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My name is Kim, i am 15 years old, i have two cats, 2 brothers, and live with my parents. I have long, straight brown hair and ocean blue eyes. Im about 5'7 and i am adverage size.

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I'm currently in an internet relationship with this guy in Canada (I'm in Australia) We liked each other for about a year, and only recently decided to give the relationship a shot. We had a few problems before we got together, but we worked them all out. We're meeting in a few months time. I do like him, however, there's a lot about him that bothers me. He's a REALLY extremist Catholic, and whilst i am catholic too, I'm nowhere near as religious. A lot of what he believes I respect, however disagree with. I have to act different around him, for example, I can't swear or say anything even remotely 'suggestive' Sometimes I feel like he's testing me, because he asks me questions like "did you go to mass today on sunday? Did you enjoy it?" and "How far do you think is too far?" I never feel comfortable around him and he doesn't know much about who I truly am due to this reason. He's a really innocent guy for a teenager, and whilst its good that he respects me, he's really uptight and we can never talk about things or joke around like other couples can. I realize that not everyone is into that kind of thing, but it's like we never do anything 'fun'

I tell him I love him every night but sometimes I wonder whether I truly do. I want to make this work but I have a nagging feeling telling me that this isn't right and I shouldn't be with him. What should I do? Is it normal to feel like this? Do you guys think I should still try with him?

Thanks.

well, i would say that since he is so religious and you arent, the relationship may not work out in the long run anyway. Since you guys are going to be meeting you may want to wait and see what he is like in person becuz i just think you really dont know a person until you meet them in person. With him being this way you could never be yourself, but just give it some time. See how he is to you in person and after that it may be easy for you to decide what to do..hope i helped you!

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is it weird when the girl is taller than the guy in a relationship?

well, supposedly the girl is supposed to be shorter than the guy but no i dont think it is weird at all..guys have more problems with this then girls do...hope i helped~!

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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year nnow, i love him so much. but my problem is i have had dreams that ive been making out[and more] with guys (that i know like me) and in my dreams i feel happy when i cheat, but when i wake up i feel horribl. anyone know what is going on?
15/f

well i cant tell you this for sure, but i think maybe your mind is just exploring other things,since you feel horrible when you wake up you should worry about it..after awhile these dreams should go away..hope i helped

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this is kinda long but its been bugging me fur a long time i have liked this guy fur two years now and before he used to hurt me alot and he used to go fur my best friend like mayn other guys and it hurts but recently he asked me to semi and i dont no if that means he likes me or not but i dont no what to do cause i dont no if i can trust him again or if he will hrut me he says hes changed and he wants to proive it by taking me but wut if he jsut wnats to take me as a friend and i fall fur him again and get hurt and i do not want this cause every relationship i have had the guy hruts me .. my friends say to hang out with him more and stuff but i have a feeling if i do ill fall fur hima nd he wont like me.. aned plus i never really get a chance to ahngo ut with him at skewl cause hes with different friends so i can onlee after skewl but my parents said i cant date guys two years older cause they onlee want one thing.. but i want to hang out with him wut should i do.. and alos wut should i do.. should i give him another chance or not cause he really hurt me or should i just move on and go fur another guy?
i am in grade 9 please help!

Well, unfortunatly most guys never change. I honestly think you should move on and try to just stay friends with him. If you want to see him more your parents might let you if they know you dont have a crush on him and you arent dating him. Hopefully this was of some help to you.

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well i just lost the best girlfriend in the world ive ever had and i cant stop thinking about her and i keep having dreams about her how do i get her out of my head? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

well, maybe if you go out with your friends and hang with them you can get her off your mind. Everyone has break ups and unfortunatly we all get over them. From the sounds of it you miss her. Talking to her and becoming good friends would help. Then you could hang out.Just see where life takes you, im sure you will find your way..hope this helped!

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uhgg... if any of you read my last ? about the whole ben thing then could you help me out with this one...

*Ok so i guess he does have feelings for this jackie girl but he doesnt know whats going on with her right now.. he still has feelings for me (so he says) but im still confused at what to do.. i am not the kind of person who can cry about things.. i dont believe it really solves anything, but This make me cry a little... i dont what what i should do about it i mean i care about him so much and its not like we go out but we do care about each other and we would go out if we could but we cant because hes older ... im not sure if i should just tell him to go ahead with the jackie girl and TRY and forget about him.. or if i shoudl just wait it out and see how things turn out... Help Me Please...!!!

still having problems with him huh? well, considering you guys arent dating maybe it would be a good idea to tell talk to him and ask him if he would ever want to get serious about you guys going out. Also you should consider the fact that he may not want to date her. unfortunatly there are always people who are better as friends. i have that problem right now. i hope things work out for you and i hope i am of some help to you!

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Hey everyone im new to this but you*ll find i need alotta help.lol this ones kinda long...

So One problem that im having is that im caught up on this kid, who likes me back, but is older. As in im 14 and hes almost 19... yea i know what a drag... And he keeps talking about how he hates the fact that we only get to see each other once or twice every other week. And i keep telling him it's only because we just started hangin out more and the holidays are coming buthe keeps saying that he cares about me but hes not sure if he can handle it...

Well The other day his friend andy was on his s/n acting as if he was ben.. he was saying all these things like that he wanted to have sex with me and he wanted to be my first time and trying to pressure me into doing it w/ him. Meanwhile deep down in my heart i knew it cant be ben but in the back of my mind im doubting myself... as usual...

After i practically had an axiety attack he told me it was him, andy, and not ben.

Well i think he played another one of these (not so funny) "jokes" on me again today 11*23*05 saying that him and ben were up in waverly staying with his friend jackie, which i didnt mind i understand he has friends, but then andy was saying that ben was gunna go out w/ jackie andall this n i didnt believe him n he goes your too young just deal w/ it. and then when i was talking to ben later he said it wasnt true... but then after we talked about it more he started gettin hostile with me and toldme to fuck off... at that point i wasnt sure if it was ben or andy.. then he justsigned off on me, whoever it was.
Now im so confused as to what i should do and how i should handle it... i care about ben so much, i may even love him but i just dont know.

hes never pulled ne thing like this before and he always talks about how much he cares about me and wants to see me all the time.. maybe he got tired of not being able to see me whenever he wanted to.. but im not sure... please help me ... im a 14/F bens 18/M

I can see that you love Ben. I have a 14 year old friend who is dating an 18 year old so i can see where you are coming from. In my opinion it is a very big age difference but if you love him you should just remember that it may not have been him who said all this to you. Dont jump to conclusions yet. Call him and ask him about it. If you found out it was him then maybe you should consider ditching him cuz he hurt you, if it wasnt him then just remember that in a few years you can see each other all the time. If you wait it will all pay off. Good Luck!!!

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So i've been with this boy on & off for about 2 years now...i think i am in love with him but idk like i still want other guys. What should i do?

here's how i see it, you have alot of life ahead of you, but never play games with a guy you really like or even love. Wanting other guys is natural for you but you need to decide if you want to be with your guy, or if you would rather have fun with lots of guys. I think this is a choice that only you can make for yourself. Good luck

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