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i am now 14 and am a girl. When i was 13 i became bulemic which led to me cutting i cut for almost 8 months. I stopped for a while, then started again. then my bf marc got me to stop btu then he randomly dumped me, then him and his friend molested me wen he was drunk but then i had seex with him by choice 2 days after he starts going out with another girl and doesnt care about wat he did to me. I was a virgin and havign sex for the first time was a big deal to me and he knew that and i chose him but now he betrayed me and used me, im cutting again and i dont kno how to stop. I jus feel so useless and hurt i dont know wat to do. . . (link)
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I'm really sorry. Don't let an immature jerk of a guy do this to you though. TRUST ME, I am 16 and since I was 13 this guy would mess with me constantly and he never really care for me. It's hard. I became anorexic and got exercise bulimia (which means i became active all the time, sick or anything). I started cutting as well. All because of one guy! It took a lot to get myself back together.
Forget him! All the time you do this to yourself you are letting him win. You could be out having fun and meeting the right guy to care for you like you deserve.
Try focusing on something good in your life, and everytime you feel the urge to puke or cut.. write. Writing helps a lot! Even if it doesn't make sense what you write, it still helps. Your friends can help too, go out and have girls nights out and all that good stuff.
It is hard work, but over time things will get better.
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Okay, so I like my best guy friend. Thing is, hes enagaged. He will call and ask if I want to go over to his house and play videogames. He referrs to the times when I go over to his house as "dates." He also says that he plays better when I am not around because when I sit next to him I make him nervous. He is always flirting with me. He will tease me, playfully hit me, and playfully kick me in the butt. He is also sensitive to my feelings, and is always trying to figure out what is wrong when I am upset so he can make it better. If he goes to the store, he will usually ask if I would like to go with him, or if I go to the store he will usually go with me because he said that he would feel bad if something happened to me. Also when we go out he will pay for me. I try to pay him back, but he wont let me. Also when I leave his house to go back to mine he will walk me out and watch me as I walk home to make sure I make it okay(we're neighbors. he lives like 2 houses down from me.)
Now him and his fiance have been engaged for almost a year now. They have not set a date, and they do not live together. They only see eachother on saturday, but other than that, they talk on the phone a couple times a day. She is leaving soon for another 4 years of college in another city, some 400 miles away and he is not going with her.
Before I ask my questions though, I would like to add: As much as I do like this guy, I would never get involved with him as long as he is with his fiance. I have no intentions of breaking them up either. If they were to break up, I dont want it to be because of me.
So onto the questions. Do you think he likes me? Do you think he is possibly having second thoughts about getting married? And do you think its weird that they are engaged but dont live together and havent set a date for their wedding yet??
I know this is kind of long, so I appreciate you all for taking the time to read and respond to this. Thanks! (link)
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Well from that, I know he really cares about you and it is possible he has feelings for you plus second thoughts on his engagement. I respect you greatly for as much as you like him to not want them to break up especially because of you. I know how much these kind of situations suck.
Maybe, try randomly and jokingly bring up "so when are you two setting a date?" and see what his facial reaction is. And for a better reaction, try doing that when he is messing around with you.
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Has anyone on here ever re-dated a guy and had a successful relationship? I want to know if a second try is always disasterous. (link)
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I personally do not know anyone who re-dated a guy and had a successful relationship. But I'm sure it could happen with the right guy.
I have gotten myself in a cycle with the same guy for four years, and in my opinion if the guy truly means everything to you, keep trying. If you can live without him, do. It's an awful feeling trying again for a letdown, but it happens sometimes.
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i've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, but he lives far away. recently, i discoverd that there is another boy that likes me and i sort of like him too. he kissed me the other day and now i'm really confused. any suggestions? (link)
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This situation can be confusing and not uncommon. I agree with 'xomegaroni', you need to talk to your boyfriend about this. Yes, it will be hard, and he might get angered, but he needs to know. Do you love your boyfriend? Could you see yourself with him a few months down the road? You said you "sort of" like this other boy. If you are "in love" with your boyfriend, don't leave him for this other guy. Unless, there is something unspoken about your boyfriend. Just let your boyfriend know how you feel and talk it out. I know you'll feel much better afterwards!
And if you decided to break up with said boyfriend. Don't rush into a new relationship with this other boy. Take things slow and see where it leads you.
Hope we helped! :]
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