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this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you! (link)
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Hi
I have been going out with my girlfriend for about a year. I am very physically active, and I don't expect my girlfriend to do as much as I do but lately I really am having trouble talking to her about weight.
I love my girlfriend's personality, but I have problem with her being overweight. I don't expect her to look like a model, and I don't mind if she's a little chubby, but I really have a problem with her being overweight and it's a huge pet peeve of mine. She has been trying to cut back, but she hasn't really lost weight. Its sad because she used to be really in shape and do gymnastics. I also try to do activities with her but she doesn't like doing them. I feel like it would be dumb to break up with her just because of the weight thing, but she just isn't losing weight and it's been 4 months now since she started trying to.
My question is, how can I help her get in shape without her getting angry at me? I feel like I'm being a jerk when I say she should run and work out, but it is super important to me. Also she doesn't want to use any drugs to lose weight. What ways can I help to convince her to get in shape?
Any suggestions on my situation would be valuable to me.
Thanks a bunch (link)
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If she has gained an unhealthy amount of weight in a short period of time, I'd be willing to bet she's struggling with underlying emotional issues that are presenting themselves in the form of overeating/binge eating.
How do you mention her weight and getting in shape without her getting angry? You don't. If she used to be "really in shape and do gymnastics" I'm sure she's aware, and probably not too thrilled with, the way her body has changed.
If you're as eloquent in person as you are in your writing I'd suggest keeping your thoughts to yourself for the moment. Your reasons for wanting her to lose weight are purely selfish ones, and trying to pretend otherwise will be blindingly obvious and extremely hurtful.
To be completely honest, I'd be more inclined to suggest ways to broach such a sensitive topic had you expressed any concern for her well being at all, be it emotional or physical.
The health risks of being overweight aren't mentioned - but your "pet peeve" of having an overweight girlfriend is.
You show a complete disregard for why she may be putting on so much weight. Focus less on her waistline, and more on her happiness, or lack thereof, and see what you notice. I think you'll be surprised.
She doesn't want to use any drugs to lose weight? Good for her, and shame on you for even considering such an unhealthy approach.
Until you can find less self serving purposes for encouraging her to lose weight, put a sock in it. In the meantime, it'd probably be a good idea to re-evaluate what is important to your relationship, and act accordingly.
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