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Heyo.
I love my life because I believe that I live my life to the fullest and cherish every moment of every day (despite how boring some days may be =P).
I am only 17 (going on 18), but have grown more and learned more than some people a whole lot older than me. I have gone through many chapters of my life and also changed like a chameleon, but believe that I have finally found my color. Despite any religious background someone might have, I just give my advice through advice I have been given by reading the bible, listening to peoples problems (you learn alot of things by listening to your own advice), and also listening to public speakers of many aspects.
I am not here to be a hypocrite or as a person has once said *to promote my site*, but I am more so here to help.
I believe that I have a talent for giving advice to people. I do not take personal offense to anything someone may say because I believe everyone is entitled to there opinion as I have been as well.
My promise to you, even all those that I may not know, is to be honest and use my past experiences and knowledge to help you through whatever you may be going through from problems at home to how to make a delicious cake frosting =D
I hope that all I say may help you, but if it does not, do not be upset or resentful, just keep looking for the answer that you may be searching for. Afterall, If I dont state it, it may have been in front of your face the entire time.
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With love,
Kori

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What are some good tips for making out? It's my first time and this guy wants to hook up with me. If you're going to answer this question with 'it will be natural' or something like that then..don't answer please. I really need tips and advice..thanks.

Hey, my answer would usually be more of a don't worry about it, it does in fact come naturally; however, you clearly stated that you didn't want that type of advice.

So I did some research and found a website that can explain a lot more ways and tips on kissing. Explore the site until you find what you are looking for.

http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm

The site seems like it has helpful information so I hope it works for you. =]
With Love,
Kori

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I guess I'm wondering... do you think people's real feelings come out when they are drunk? Since they are more laid back and don't have as much of a fear reflex? There's more of a story but I wanted opinions on this question too.
I, and a boy I have developed slight feelings for, do not drink at home. We went on a school trip to Germany together, where it is legal to drink at our age... I didn't drink enough for it to affect me but he was a little drunk. I was cold and he told me I could sit on his leg and he would keep me warm unless it was too awkward, and I did. He kept asking me like "are your legs cold?" and then he would like rub them a little to keep them warm... and if my hands were cold... He also asked "what would your boyfriend think about this?" (we were like in the process of breaking up at the time) to which I replied "I don't know, it doesn't matter" and he just said yea. I know from what I've seen that (guys at least) seem a little more um touchy-feely when they've been drinking... but do you think this could be any little hint at liking me at all? Or should I not even really consider it because he was drunk?
Thanks.

Yes I believe people's true feelings are able to come out when they are drunk. Like the saying goes a "drunk mind speaks a sober heart", basically that people have the nerve to say things when they're drunk that they wouldn't normally on a day to day sober basis. However, when people say things when they are drunk their minds are everywhere so they aren't able to explain what they really might mean so things can be greatly misunderstood.

As for this guy, its kind of a hard thing to decide on if he may like you. Keep in mind that not only guys get touchy feely when they are drunk, but also girls (just a little added information).

Anyways, some guys are just flirtatious in general so you may want to check out how he act with you when he is sober. If he is still touching you and asking you about your boyfriend it could mean that he in fact like you, but he could also just be curious because for some reason guys like to push the limits just to be curious about your relationship with others.

If he still acts the same sober as he does drunk then i think there is a higher chance of him liking you because when you're drunk your mind is all over the place so maybe in his instance he was just relaxed and was "exploring" his options due to a foggy mind.

Sorry if my advice was confusing, but you basically just need to see how he acts with you when he's sober rather than drunk.

It never hurts to think someone likes you, if anything it can boost your confidence which may boost them into having feelings for you if they didn't before. =] Don't worry about it too much and go with the flow. =]
With Love,
Kori

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okay, i've known this guys since i was like two, and now i'm foureen, so quite a long time! but 5 five years ago i started to get a crush on him, i realise i was only nine, but since then the crush has been on and off. but recently i thought it was off, but then i seem to dream about him all the time, and we flirt all the time... so my question is, if you dream about a guy, does it mean you like them? hmmm... x

Dreaming about a guy could mean you like them, however dreams usually consist of what you think about before you go to sleep.

If you find yourself thinking about him and the situation rite before you go to sleep, you are most likely going to dream about him that night because as you fall asleep you are continuing to think about it, which can turn into a dream.

Basically, the more you think about something the higher the chance there is to have a dream about it.

I hope this is the type of answer you were looking for. =]
With Love,
Kori

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my boyfriend was an ass. i dumped him. but i cant keep myself off his myspace checking up on him. we are both the jealous types. throughout the whole relationship we'd get iffy about either of us talking to other girls/guys. now that we're apart i have to see if he's been talking to other girls. i hate it, but i want to know. on the other hand, signs of him flirting/dating/falling someone else would hurt me a lot and id be pissed, so quite frankly i DONT want to know. how can i stop this madness?

Hey. Don't worry this is not an unusual situation at all. My sister seemed to fall into this right after breaking up with her boyfriend and many others that I've talked to (and myself) have done things like this over guys that they like even.

The reason for always checking his myspace for dirt, in my opinion, is that you still have feelings for him. I'm exactly like you, very jealous and jealousy can sometimes turn into possession. Perhaps you still look at him as "yours" which makes you feel like his business is still "your" business. Therefore, you find yourself seeing what he is up to even though you don't exactly need to.

You said it youself that if you saw signs of him flirting and such with someone else you would be hurt very much, which is a clear sign that you are not over him.

However, you are going to have to try to get over him in order to stop this obsession. In order to stop caring for him so much however, you are going to need to have more self control and not allow yourself to go to his page so often because by continuing to check up on him, you are keeping yourself attached to him.

So basically, if you ever catch yourself checking up on him, just think about how much you would rather not be and close that screen! Its going to be hard at the beginning to avoid doing it and you're probably going to slip a few times, but in the long run I'm sure you'll lose those deep feelings for him that kept you so attached to checking up on him.

If you still need help don't hesitate to ask, I am here to help if theres anything else you need to know! =]
With Love,
Kori

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I've never kissed a boy before, and a guy asked me to make out with him. How do I kiss him? I NEED ALL HINTS, TIPS AND POINTERS YOU GOT! TELL ME EVERYTHING!

Sorry, but there is honestly no way to answer this question or give any hints. Like many other people have said, it will definately come naturally. I seriously think that ever human being thinks the same thing before they have kissed someone. Will I be a good kisser? Will I do it wrong? How am I suppose to do it anyways?
These are all very unnecessary questions. When it happens, it just flows. However, I would like to say that the experience is alot different when you actually have deep feelings with a person rather than just someone that wants to "make out". Just offering a little more advice than asked.
With Love
Kori

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If you ask someone out, and they say no, what do you do next?

You should try to move on. Clearly the person is not interested at the moment and trying to do anything more about persuading them may just turn them further away. If you are trying to persuade this person into the relationship it is probably not gonna work and you should just leave it alone and who knows what may happen. :)
Peace & Love!!!
Kori

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ok last night at my 13th birthday party i made out for the first time
and after i did it, for some reason i thought it was gross. but i didnt know if i did it right, and i know this guy has a lot of experience. and now im like paranoid this he thinks im terrible. but he knew he was my first.
how do i keep myself from not worrying about it and does anyone have like detailed pointers on the process of making out? haha

thanks in advanceee!

What I think the problem is that you really have is that you care too much about what people think about you. Don't get me wrong there are so many people that are the exact same, basically just being excepted or "cool" is your motivation. Just don't worry about what he may think or how you did. A possible reason that you may have disliked the kiss was because there was no emotion in it. It seems to me as though you just kissed a guy at your party that may have offered it. Just be worry free and you don't need pointers. :) Just do what feels right and if it really means something you will find that satisfaction.
Peace & Love!!!
Kori

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Well i'm knew with having a boyfriend. I'm going into 8th grade, and i have my first real boyfriend.
So i was wondering if you knew anything fun we could do together(besides movies, we've done that)

Thanks!

Why don't you guys try to go somewhere that you can be more social? Try going to a restaurant, just a chill place like Chipotle or Rubios. This should be more beneficial to your relationship because it allows you two to talk more, unlike the movies which in many ways prevents true conversation. Peace & Love!!!
Kori

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ok here is the story..i was love this guy name jon.. he goes to a different school..but i saw him every once & a while..well his friend cody does go 2 my school and i talk 2 him a lot ..well he told jon that i was going around saying that i love all these other people..& jon got mad at me & said hes not but i no he is .. & i found out the other night that cody told jons mom that i thought he was sooooooo hot n stuff n jon was laughing... & i dunt no what to do..( by the way we dont go out ) ( but we talked on the phone n hugged & kiss & stuff like that ) now ..i saw jon the other night n we was giving me such an atitue that it was pissing me off..n i went 2 give him a hugg n he liked push me away usually he would hugged me back..i got mad at cody n i havent talked 2 him in a while..now what should i do..cuss cody out 4 lieing about me or what.. & what to do about the whole jon thing..im so upset about it .i really need help ill rate higghhh !!!

If all the thngs that Cody has said isn't true then you shouldn't be worried or anything like that. Yes, you might be a little upset, but don't go too drastic as to give up a friendship. I know you probably already tried to talk to Jon about it, but you should probably try it again and if Jon doesn't believe you then that is just his problem so basically just tell Jon that if he doesn't believe you then there is nothing you can do about it, you tried. I hope I helped.
*Kori*

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Do you think it is possible to find "The One" you are going to be with for the rest of your life in highschool?

Yes, I do believe that it is possible to find "The One" in Highschool. I have even heard of some people that have known each other all of their lives and have been together all of their lives. However, This answer is different to everyone, Do you think this is possible?

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I have a friend that i have none for a bout 2years and I think i am developing feelings for him however he is with a good friend of mine wut the hell should i do!!-

You aren't in that rare of a position. There are many girls/guys that start to develop crushes on their friends. First, think about what you would rather have with him...a close friendship or a Boyfriend/Girlfriend status. Now, If you choose the boyfriend/girlfriend status, then you have to think about what might happen if you go out and end up breaking up...on bad terms(this can happen). Are you willing to give up a long term friendship for a short term relationship? I hope I helped.
*Kori*

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met this guy this year and became friends with him. One of my other friends acts like she likes him, and I've asked her, and she said no. She still acts like it though, and I know for a fact he liked her at the beginning of the year and probably more than likely does still. He sometimes flirts with me but I'm not sure if thas just him being a guy. Anyway, I don't usually tell anyone when I like a guy because 1) I don't trust people because I'm nice and people used that to their advantage and 2) I don't think I'm pretty enough or good enough for them or whatever (even though I've been told I'm really pretty, I have LIttle or no self confidence) any way, I wish there was some way to find out if he liked me without having to ask him. I'm also afraid if i ask him, and he says no, it will ruin our friendship. I hear "you only live life once" and try to apply that to this, but its hard. If you could help me that would be great.

Well, there is a likely chance that your friend doesn't even like him. I have friends that are just like that, It's just that she is a big flirt. When someone is a flirt, people may think that they like that person, but they are just flirting, which some girls do very often. So, are you trying to say that you like him and are afraid that your friend and him like each other? Well, don't do any of that, "Oh I'll tell my friend to ask him" junk, because that never works, they always know. Think about this, Do you really need to know, If he likes you, don't you think that time will run it's course and destiny will show? If you don't think that, there is probably no other way, but to ask him who he likes, don't be nervous. I think you just have to work a little on your self-confidence. Ok? I hope you get through this. Plus, I hope I helped!
*Kori*

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hey i go to Grapevine High school in Texas and i am girl age 17. Hey i have a HUGE delemia! i like this guy lets call him Billy. and i am lets call me fefe and well call the other girl dolly! ok well i like billy but he has a girlfriend named dolly(hypethectially thinking) but I (fefe) likes billy and billy kinda likes fefe but there is dolly his girlfriend gettin in the way! he wants to break up with her but then again he doesnt want to! i REALLY like him but so does dolly now there is a hole nother twist to this story too i am really really good friends with Dolly! ye i need some help where is CMS and i am desperate that is why i am askin a little kid!

Ok, first of all, I'm not a little kid, but anyway let's try and solve your problem. If "Billy" wants to stay with Dolly, but is unsure if he wants to because there is another girl involved, then I think he should break up with her. There may be a chance that you and Billy may decide to do a little cheatin and that can ruin both of your guys' reputations. Ok, now I think that you should talk to "Dolly" about Billy and explain to her the situation. One thing you really have to ask yourself is: Are you willing to possibly lose a friendship over 'one' guy? Be a friend, and please talk to Dolly, It will make things so much easier of both of you. I hope I helped.
*Kori*

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Okay ... my boyfriend and I have never met. Hes 18 and im only 14. I love him more then anything in this entire world and would do anything for him, but my parents dont like this. They don't even know we havent met :/
Hes coming to see me soon and then hes moving down here. But the fact that hes not here gets in the way of me being happy that im with him. I feel like im stuck in place, and im just "waiting", and waiting on nothing. I know that he loves me, and that i love him but this is killing me. Should i wait it out?

Well, Just one question: How do you know you love someone that you have never even met? People are not everything that they seem to be at first. Although, it is your life and you do it however you want, but just remember, make the right decisions!
*KORI*

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Hi, i'm 13 years old and i'm a girl. I like this boy but he is taken already, By one of my friends. I really like him and i want to tell him but how can i without my friend not finding out?

What I think you should do is tell your friend. There is really no point in hiding your feelings, if she's your friend she should understand. Oh, one thing, even if you start liking him like crazy remember that both these people mean alot to you and you should do anything to try and get either of them mad at the other! (Telling you just in case ;)) But if it is such a big deal telling your friend, then you could just try a letter. I hope I helped!
**KORI**

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I'm 13...There's a guy I like, and he's 14 and he's awesome. I really don't talk to him a lot because he's my best friend's older brother and I don't want to be like, "Yeah, I wanna go talk to your brother..See ya." Or anything like that. I really do like him, he used to tease me in a flirty way and he used to stare at me and we used to smile at each other, but I don't know what's going on with him now. All of a sudden he's become...hostile..or something. I said Hi to him and he was like, "Get away from me!" I have mixed emotions about him now, I don't know whether I should move on or not. My sister, who's ona never ending mission to hook us up, tells me that it was only that day he was different and that he likes me back. I can't stop thinking that maybe he'll always be like that, maybe I should move on...should I move on or keep on going for the same guy? I'm so mixed up..

Everything is fine, calm down. He is probably just going through some personal things. It's just a crush that you will be able to get over. One thing that you have to think about is that what if you two do end up getting together and break up ?(In a bad situation)Your friend may not see that whatever you thought was exactly correct. Now are you willing to possibly give up a good friendship just for a possibly meaningless crush that you might have been able to do without?

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Okay i have a big problem. I have a boyfriend thats older than me. and taller. Hes 16 and im 15. He goes to a different school than what i do. Im at his house all the time to see him. He barely talks to me. How do i get him to talk to me more? Like im always shy around him and i get weird feelings in my stomach when im near him. What does that mean? Please help me. I'll rate good.

Signed Boy Trouble

It seems that you two are just in the same predicament. You are both still feel a little uncomfortable around each other. Just start off with some small talk, you'll end up creating a long conversation as you go along! That "weird" feelings that your having is just like butterflies, You must be happy with him or else you probably wouldnt be getting them! Anyway, I hope I helped you out, If you need more help just contact me!

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