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obsessively curios.
my boyfriend was an ass. i dumped him. but i cant keep myself off his myspace checking up on him. we are both the jealous types. throughout the whole relationship we'd get iffy about either of us talking to other girls/guys. now that we're apart i have to see if he's been talking to other girls. i hate it, but i want to know. on the other hand, signs of him flirting/dating/falling someone else would hurt me a lot and id be pissed, so quite frankly i DONT want to know. how can i stop this madness?
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Hey. Don't worry this is not an unusual situation at all. My sister seemed to fall into this right after breaking up with her boyfriend and many others that I've talked to (and myself) have done things like this over guys that they like even.
The reason for always checking his myspace for dirt, in my opinion, is that you still have feelings for him. I'm exactly like you, very jealous and jealousy can sometimes turn into possession. Perhaps you still look at him as "yours" which makes you feel like his business is still "your" business. Therefore, you find yourself seeing what he is up to even though you don't exactly need to.
You said it youself that if you saw signs of him flirting and such with someone else you would be hurt very much, which is a clear sign that you are not over him.
However, you are going to have to try to get over him in order to stop this obsession. In order to stop caring for him so much however, you are going to need to have more self control and not allow yourself to go to his page so often because by continuing to check up on him, you are keeping yourself attached to him.
So basically, if you ever catch yourself checking up on him, just think about how much you would rather not be and close that screen! Its going to be hard at the beginning to avoid doing it and you're probably going to slip a few times, but in the long run I'm sure you'll lose those deep feelings for him that kept you so attached to checking up on him.
If you still need help don't hesitate to ask, I am here to help if theres anything else you need to know! =]
With Love,
Kori
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hey this is brandy and i think you should start by deleting him off your page and try not to think about him and when you get those urges to "check-up on him" just do some thing else like for example .......polish your toe nails,clean the house,eat,exercise,watch tv,etc (you get the point)!
hope i was help
~*brandy*~
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