Hey! My name is Julia and I'm 19 yeards old. I've been through a lot throughout my lifetime so I can offer advice on many things. Feel free to ask anything you'de like and I would love to help out!!
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im 16/f. my boyfriend is 18/f. they are taking his best friend out to the strip club for his 18th birthday. should i or should i not care? because i don't know how i feel about it right now. (link)
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If you trust him enough then it should not be a problem bc hes taking his friend out, its not for his sole pleasure only. Guys will be guys and for some reason they just love strippers..it doesnt necessarily mean hes going there bc he feels like you have nothng to offer. If you know you have a great guy and you trust him with everything, dont worry. If you have some doubts about him then maybe you should bring it up to him.
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Okay, I've liked this guy since I was 12. I'm 15 now, about to be turning 16 in about 2 months. Anyways, I finally got the courage to ask him out the other day, and he said yes. :] Now, he's perfect & things are going well, but that very same day, he found out that he was going to Iraq. [He's a marine.] He leaves in mid-January, and won't be back til about mid-July. Now, I'm not breaking up with him because of the major leave he's about to take to fight the war, but I'm worried that I won't see him again. When I was about 14, I had two friends in the army, and they both promised they weren't going to be killed, or hurt, and they both ended up dying a month apart from each other. I trust my boyfriend when he says he's gonna be fine, but I never know that, and the thought of him not coming home to me in 6 months bothers me. And it's really eating me up. He's still at base right now in North Carolina, and he won't be coming back up to New York until the 22nd, and I can't wait. But we only have 10 days together before he has to go back to base, and then I won't see him for 6 months. So, not only is he missing my 16th birthday, he's also spending his birthday over there. It doesn't bother me that he's missing my birthday, because after he comes home in 6 months, he's here for 15 days, and then off for another 6 months. So, he hopefully should be home in time for my 17th birthday, and my junior prom. I love him to death, and I would hate it if he got hurt or whatever while in Iraq. How in the hell do I cope with this, because I used to cut [and I haven't cut in months], and I don't wanna get depressed & start doing that to myself again. It took a lot to get me to stop, and I don't wanna start again.
How do I cope with this because I'm going insane already, and he hasn't even come to New York yet. :[ (link)
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Im so sorry you have to go through this and you're right..no one can gurantee what will happen in Iraq, you just have to hope for the best. In a time like this you cant be selfish bc HES the one thinking about how to stay alive. You need to be there for him and support his every decision bc you're like his rock right now and if you break down, it leaves him no choice but to break down with you. You cant let him know that you have these horrible thoughts bc thats the last thing he needs to hear from his love..right now you just have to stay positive and make his last days here memorable and enjoyable. To cope, you can talk to a friend about this or look at pictures of the two of you, write him letters, and etc. Love overcomes everything and even though this will be so hard for you, think about how hard it will be for him! I hope I helped and if you need any more help, feel free to inbox me :)
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I have this "friend" that I have been talking too for awhile. we have gone out one dates together. The other night i had texted her to say hello and got no response for most of the day. I had told her that I was going out that night, which i had no response. Eventually she texted me told me how busy she was and that she was on a date at the moment. Cant tell if she is trying to make me jealous especially when had told me that i was the one for her (link)
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That is a tough situation, especially if she told you that you were the one for her. I dont see why she would try to make you jealous seeing that she did go on dates with you, which means your obviously interested in her and no one else, and she told you how she feels..so I dont think shes trying to make you jealous bc its not like shes suspecting that you're interested in someone else. You should confront her..if you dont want to talk to her in person you should text her or im her and ask her whats going on..be like you know i thought we had something going since we did go out a few times and you told me how you felt..are you not interested anymore or whats going on? Be nice about it because maybe she's just confused and not confident about the way you feel about her, so maybe you should keep that in consideration as well and let her know. If you need further help, feel free to inbox me :)
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ok well i have a gf i really really like and this christmas i want to get her something she will never forget money is not really an issue at least if were not talking hundreds of dollars.and well i really want to get her something that will be nothing like she has ever got. she has asked for a bunch of diff prefumes and lotions and stuff but yea ne ideas of what i could do ?
o and on christmas im gonna finnaly tell her that i lover her cuz im not one of those guys that says it the second day after we start going out i wait till i mean it but yea im gonna tell her on christmas im gonna wait for the right moment then wisper it into her ear(this is way of topic but i want to know what ppl think of that good idea or not) (link)
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If money is not an issue you can get her a Tiffany & Co bracelet (the one with the tag heart) and they actually engrave stuff in it for you, you can engrave "i love you" on it, which will make it even more special when you say it :) If that's too much money, I'de suggest making a scrapbook about everything that you love about her, which will also make her feel so special and loved. Along with that, you can get her the perfumes she wanted (I would suggest the Paris Hilton "Just Me" and the Abercrombie and Fitch perfume for girls is AMAZING).
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ok so theres this boy i like...and well i really do like him .but he likes my best friend.. todaii i askd him if he still likes her and he said that he didnt like her the whole lot he did. that he likes her a lil. well we made out todaii and well i think i wanna loose it to him...we r both virgins so thats one good thing about it but i dont want to do it knowing he likes her ..even if he saiis he dont what do you think or what would you do? (link)
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PLEASE listen to me when i say this: you need to be completely confident in your heart that this is the guy you want to lose your virginity to!! You will remember him forever and will be emotionally attached to him bc in a way, he has a part of your body. You should only lose ur virginity to someone you're crazy about and in love with and as far as I can tell, you're not. You have doubts in your mind and thats the first sign that you should not have sex with this guy..trust me, you will regret it afterwards!!
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I am a girl and i like this guy. (not like youve never heard that one before but just wait )So i have liked him for a WHILE like A YEAR but he never knew i exsisted until just recently and we actually talked and realised we really like talking and being friends (and he thinks im hot.. not a bad sign )we are cute together and know we can be ourselves and crazy around eachother... BUT and I mean BUT he does not know i like him and he likes this other girl...one of my friends from school. its not like we are best friends but we talk and stuff. Anyway they both like eachother and he talks to me about her and I give him advice and stuff. Im stuck! im not going to tell him i have feelings for him or anything but maybe one of these times we talk I will slip him a hint or somehting ya know? i just need advice on what to do with myself and how to think this through. i mean yea it hurts but Im not going to stop them going out ya know? but yea if anyone has been in this type of situation or has advice i would LOVE to hear form you PLEASE! (link)
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This is a toughy bc of your feelings towards him. You're absolutely right that you shouldnt stop the two of them from dating bc it's not your place but since he doesnt know about your feelings, I think you should let him know casually. One of these days you should just be like "hey i dont mean to make things akward with us but im starting to have feelings for you" or something along those lines...You never know how he might respond..maybe he loves being friends with you and sees you as more than just a friend but doesnt want to say anything bc he doesnt know how you feel, or unfortunatly it could end up that he just wants to be friends..which sucks but you just gotta accept it. But you should definatly try, you have nothing to lose! :)
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Ok so my I have this best friend lets call her Lala right and ive known her for 7 years and she has this older brother lets call him Derik and Derik is 18 now so ive liked him for 7 years straight I mean its not a crush its love I know its so chessey but like when I found out that the 1first time he had sex I like cried or his first girl friend I cried and this kid isn’t like a normal kid he has bi polar disorder and now he has a girlfriend named skyller not only are the getting really serious but they are planning on buying an apartment gush how about if they get married like when I found out I cried so hard I wanted to punch babies so I get to meet this skank in a weeks or two because Lala and Derik’s mom just got remarried to this rich guy and they are having a HUGEE party at their house and guess who is going to be there skyler and I’ve already told derik that I love him and I had a positive response but what am I supposed to do when I meet her because he really wants me to meet her what should I do or say should I be mean and try to kill her ?? or just play fake but I hate being fake see I have this theory that if you don’t like someone then don’t act fake to their face and pretend to to like them you should tell them to get off your dick right away!! But yes what should I do??\ (link)
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I can understand the tough situation you're in and how much it's going to hurt meeting Skyller, but you just have to face it. Sometimes loving someone means respecting them with their decisions, even if its the decision to love someone else. I know that is painful for you but it's the right thing to do. If Derik is so serious with her then he obviously loves her. No you shouldnt be fake to her but you shouldnt be mean either bc she hasnt done anything to you and its HIS gf and he would want you to respect her. Just act neutrol towards her - act as if you were talking to someone you really dont care for. I know it's easier said then done but if you really love him, you'de want him to be happy, regardless of the person he chooses to be with.
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Me and my 16 year old boyfriend have been dating for six months. Christmas is just a few weeks away and I don't know what to give him! I know he's geting me a ring, so I want to spend at least $50 on him. I don't want to give him something he won't like, but at the same time something kind of romantic? not a video game. Any ideas?
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You should make him a scrap book (target has REALLY cute scrap booking materials) and put all your inside jokes and stuff on it along with your pictures. Besides that, you should get something that matches his interests. For example, if he likes a particular sport, get him something to do with that sport (a jersey, tshirt of his fav team/player, etc). If he likes a particular band, maybe get him some concert tickets or cd or dvd of their performances. This way, you'll be getting him something special (like the ring hes giving u) but also something that he would be happy with. I hope I helped!
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I'm 13/f
One of my guy/friends asked me out today, and my friend put me under a lot of presure of what tosay, so I said I'd think about it. He smiled and went on about his buisness. Then like, 10 seconds after the last bell rang one of my friends told him I'd said yes, but I hadn't.
Then at 4:59(sry 'bout that, I do that all the time) one of my other guy/friends who had him over called and asked me what I was gonna say because he wanted to know. As I said earlier, I hate being under so much as the tiniest bit of pressure, and I said "I guess." Know, I wish I could go back in time or kill myself. I don't like him, I like another guy, I don't totally trust him, and my mom said I couldn't have a boyfriend until I was 16. So now, I am disobaying my mother(whom I love very much and hate disobaying) gong against my scences, betraying myself( since I like someone else), killing myself from so much pressure, guilt, and worry, afraid I'll hurt him, might loos a friend, and wishing I could kill myself. HOW HORRIBLE!!!! HOw would I break up with him without hurting him or lossing his friendship??? (link)
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This is a toughy because the guy obviously likes you enough to have the courage to ask you out. The best thing for you to do is just talk to him. Tell him that you dont really want a bf right now bc you have a lot of other things going on and you were under pressure when the question was asked. DONT tell him that you like someone else bc that would just hurt his feelings. Tell him that you really appreciate him asking you out but its just not the right time for you right now, and let him know that you would still love to be friends with him. If you're nice and sincere about it, he should understand! :) Let me know if you need anything else!
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My boyfriend and I were making out the other night and he decided to finger me. Before that though, I thought I saw him adjust himself. I do not know if he did this on top of his pants or underneath, but normally he wears warm-ups with a pair of shorts on underneath and then boxers under that, so even if he went underneath the top layer I do not know if he went to the bottom layer to adjust himself. Anyways if he had precummed and he got some one him by adjusting could I be pregnant? He fingered me a different day and before he did I had been rubbing him and I dont know if he adjusted himself but I just wasn't sure if i could be pregnant?
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You are most likely safe, so dont worry too much. This has happened to me a lot when i was younger and I remember freaking out about it as well. The chance of u getting pregnent is VERY low since the semen didnt get inside ur vagina walls right away completely, as in the way a penis does during sex. Also, semen likes moisture so since it was a while until he put his fingers in you, this decreases the likeliness of getting pregnet as well. Honestly I wouldn't worry about it :)
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How long exactly is one supposed to wait before things 'get better'? I spend every moment of everyday trying to improve myself and my environment. My life is nearly perfect, I must say. However, I would love to have a boyfriend. Someone to listen to me and someone I can listen to. I feel so alone.
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I know exactly how it feels, but no one can tell you exactly when a guy will come around. The most important thing is to not wait for that guy to come around..have you heard of the saying that if you're looking for someone, youll never find them? well thats kind of the thing with guys..a guy will come around when you least expect it, trust me on that one. In the meantime, hang out with your girlfriends, do something that you absolutely love to do and dont think about how much you want to find a boyfriend.
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how do you know if a guy likes you or hes just playing head games like hell say and do something one day and something different another and he always looks at you but.............. sometimes he acts different by his friends and other gurls (link)
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many guys ALWAYS act different around their guy friends bc they dont want to seem too "mushy-mushy" or not masculine enough in front of his buddies bc of fear that they might think he's "whipped." This isnt fair to you though, you shouldnt be treated nicely only when hes around you! If he plays these games, then he's not in it to win your heart. My advice is to confront him about his feelings alone and find out if he likes your or not. If he says yes then bring up the fact that it doesnt seem lke it when hes around his friends. Unfortunatly, guys still act different around his friends even in college and beyond, it sucks, but thats why you have to find someone that is willing to show off how much he cares about in public as well as in private.
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I was at the mall with a friend of mine and we met up with this girl he knows from school. We talked for a few minutes, and I started joking with her that I was going to call her again and again until she had seen Star Wars.(Obviously she had said she never seen it.) After a while I stopped joking and said, "No, your cute, I do want to call you." She said it was okay, but she doesn't ever talk on the phone. The last girl who told me that ended up that she wasn't interested in me, and didn't want to lead me on. I'm not exactly ugly, but I'm not hot either, so I can see how she wouldn't be interested in me based on that short time. So what now? Do I call her? Do I move on to the next girl? (link)
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Awe you're too cute! :) Sorry but I think that girl is not interested bc as girls, we make up excuses like crazy..i don't know and have never met a single girl that did not like to talk on the phone. I dont think you should waste your time on her.
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i'm not quite sure what to do. i'm a sophmore, and i was kinda casually dating this junior. and i heard from several people that he was just leading me on. so i asked him about it and he said he was, but he had a reason. he said he liked me, and that he still kinda does, just not like he used to, and he thought the feeling would come back so he just didn't ever tell me. now here comes the tough part. what do i do? part of me wants to change his mind, make him see my true worth and make him want me again, because there's still hope because he still likes me. or should i just move on and completely forget about him? just say what you would do in this situation. also, if you would want to change his mind and make him want you again, how would you do it?
thanks :]
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this is a toughy only bc ive been there SO many times and it sucks..I'de say really listen to your heart bc deep down you always know..if you're sure that you can change his mind then go for it bc u dont want to ask the "what ifs" later on. Do something exciting with him, like plan a date to do something he likes that you guys havent done before but BE YOURSELF bc u dont want to pretend to be something youre not in order to please him.
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So I recently met a boy. hes amazing. Im only 13, but Im having feelings for this guy that ive never had before. hes older and makes me feel like im PERFECT. I honestly couldn't be without him. How do you know if your IN LOVE or not? Im so confused these feelings are overwhelming. (link)
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Sweetie, youre most likely NOT in love..youre just excited you met someone so "great." Please be careful though..a lot of times older guys try to take advantage of younger girls because younger girls tend to fall a lot faster than older girls. Try hanging out with him and your friends and see how he acts around other people, it might surprise you.
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kissing is there anytips i can get to make my self a beter kisser because i want to be rememberd by my kissis at times so yeah any tips ?Please
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Well the main thing is dont be nervous bc the other person will feel that. When you french kiss, don't go crazy with your tounge bc thats the most obnoxious thing a person can do. Just put your tounge and SLOWLY and GENTLY move it around (I know a lot of people try and "spell out" words with their tounges) but the main thing is dont be rough with it. Also, if the other person is more experienced, try and copy what they are doing bc in most cases, they are doing what they expect you to do as well. Have fun with it though, youll always remember your first kiss!
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How do you know if your cherry is poped (link)
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well, some girls bleed after they first have sex, however, if you use tampons before you lost ur virginity, you most likely already "popped" your cherry.
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No matter how hard/long I suck, I can NOT give a hickey to my boyfriend! I start making these weird sucking type noises also, is that even normal when giving a hickey? Anyways, what's wrong? Why can't I give him a hickey? The only reason I'm really worried about this, is because he get's really turned on by them, and I want to be able to give him one. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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This might sound weird but you just practice on your hand..just pretend you're suckin the air in you (like you're drinking from those sports cap bottles)
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