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See, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me . I don't want to ask him because, he's really proud and he can sometimes be a jerk . He's never been a jerk to me though, but one of my friends asked him if he liked me , and he supposedly called me ugly which lead to no . I have tried to get over him and at times I think I'm over him . So when I pay him no attention it's like he's paying me attention, and I totally get pulled back into liking maybe loving him because this has been going on for a year . Do you think maybe I have a chance with this guy . Do you think that I or maybe he is playing a game ? What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE IF I THINK ABOUT THIS ANY LONGER , I AM GOING TO DO SOMETHING REALLY, REALLY STUPID . (link)
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The guy is definitely playing a game, and it's a very stupid and immature one.
By thinking about him as much as you do, you're doing exactly what he wants you to do. Knowing that the girls who can't have him, want him, makes him feel special and important. Knowing there's a girl out there who doesn't care about him makes him feel insecure, so he goes running after that girl (in this case, you) to try and remedy the situation for the sake of his ego. It's pathetic, and he knows it, and you deserve way better than that.
Leave him alone, but when he comes running after you (like usual), pay him no heed. Until he can start acting like a big boy, let him play with the little girls.
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i care a lot about what people think
what should i do? (link)
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Take comfort in the fact that you are not alone here; most people are very self-absorbed and probably worry so much about what others are thinking of *them* that they don't notice how self-conscious *you* are.
Realize that life is short. You do not have the time to waste on worrying what other people think. Try to adapt this adage: "I shouldn't care what anybody else thinks unless they are someone who is personally important to me in some way that matters." Family members, close friends, your boss, your teachers, etc. are the only ones you should really be worrying about, because they are the only ones with opinions that count. Even more important than their opinions, however, is your own. Learn to trust yourself and listen to your gut instincts. Every time you want to do something that doesn't feel quite right, ask yourself if you're doing it for yourself, or doing it because you don't want people to think badly of you. Figure out where *you* want to go in life, and follow that path and that path alone.
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Hey I've liked a certain guy for a long time, and I really want to tell him how I feel. I'm too shy to tell him in person, so I thought I'd write a note. What should I write on it? I don't want to sound creepy, or not know what I'm talking about. Help! (link)
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Avoid saying things like "I've been watching you for a long time" or "I really like you." Keep the note brief and to the point. Tell him you think he's cool and fun and you would like to chill sometime, if he's down with that. If you haven't already, talk to him in person (just small talk) before you write the note. Find out what he is interested in, then make a suggestion that you do something pertaining to that interest in the note. For example, if he likes soccer, ask him if he wants to come to the next game with you. If you find out he likes a certain band that's playing near you sometime soon, grab tickets to the show and invite him. Once you ask the question, finish with "Just let me know!" and sign off. He should be very flattered, unless he's a complete ass, which I'm assuming he's not since you like him so much :). Good luck!
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I am my worst enemy when it comes to men. I build a room that I mentally lock myself away in from men. I know that it's there yet I don't know have to fix it. I am a single 36 female, single, no children never married and have only had 2 other serious and sexual partners. It has been 2 years since I have been in a relationship.
I went to this party back in the begining of Oct and was introduced to the nice guy. No stars or anything he never crossed my mine after that night. Althought in my opioion I think I came off kind of rude...(He walked me to my car when I was leaving. I thanked him got in and was ready to drive off. When he took afew steps back to the car to offer that he could sit and wait with me while I warmed up the car I said it wasn't necessary thanked him again and just drove off.
Two weeks later I get a called from my friend and learned that he has been begging and hounding my friend for my phone number. I couldn't even remember what he looked like and thought hell why not. We chated off and on over the next few months. We went out the dinner 2 times and had enjoyable conversation. 4 months into knowing each other we had a hot and heavy date. Tons of fondling and caressing but remained fully clothed. We talked several more times after that evening with conversation getting hotter and hotter. It was obvious that something was going to happen. On MBA allstar weekend he called we started talking and I put the question what gives on the line. He doged the question and when I offered that we be phone buddies he said ok if that's what I want. And that it wasn't what he was saying. Needless to say I got bolder and down right invited him to an "adult outing". He said he wanted to watch the game and would call me after. Well for the next 3 days which covered allstar weekend I felt like I was pulling teeth with him. I am a direct and up front person. If it is on my mind and heart it will come out. I told him directly it has been over 4 months what does he want and expect is this going somewhere or should we cut ties. He wanted to be in a open relationship sex if it happened but with no string. This concept is foreign to me. I have had two partners and both occured as committed monogus relationships. I blow up from his reponse and said well that wasn't what I was looking for and wished him will but told him to loose my number. I later learned from my friend about his past and his last two relationship and then I felt bad and wanted to eat my words. I have tried reaching out to me but he won't call me back. I had my friend call him and he said yeah he will call me but it has been over two weeks and he hasn't called. Should I confront him in person myself? Or let it go and take some classes or use a book to write my feelings? He is 37 single, no children, never married but once engaged. I know he is a nice guy and I could still be his friends even if not a sexual partner. What should I do? Also, after talking to my friends and family I seem to be like a dinousur or something is it really ok to have sex with someone with no strings attached? Am I wrong? (link)
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First of all, I'd forget about this man. If he really wanted to be "just friends," he would've called you by now. He's avoiding you because your rejection of his sexual offer hurt his pride. He should get over himself, stop being a baby, and move on! But I wouldn't bother to try and tell him that in person. Don't waste your time!
If you do not want to be in a sexual relationship without strings, then by all means, do not get into one. There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with avoiding getting into something you do not feel comfortable with. Our society today tends to shove sex in everyone's faces and make us feel like we have something wrong with us if we aren't ready to hop into bed with every cute stranger we meet! While that might be okay for some, it's not okay for all, and that does not make you a dinosaur.
I suggest that you try to figure out why you feel so uncomfortable around men before you get involved with another one. Take some time out to really get to know yourself. Keep a journal. Get involved in some activities that YOU like and make some new friends. Don't try to force yourself into getting involved with anybody you don't feel 100 percent comfortable with. When you are ready to date again, you'll know.
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i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do (link)
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Sounds easy enough. Dump his ass.
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