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I come from a small town in New York called Fulton. not many people in our high school maybe 300 something. But I still love it here. I am most like any other 17 year old girl but I am not all that girly, I grew up with all guys except my best friend who I meet when I was 6. I love to dance, I also love the UFC! I am the biggest dork ever and I just dont care beucase I love it! There are very few people in this world that I love with all my heart. I still act like a little kid most of the time. I can't stand people who are fake and who casue drama. I get along with just about everyone and I tell it like it is.

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okay.so there are two guys i like, guy number one, is so goofy, and i really like him. but i don't talk to him as much as i'd like. and he might be moving,but i'm not forsure yet. guy number two is a big dickhead,but he really isn't that mean to me. he can be so sweet at times. but the thing is he has an on & off g/f of like a year. and everyone has told me he isn't gonna leave her for good. they are broke up at the moment, but they still talk. and he tells me he don't wanna stop talking to me culz he really likes me. i really cannot decide who i want more. i like both of them alot, helppppppp !!

I think you should go with guy number two but keep talking to guy number one just becuase you dont know for sure how things are gunnna go with guy two due to the fact that he has an on off again realtionship so he might go with you then go with her and yeah. just watch out for number one (that means you). Try to talk to guy one more too. Good luck!

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okay.
theres a guy.
of course.
and he's scene/skater.
everybody likes/knows him.
on his about me in his myspace.
he has his views that know one gets.
i thought i understood them.
[and i met him in person that night.]
so i thought i would message him to share my views.
and.
to say hey.
well.
i told him and he got really excited about my message.
because he sad i was the only one to actually get him.
so.
i got butterflies in my stomach.
and.
im still talking to him.
and.
hes everything im looking for in a guy except more experience sexually.
or so ive heard from a good source.
im just really at a dead end.
and.
dont know what to do.
help.
thanks in advance.

Guys arent always looking for sex, becuase the guy i am kinda with has told me that about a 1,000 times, and Its scary having him be more experience becuase you dont know if you are good enough. You just have to take a breather and if you are going to have sex see what he likes and do it that is all you need to talk to him about what he likes. Dont sweat it just make it fun. The biggest thing is try and see what he likes. Hope everything works out! : )

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wellthis summer has tatally sucked...i cant stop thinking bout the guy i like i want to get him out of my mind...i have liked him for 2 years and yes he knows i like him...and now one of my best friends since we were like 8 is not talking to me but she is talking to one of my friends so i know what she is thinking...but it sux because i am nt going to be the one to text or call her because i always do and i think it his turn...and now idk what to do...i just wish his summer would get better...it started bad and has just gotten worse :( what do i do to make it better...how can i fix everything

If i was you I would go out with someother people and go have funn! say screw all of them who hurt you for a night and just forget about it will be worth it. you need some fun right now. After you do that try talking to your friend and try and find out why she is not talkin to you and for the whole guy thing he is just another guy I know that is proby not what you wanted to here but u shouldnt be calling him he needs to be calling you and texting you beucase usally if you call him or text to him to much guys will talk about you to there friends and say some pretty mean stuff about it. Hope things turn around and try and go out and have a fun summmer dont worry so much it!

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i am in love with an awesome guy. there's no need for me to really describe him....because this is my question: i'm moving away and will probably never see him again, and i couldn't find him the last few days of school to get his screen name (idk if he even has one) so what should i do?? I won't be moving till august....someone please tell me, cus im so in love with him (we're friends...but i want to be more). Help. =(

well you should ask many of your friends to see if anyone knows his sn or myspace is a great way to find people! if you can get ahold of him just tell him you want to hang out with him before you move away.

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what are some things i could do to make my boyfriend feel good?

and also what are some fun ways to kiss?
like ex. with pop rocks or something

If he is chewing gum steal it from him or to make him "feel good" start to feel him up he will love that. Also try when you are kissing him suck on his bottom lip.

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i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior

I think you should go beucase you cant miss out on this. This is to big of a opperunity for you. Im sorry, but you may love him but he should see how much you want this and he should let you go no matter what.

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So I am wondering what other people feel like when there in love. I would like to know why they love their boyfriends/husbands. So please help me out here, I feel in love but its hard to descbribe why I love him.

I think that if you arent sure then you dont really love him. you will just know if you love him its one of thoes kind of things. Its that feeling when you cant breath when he is around you and when he isnt all you do is think about him and you only want to be with him. that you learn every song that he loves by heart just beucase its something he likes. or whenever you kiss him you have thoes butterflies that you still get when it was your first kiss and it never fades, or whenever you see him all you do is want to kiss him. or when he holds you in his arms, its your fav spot in the world. Or the main thing if he hurts you, no matter how hard it is you will forgive him just beucase you dont want him out of your life.

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i really wanta boyfriend. all my guy friends are like taken. how do i get one?

there is no sure formula to get a boyfriend. You can't force yourself into a realtionship. You have to just wait and when you stop looking then the guy will come it always works like that no clue why just does. But just firlt with a bunch of differnt guys and if one likes you then im sure it will all work out. Good Luck!

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there's this guy that i would love to date, and i'm pretty sure he'd love to date me too, there's just one problem--he has really bad acne. acne totally grosses me out, and i wouldn't want to be close to him or anything because of it. what would be a nice way of telling him to wash his face or use proactive every once and a while?

There really isnt a nice way to say it, i think you just shouldnt date him then beucase then your whole heart wouldnt be in it. Its just fair to him or you.

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Yesterday i went to a party and i met a girl ahe gave me her number but the problem is i dont know how to talk to a girl over the phone please someone help me?

ok well its really easy just say hi and keep it simple but whatever you dont just have that silince there i personly hate that. Just talk to her like you would any other friend just dont say anything gross until you get to her know more. I hope that helps.

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Ok well i have never really had a boyfriend well one but he doesnt really count because i moved like less then 3 days after we started going out anoywho i get really nervous around guys like i cant even really talk to them if it has anything to do with how i feel or something like i cant ask them out or tell them i like them and even if i did have a friend tell them and they like me i wouldnt be able to talk much i would be soooooooo nervous i wouldnt no what to say or how to say it or anything and i know that if you ask someone out and they say yes that they wouldnt have said yes unless they wanted to go but i would always get the feeling they like someone else or think all negative and what not how do i stop this and how can i be more comfortable talking to guys i like

It seems to me that you have confidence issues and you need to work on that mostly. Stop thinking the negative thoughts! I think yu need to learn how to talk to talk to guys guys are into girls that dont show that they are nervouse to talk to them. just talk to them like you do your friends and show them how amazing you are. Just remember you are beautiful and amazing!

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I've recently developed a crush for a guy in one of my classes. and i got his sn off facebook cause he and i were talking from wall to wall and that annoys me so i IMed him tuesday night. we talked all night..well till about 9:30 i think? and then Wednesday night he Imed me again and then we talked for about 2-3 hours (online) and then again last night he Imed me at 7 something and we talked pretty much non stop till 10:40. and i really have a crush on him. but i only see him in one of my classes. i mean sometimes i pass him in the hall but thats it. and they things he says makes me think he has a crush on me too, but for right now i'm not going to worry about that because its only been a few days so i'm working on just becomeing good friends and i really want his cell phone number so we can talk on the phone and text and such. but i don't know if i should ask for it and see if he has texting and everything or if i should i just wait for him to ask me for mine? and any suggestions on how i can flirt with him more but not make it tooo obvious?

thanks!

ask for his number guys are sometimes really shy to make the first move. To firlt when you see him in the hallway say hi to him and it doesnt matter how many classes you guys have it wont matter.

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well ive had problems with this boy not calling and he didnt call me for 2 weeks!!! then he randomly called me sat. nite n he was talking bout my b-day which was on mon>!! bout he said he wsa going to call me for my bday but he never did!!!! i love him n all but i dont think i can handle not talking on the fone b/c we dont see each other alot hes in high skool!! wat should i do???? also latley our longest fone conversation has been like 8 min!!! !! how lame!!!! help pz

well you need to bring it up and be like we dont really talk anymore and be like i miss talking to you so much.

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ok im about to go to a b-day party and my crush is gonna be there. what should i do? i want to let him know i like him but not tell him. like how can i flirt with him? hes my best friend and according to my instincts he likes me back. everyone thinks its so obvious that we like eachother but he hasnt said he does. so how can i let him knoe im interested? its gonna be super fun with like tons of ppl and i just want tonight to go well since i never get to hang out with him outside of school. who knoes maybe even a kiss may happen! ahh cant wait help please. anyhting works! just please hurry befor i leave haha. im 14/f by the way.

Well you should just always be around him and mostly try and hang out with him just be yourself and he will like you since he is your best friend.

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I'm trying to figure out if a guy likes me. He's giving me mixed messages, and sometimes he sounds interested, sometimes he's not. I thought this part of our conversation was very weird. Let's call him "Bob."

MeTheGirl says:
My sister said I'm a loser and a dork because I'm single.
HimTheGuy says:
tell her u have a boyfriend

To me it sounds like he likes you. If he talks to you alot and takes the time to its proably beucase he has a thing for you too.

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is it better to wait a while to make a move on a quiet girl and hope that she will eventually like u and trust you and be patient anf all or sholud u just move on??
please help me coz this is cracking mr up

You have to see how she feels. Talk to her alot try and make some plans to hang out with some with friends that are hers and yours. Hang out alot and make a little move and see what she does if she wants to go further you will see if not you will know by what she is doing.

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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...

Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.

He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!

I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...

Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...

Yeah I understand how you are feeling I grew up with guy and I took tae kwon do for about 4 years I got all the way up to my red belt. (Which is almost black) but then I just got really bored so i quit. well most of the guys there said they could beat and thought that they could at sparing but none of them did I always kick there asses. Yeah i never dated any of them but still they had pretty brusie egos that this "litter girl" beat them. I have also beaten guys in many sports taht they seemed to think they were so amazing at i said pff and proved them all wrong like me most recent boyfriend we joked about beating eachother up and the first time i pinned himm! I was so happy but he was really hurt and i saw that so we went agian and I let him win just beucase I saw how much he ego was hurt. I think its a guy thing. They have to prove that they are macho and what not. Im not saying that he should be acting the way he is he needs to be proud of you. And thanx for the compliment : )!!!! Hope he comes around and see this isnt the 1800's anymore! just kidding(about the 1800's)!

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I've asked many questions about this but I'm still confused. There is a boy who lives in Germany, and I really like him. I have never felt this way about ANYONE before, and I am just really happy talking to him.

I KNOW that I'll probably never meet him, and that we will definitely never go out. So don't tell me that, I know. But I still wish there was some way to tell him how much I like him. I want it to be subtle, and I don't want to freak him out. Sugguestions?

**Also please don't tell me, "He could be a 60 year old man." I'm not an idiot, and I am 100% positive that he's real.**

ok well you should be like i really like talking to you alot. and then see what he says if he says yeah me too then he probly thinks the same just tell him its not gunna be bad and say yeah i know its dumb and everything but yeah. Its a good thing you know it wont work and there is no harm in just telling him beucase whats the worst that can happpen he lives in Germnay after all.

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Every day after school, I get on the computer. I talk to this guy that I like. (He can only stay on the computer until 5:30 PM.) Before I met him, I would work out every day at 4. Reccently, I've been starting working out later, like at 4:30. Whenever I tell him I have to go, he always says, "Don't leave me." or "I want you to stay!" I really want to stay and talk to him, but I know I'll be sorry if I don't work out. Do you think I'm right to sign off at 4:30? I like him, and I like to exercise, I really don't want to give up either. (Unfortunately, we do NOT live in the same state so "hanging out" is not an option. And the only time I can talk to him is between 3:30 and 4:30.) Am I just wasting my time?

I feel bad about leaving him at 4:30, because I really do want to stay. But I like it because it leaves him in suspense and makes him want to talk to me more. Any opinions?

I am sorry but yes you are wasting your time. I know you may not want to hear this but if you two live in two differnt states there is no reason to have this realtionship. I say go workout. yes you can still talk to him but dont feel bad. And yeah its great that you have someone to talk to but its not gunna work out in the end so dont sweat it just be friends and yeah still talk but work out and have funn.

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i met a guy about a month ago at a mixer, i go to an all girls hs and he goes to an all guys. hes cute and nice and i like him. but hes really shy so like he doesnt call me or even IM me .. i have to do all of that. his school is having a semi in may and i reallllyyyy wanna go with him, but i cant ask him cause it's his school and his dance. how can i like get him to like me, or to talk to me more. pleaseeee help

You should try and drop some hints be like so are you going to your dance?? Some guys are really shy due to fear of rejection. yeah guys are really complicated at times but if he acts really shy around you at times its probly beucase he likes you. When he is on sometimes dont im him, beucase then that makes him think that its ok, but it isnt he should man up yes whatever you dont say that to him beucase he will probly take it as a diss, the key is to make him want you and think that might not have you. And when he does talk to you drop many hints. Guys need some help sometimes.

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