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How come there is no boys asking questions? I'm a guy and I have a question... anyways... I'm kinda shy when the topic asking girls out comes up. I'm 13 and I dont ever think im going to get a girlfriend, because im so scared on what would i do if i asked someone out and then they said yes? i mean i dont know how to make out and stuff like that... what should i do? (link)
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First thing - don't worry. 'Making out' is something that happens, it's not like she's gonna ask you 'wow, let's make out!'. Just do what you want and what you think she would like, as holding her hand, caressing her face and her hair, holding her tight, kissing her on her lips and on her face.
My ex-boyfriend was 18 when I first kissed him and he didn't ever kissed before that. And it was a good kiss! I knew he was a begginer and that didn't scare me at all. I just made things slower, and it was very, very good. Maybe your girl will know (or find out) it's your first time, and then she will be gentle and warm.
Last thing - don't ever be afraid of asking what does she like, and telling her what do you like. Some girls love it when you pass your hands through her hair, some don't like that as much, and every girl has something that she loves. And the easier way to find out what it is, is to ask.
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Ok, I'm only 16, and maybe I'm just being stupid. And maybe some of you will think I'm just bitter because I'm single. But, it's not that I'm bitter or jealous. I just don't understand why people my age so immature about relationships? I mean, they post everywhere on the internet about how "hot" their boyfriend/girlfriend's are. And it's like, if they're going to post something about them, then why not post about the things that REALLY matter? Like, for instance, how: funny, brilliant, and/or talented they are. I just don't get it. I mean, one day, they're going to be old and wrinkly, and def. not hot. But, they will be more funny, brilliant, and/or talented. And, I'm not saying a physical attraction isn't needed, because it is. But, why is it that most people are so pathetically consumed with the things that are the least important in relationships? Ahhhh. Some days, I wish I weren't 16. (link)
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I have an answer that might make you feel better. In my country, it is normal to make out with guys just for one night, and then act like nothing occurred. You might just have met him, you might know nothing about him and kiss him anyway. Some friends of mine lost count of how many boys they kissed.
I don't usually do that. I really prefer to kiss someone I like, someone that's funny, brilliant and talented. Even when a very cute guy wants to kiss me, I won't let him unless I really like him and have feelings for him.
So what's the thing that might cheer you up? Most of the guys I dated didn't 'kiss for fun' either. They were with me for more that one night, because they knew me and liked me. It's not that I've choosen guys that didn't do that. It's just that, when I find a guy that I like, usually he focus on things I consider important. Most (and I mean like 90%) of the guys I liked in the past would like me for what I am inside, and would not care if I lost all my hair or got fat. When you find someone who's funny, intelligent, nice and everything you want, chances are he'll be searching someone like this too. :)
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how can you tell when a guy likes you? (link)
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It depends on the guy. But generally speaking, when a guy likes you, he should treat you better. Not with flowers and stuff, but he should like when you're together, and seem happy when you're near. He should care about you, be curious about your life and you.
Sadly, some guys just can't show they like you. They can be shy or just don't know how to do it. So if you like a guy and are not sure if he likes you, why don't you take the first step? I don't mean 'go and kiss him', I mean get closer to him, or invite him some place. There are invitations that don't mean 'I want you'. Like, if you're talking about the newest (name a good actor he likes) movie, you can suggest you two go see it. This way he can say yes or no without hurting you, and without feeling obligated to go.
I hope this helped!
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okay. one of my best guy firends...yeah...i think im falling for him. ive been thinking about this for the past 3 months. we're really close and i really love spending time with him. my school's semi formal is coming up and id really REALLY like to ask him.
but i have some issues.
a) i dont want to ruin a quality friendship by throwing "love" into the mix
b) I dont know how to "ask" guys out. im just not really "into" the whole guy thing...WHTA THE HELL DO I DO????
c) how do i even know if he likes me? what are some hints that he would drop? because my friends are pretty sure that he feels the same way about me as i do about him. but im just not sure!!
HELP! (link)
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First, thank God (or whatever you believe in) for being a girl. That makes everything easier! Second, facts that you'd like to know:
1. boys like girls.
2. boys are blind, and with this I mean probably he won't notice you want him unless you *tell* him this.
3. boys don't always know how to express themselves. As girls, sometimes they don't even know what they feel.
4. boys like to be invited (actually, everyone likes that). To anything.
5. never, never wait for someone (specially a boy) to do anything if *you* can do that. That saves time and worrying.
So, the best you can do is ask him. If you don't want him to realize everything right there, the best way is to be direct: ask him to go with you. He will never think 'hmmm, and why do you want that?'. If you need any excuse, say 'because we have so much fun together' or something like this. But if you want him to notice you have second intentions, you will have to make it kinda clear. Start touching him if you have the chance: take his hair off his eye, touch his arm to call him, this kind of stuff. Get closer to him when you're chatting (you can speak lower, so he has to come closer to hear you. but don't do this obviously). And the most important: show you're happy to be with him. Don't be afraid to show you are happy when he arrives, by smiling and even saying that. When you ask him, you can be shy and say, there's something I'd like to tell you but I'm shy. He will want to know, and that will double the effect of the asking. But please, don't make him bag for what you're gonna say: it's ok to take a few moments of indecision before, but not hours.
The last thing I wanna say is: there's nothing to lose. If the worst happens, and he says no, it's not like your life is over. It's just a no. And it can happen for a zillion reasons, like he had already been asked, or he won't go to the party. But don't let it stop you from doing what you want.
(and please, if you invite him, come back and tell me how things went :)
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