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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks!

Perhaps you can find a happy medium with your parents if the situation arises. A compromise you can both live with.

A suggestion would be having dinner at either your home or your boyfriends home. Spending time together in groups of your friends, or with your families.

Most parents main concerns for a teenager dating is that they will make bad choices when dealing with sex. That is why they have the age restriction. At 16 they may feel you will be better able to make a responsible choice.

But it may put their mind at ease, and show them thier little girl can be responsible if she comes to them and tells them that she really cares for this boy, wants to spend time with him, but understands thier concerns, and wants to try to work out a compromise they (yoru parents) can live with.

More than likely they will be very proud of you for coming to them and trying to have a mature conversation on the subject.

I have a 13 year old daughter myself. And this subject has come up in our home. Compromising and allowing her to see a boy she likes at our home for dinner or watching tv, has worked out very well. She gets a little ground to show she is mature and we get some more time to get use to the fact she is growing up. ;)

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I'm a 17 y/o guy in highschool with a mad crush on this girl that I've known since middle school. In middle school, she tried to hook up with me in an indirect way with obvious hints but then I didn't have any idea what to do so we stayed friends. I guess I was still in that cootie phase of puberty. But now I'm a junior in highschool and recently she's been on my mind alot like crazy. There's something about her that keeps my head stuck on her all the time, other girls might catch my attention but damn she got something special. There are a few guys that are trying to hook up with her but I heard from word of mouf that she likes me. Now that I've given you the intel on my situation, I was wondering what would you do to get the girl or to improve the chances of hooking up with her? I'd be real grateful if you can help me out.

Your best bet is to simply be direct and honest. If you like someone don't bother with wasting time sending friends back and forth. Information can get jumbled from person to person, and you may not get what was truly said.

Not to mention she'll respect you much more for being man enough to come to her, rather than sending someone else.

Catch her after school, and ask her if she'd like to go to a movie, or for a bite to eat. If the face to face thing seems a bit hard for you, call her up and ask her.

You'll be better for knowing. If she says "yes" then way to go, congratz. If she says "No" then you're better off knowing, moving on, and finding someone who does want to be with you. Rather than wasting your time on someone who doesn't.


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I am 23 years old. I just moved to California from Alaska with my boyfriend. The problem is, i do not think i love him. I am still in love with my guy friend back home. I am very unhappy in my current realtionship. I told him i wanted to go back home to Alaska. He agreed, but i am afraid once we get there, I will not want to be with him anymore. I want to be happy. My guy friend back home loves me also and i know that he would be with me and we would be happy but i do not want to break my boyfriends heart. What do i do to make this easy for us all?

The longer you wait the harder you are making it on all of you. There really is no easy way out of a relationship and still be able to show respect for another persons feelings. Like it or not, there are going to be hurt feelings, and you will simply have to deal with that. Behonest with your boyfriend is the best thing you can do for both of you. Its hardly fair or right for him to be in a relationship with someone who does not love him, and is simply sticking around because they don't know how to end it. Letting him go will give him the chance to find the happiness, and love he deserves. At the moment you are simply harming yourself and him. And thats no way to live.
Sit him down, tell him you have something you need to say, and its going to be difficult for both of you to deal with. Then let him know you care about him, but you don't feel that you are in love him, and for his sake and yours you feel it is better that you both go your seperate ways. You both have the right to be happy, and feel loved. You are doing both of you a great injustice by prolonging this break-up.
So take a deep breath, steady youself, and do what needs to be done, for the better of all parties involved.
~Mysti~

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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her?

Hello...
If he has a girlfriend, and she does not know about you, then you are simply playing the other woman. He is showing a great deal of lack of respect or concern for both of you by his actions. If he truly loves you, as you say he says, he would not be stringing you along, and making you wait to be his one and only. Nothing good is ever kept secret and hidden from others. If you have to hide the fact that he you care about him and that the two of you are physically intimate, then something isn't right. At the moment you are playing second fiddle to his girlfriend. And I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be to happy to know her boyfriend is cheating on her.
He has no respect for either of you. Have some respect for yourself and tell him he needs to choose. Or make the choice for him, and go out and find yourself a boyfriend who deserves you. Because this guy, obviously doesn't.
~Mysti~

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Is it ok to just flirt? I used to like be obbsessed with different guys but now I just wanna have fun...is that ok?

Hello...
There is nothing wrong with a little casual flirting, as long as you are not causing problems for yourself or others. Try to steer clear of flirting with people who are already taken. More than anything its a respect issue. Some people have no problem with their boyfriend/girlfriends flirting, and see it as harmless. Others are not so secure and confident. You can unwittingly do damage to someone else relationship if you get caught flirting with them by their significant other. Not to mention the physical damage that sigificant other may do to you in their anger.
Plus its wise to make sure that unless you are truly interested in someone that you let them know you are only playfully flirting, and "just having fun". Allowing someone to misunderstand your playfullness may cause trouble, and you may end up hurting someone emotionally that you really didn't intend on doing.
Have fun, just be respectful, and mindful of your actions and thier consequences.
~Mysti~

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theres this guy who started talkin to me on AIM. He lives where I do and all that...definately not a stalker. I know his cousin lol.

Well anyway..hes 3 yrs older than me...hes never seen me but ive seen him..wasnt that attracted to him (not a good look tho..+ it was dark) .ive never been involved with anyone that old before...and i can tell all he wants is a fling. this is cool with me..cuz i want the same. Does anyone have any good ideas on where to meet , what to do when we meet, or should i not kiss him?

Dear "Go for the fling?",

First off if you are planning to meet someone you have spoken with online, or only met once its always best to be safe, rather than sorry. NEVER meet someone you don't really know alone or in a non-public place. Just because someone sounds trustworthy, does not mean they are. Sweet words are easy to say, and easy to hide lies behind. Knowing his cousin does not mean you know how he will be. I'm not saying thats what he is doing, but better to be cautious.

So meet him with other friends. Go to a movie, or to dinner. Hang out in some public place so you can get to know him better, safely.

As for kissing him, or hooking up for a fling. My adive is to get to know him first. Once something is done, you cant change undo it. Its always better to think things thru first. Who knows, you may hang out with him and find out he is not at all the person you imagined him to be.

Mysti

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