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heyy everybody! my name is melanie and im good at listening to people and giving advice. ask me anything and ill try to help as much as i can. You can ask me absolutely anything so plz dont hold back.
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hey...there this guy that lives down my street that im tryin to hook up w/ my friend...any tips for hookin up?also its hard to get in touch w/ him cuz hes nevr outside & hes hardly online when i am...what should I do?

next time you see him tell him you and your friend would be perfect for eachother and try setting something up like having one of his boys that he thinks would like you come over to his house and you guys could all chill and watch a movie and STUFF. if you arent looking for a guy then suggest having you, him, your friend and another one of your guy FRIENDS hang out.
good luck.
xo.melanie

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my relationship of 5 years is going down the drain. we have a one and a half year old. today he got upset because he could not find me. he was at work and i went to school to do some papers. when he got off of work he called me a bitch and a whore and he did not believe me that i was at school. i was about to go back to school for class so he hid my makeup, messed up my hair, and threw laundry around the house. then he followed me to school with his bright head lights on. my son was crying and i told my boyfriend to change his diaper and put him to sleep while i go to school cuz he was fussy. his reply was he was not going to do shit. i am stuck as what to do. i do not work much cuz i am a college student. is it ever ok to tolerate this kind of behavior. it is becoming regular. what should i do and how can i do it? i am bad at making decisions, especially the right ones. thanks for listening.

From what your saying, NO it is not right that you have to tolerate this behavior. Even though you had a long relationship and a son doesnt mean you have to be treated like shit. You should also watch out he doesnt end up physically or emotionally hurting you or your baby. The way you described that one day where he hid your makeup, messed your hair and followed you is really scary. I'd advise you to try to stay away from him maybe even get a restraining order if he keeps this up because eventually he will do something worse. Im sure you can find someone like a friend to help you out with your son and i know you probably dont want your son growing up without a dad but its better than him getting hurt. good luck
xo.melanie

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There iz this guy that lives in my neighborhood and hes in 10th grade and my parents dont let me hang out with him caz they think hes a bad influence! He is so much fun to hang around and i dunno if he likes me or not caz he would call me every night to sneak out of my house so we could hang out we would talk about everything! and now my parents are back and they found out that i was hanging out with him and they grounded me! what should i do im sooo confused! i rate high!

Try telling your parents that when you hang out with him he makes you feel good and that you and him dont do anything but talk (wether thats true or not) dont yell or act sketchy about it. Make it sound like you are spilling your guts and you feel strongly about chilling with this kid. If that doesn't work hang out with him anyway because ive had quite a few of these people in my life and they made me feel great and they improved my life. If your parents do decide to let you hang out with him you can still sneak out just make sure you dont get caught this time or everything will be ruined.
good luck let me know what happends
xo.

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i have this ex that i reallly still like and while we were goin together we always argued. and we broke up for some crazy reason bc i had him really upset and he still loves me i kno he does but he had my friend over his house. he said he didnt do anything but in some way i think he did or was going to. i trust both of them and they went behind my back. now he doesnt talk to me as much as he used to and i kept tryin to explain to him i wanted to be back with him but he kept makin up excuses for why he didnt want to be with me, one reason was he had track season and he blames it on me not trusting him and he has to worry about track season and other reasons. i really wanna be back with him and i wanna make things work i jus dont kno wat to do. wat should i do?

If he acts like you say he does then i dont think he deserves you but since you sound crazy about him, and i know how that feels,ill help you out. Next time you talk to him make sure he doesnt have an excise to go somewhere else to get away from you and he has to be alone. Let him know that what he did with you friend was stupid and hes being really immature making up a bunch of excuses but also let him know you still love him and want him back. finaly casually say "so..you wana give this another shot?"
good luck
xo.

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My friends are a little jealous of me and don't even like to introduce me to their friends because their guy friends that they like might like me. This past week I was with my best friend and she finally started to go to college after a year off. She never really had many friends while growing up, just mainly me. Anyways, I spent a full week with her and she went to parties and everything. I was dragged along. I met people there and got along just fine with them. She got jealous. Then this guy she plays co-ed football with,we'll call him M, calls her one night to come over and see his new apartment so we went over there. After that, him and his roomies were awesome and wanted us both to come back again and just chill. She started having feelings for M and kinda figured he didnt like her back. So a couple days ago she got upset with one of M's roomies and her and M talked. She asked him if he liked me and he said I was very attractive and that he would have to get to know me better in order to say he liked me. Earlier that night he had given me his number just to hang out while my friend was going to a concert and I had nothing to do. She said to me that we were leaving and then she stormed outta the house.

Now what I wanna know is, is there anything I can do that this can stop? I mean, she is my best friend but whenever she likes a guy they always like her friends and it kills her. Her self-esteem lowers everytime this happens. Is there anything I can do about her self-esteem? Is there anything I can do to make these guys realize that my friend is a great girl and that she deserves a chance instead of her friends??

i know how you feel, my friends wont introduce me to any of there guy friends because they think im gonna steal them. your friend needs to deal with the fact that you and M his it off. Gently tell her your sorry but you really like M. Ask M or some of your friends if they would be interested in you friend to make her feel better because it seems like she needs a man to make her feel good.
good luck
xo.

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I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?

The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?

first thing you have to do is know her age so next time you see her just casually ask how old she is after a while of conversation. ask her out on a date or just to hang out one night if she is in the age range you are interested in. Also, the cuts on her wrists might not be anything now BUT when people cut or burn themselves its because they dont know how to take out there anger. This isnt good at all. Right now cutting might not be very serious but in a few months her cuts could turn to slits. She could end up killing herself, so if u really care then talk to her about it but only when she is comfterble around you. If she feels threated by you she will take it the wrong way and might not ever talk to you again. but trust me, cutting is serious.
good luck hunny.
xo. melanie

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