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He's Perfect But Our Life Is About To Change.
Okay, I've liked this guy since I was 12. I'm 15 now, about to be turning 16 in about 2 months. Anyways, I finally got the courage to ask him out the other day, and he said yes. :] Now, he's perfect & things are going well, but that very same day, he found out that he was going to Iraq. [He's a marine.] He leaves in mid-January, and won't be back til about mid-July. Now, I'm not breaking up with him because of the major leave he's about to take to fight the war, but I'm worried that I won't see him again. When I was about 14, I had two friends in the army, and they both promised they weren't going to be killed, or hurt, and they both ended up dying a month apart from each other. I trust my boyfriend when he says he's gonna be fine, but I never know that, and the thought of him not coming home to me in 6 months bothers me. And it's really eating me up. He's still at base right now in North Carolina, and he won't be coming back up to New York until the 22nd, and I can't wait. But we only have 10 days together before he has to go back to base, and then I won't see him for 6 months. So, not only is he missing my 16th birthday, he's also spending his birthday over there. It doesn't bother me that he's missing my birthday, because after he comes home in 6 months, he's here for 15 days, and then off for another 6 months. So, he hopefully should be home in time for my 17th birthday, and my junior prom. I love him to death, and I would hate it if he got hurt or whatever while in Iraq. How in the hell do I cope with this, because I used to cut [and I haven't cut in months], and I don't wanna get depressed & start doing that to myself again. It took a lot to get me to stop, and I don't wanna start again.
How do I cope with this because I'm going insane already, and he hasn't even come to New York yet. :[
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iwould just try to keep my mind off the negative things....about the cutting problem iknow it is hard because i have had thoughts of it but instead i did sometihing different(i'm not gonna say) the only thing i can really say is enjoy the time you have with him right now and don't thing about the future and take it one day at a time...my brohter is Iraq and that is what i have had to do.
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i know its probably really hard for you.
you shouldn't forget about him but think;;
he's fighting for you, your country.. our country. you can't start blaming yourself and cutting your self. I'm sure he will be ok and i hope everything works out
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Im so sorry you have to go through this and you're right..no one can gurantee what will happen in Iraq, you just have to hope for the best. In a time like this you cant be selfish bc HES the one thinking about how to stay alive. You need to be there for him and support his every decision bc you're like his rock right now and if you break down, it leaves him no choice but to break down with you. You cant let him know that you have these horrible thoughts bc thats the last thing he needs to hear from his love..right now you just have to stay positive and make his last days here memorable and enjoyable. To cope, you can talk to a friend about this or look at pictures of the two of you, write him letters, and etc. Love overcomes everything and even though this will be so hard for you, think about how hard it will be for him! I hope I helped and if you need any more help, feel free to inbox me :)
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