Ignore all the people. Find out who told because you probably don't want to trust them anymore.


ok, so i have a neighbor who lives across the street and the parents are away. there are three guys home, two brothers and a cousin. the cousin's a year older than me and the brothers are one year older and one year younger. i'm a not-that-experienced 16-year-old-girl who previously had only been felt up. so i was walking on my block and they invited me over, which was a little weird b/c we never hang out, but w/e. the cousin had been wanting to hook up with me for a very long time. we ended up in a room together and i ended up giving him head and a hand job, but i had to stop before he came b/c my mom was outside calling my name. i think he wants to do it again but i'm feeling really weird about this. he's texted me and called me twice while i was sleeping, at about 2 in the morning. what should i do? (link)
SO you made a bad decision, we all make mistakes. If he is making you uncomfortable you need to talk to someone. What you did wasn't really all that smart but talking to someone like your mom can solve the problem and you can put it behind you.


I'm 19, my boyfriend is 20. I'm not religious whatsoever, but my boyfriend is muslim and his family is very religious. He's met my whole family and they love him. He's forbidden from dating outside the race/religion, and me, being white and very un-religous makes it worse. His family has no idea of us & he's not even worried about it, saying "we'll take care of it when it comes down to it". I worry constantly because I think we have a future together! What am I supposed to do? Never meet his family? (link)
It sounds a bit like he is ashamed of you. If he really loves you he won't care what his family thinks. True love can't be broken by religion or race and if his family cares about him they will respect his decisions and just be happy for him. I personally don't think it can be a good relationship if you haven't met his family.


14/f

well at the moment i have been in bootcamp the last 2 months. ive had the same boyfriend "terry" for the last 2 months. my question is should i stay with him even though i only get to talk 2 him maybe once every 2 months? i dont know if i trust him completely, but enough to have a reltionship. i love him to death but maybe being seperated would be better so we both can be free, but i cant let him go. plus he wont let me go either.Also, we both do not want to see eachother in a relationship with anyone else. what should i do? (link)
If you both really want to be together don't let go. You could take a break where you are just friends for a month or two and try out seeing other people. If it doesn't feel right you will know that you two should stay together.


Alright so my friend and I just recently found out that this guy basically played both of us. Us being us aren't just going to sit around and let this go by . Were going to get back. However we dont have any good ideas. Any suggestions?
thankss :] (link)
Well firstly I don't think revenge makes anything better but if you must here are some tips.
1. This is the easiest but wimpiest of all revenge: gossip
2. If you aren't the wimpy type go for some social damage embarass him in front of his friends
3. Or there is exposing him as the two-timer he is

Try and make so he can't trace it back to you or the vicious circle of revenge can go on and on


Ok i am 13/f ok i like guys alot and i realy want a boy friend or to know some cute guys or have a crush for goodness sacks and i am comeing out of a 6moth relation ship and my best friend is like just take a brake from guys and i said i would try but i can't i love guys so i need some big time help can some on just HELP ME WITH THIS LIKE ALAROUND . (link)
Slow down! You're only 13 and your friend is right you need a break. Maybe get some guy friends but honestly guys aren't everything just hang with your friends for a while.




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