I am a 20 year old college student majoring in Psychology. I have had many experiences thus far in fields of love, loss, school, family, and so on. I have this great ability to listen to people and respond with the best advice possible. I am great with dealing with the recovery from the loss of a loved one (can relate to a death in the family as well). I am also very good at analyising problems within the fields of living arrangments, school/grade problems, family problems, time crunch problems, and relationship problems. I am alse really good with what people view as the "weird stuff." I've taken many Psych classes on personality, thoughts, dreams, and everything in between. So, if you have random questions along those lines, don't be afraid to ask (nothing is too weird for me)! Like my username says, I'm here for you! I have a lot of experience and knowledge I want to share so hit me up and I'll try to help you out as best I can.
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I am having so many problems with my recent breakup! I can't stop wanting him and thinking of him! I need him!
People say go out and live your life and flirt...but I just can't flirt. I never could!
I don't want to cry anymore and I want someone to make me feel better!
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I think you just need to get outside and do something productive! I suggest not hiding emotions though, don't go find someone just so you stop crying because you'll be with them for all the wrong reasons. Just keep youself busy, hang out with friends... I don't know, do whatever it is you do that makes you happy. But don't go looking for another relationship right away because it will only make things worse! Have fun and keep your mind distracted and happy! I've been through this before so let me know if you have any other questions, hope that helped!
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Wow, your situation is sounding more and more like mine! I was in a college dorm situation where we had all the same friends and couldn't get away from each other. I'll be honest, it was not easy to get over, I had the same feelings where every time I saw her, I wanted to be with her, it made it even harder knowing she didn't feel the same way. I went through this stage where I spent a fair amount of time to myself just collecting my thoughts and restarting my life. I starting meeting new people and finding other places away from her to hang out. Eventually, my old friends sort of just followed started to realize it hurt me to be around her, so they split their time. At the same time, my life was very complicated (death of a loved one, police trouble due to the break up, bad grades, etc.) and I ended up leaving school and moving back home to recover. Don't let yourself get to the point I did, get out there and meet new people and have new experiences! Sorry for the long story, I hope everything works out!
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Do guys find it cute when girls are totally nervous around them and say stupid things then blush about it...? Or do they just think 'what the heck is wrong with her?'
I'd like to hear from guys only please...thank you! (link)
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From a guys point of view, we are normally the nervous ones saying stupid things! I personally would like it if a girl was acting like that because that would put her on the same level as me and make the situation less awkward. I have a hard time with any girl who is too confident so I'd prefer they be nervous and act funny! Hope that helps!
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Ok there is this guy who really likes me and wants to get to know me. I am not really interested in to him but I would like to be just friends. But when I am just friends with a guy who likes me, I always flirt. And I can't help it. I don't know when I flirt and when I want to I don't. It is just how I am. The guy always thinks I like him so then he asks me out and I say no cause I want to be just friends. So they are confuesed. But this guy is nice and funny but I want to be just friends. I know I will flirt but how do I get him to know I just want to be friends but without huring his feelings and stuff? (link)
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I'm sorry to tell you this but the only way you will make your point of wanting to be just friends is to stop flirting! Everytime you flirt, you are sending him the wrong signals, and as long as you keep doing that, he won't know what to think. In other words, he won't want to believe you want to be just friends with him if you keep flirting. I don't know what else to say it other than you need to control your flirting no matter how hard it may be to do! I hope everything works out, good luck!
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Ok my friend Terry (26) and I (23) are always very flirtatious, but really good friends too. And yes I do have a crush on him. We have been friends for a few years. I always catch him staring at me and when he realizes I catch him he just smiles because he loves it when I catch him. Like when I sit in a skirt he shakes his head and just says stuff like "Err that's not fair." like when we are at karaoke or watching a movie. He is always wanting to get caught doing something. and that is one thing that is exhilarating to me. Well with all our flirting we have gotten a little touchy lately. The other night we were watching a movie with some friends and we were cuddled up (like usual) with him laying across me on the couch. Our other friends fell asleep, I was massaging little parts his back and head, and he started slowly tickling my legs that he had been resting on. well..... it got a little further with him rubbing inside my legs tickling me and he… starting rubbing my clit. it was feeling really good until he tried fingering me. It just did not feel right and I told him not to do that. And he understood and stopped. I don’t want to hear that he was taking advantage of me because I could have stopped him sooner, and if he was he could have kept going. Now…I am a virgin and he does now that. We are both celibate ( we don’t have sex with anyone, for those of you who don’t know) and respect each other. It is just the way we are. Now is it normal that I don’t like it when he is trying to penetrate me with his finger? It just doesn’t feel good. Makes me queasy. I don’t like that I don’t like it because I want it to feel good. Also do you think this well effect our friendship? Also I have been trying to come up with some icebreakers how I can talk to him about this, Anything anyone can help me with would be great (link)
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I honestly think the only way out of this situation is to tell him the truth! If you don't have a conversation with him, it is definitely going to affect your friendship. Everytime you are around him, it will be pretty awkward. I suggest finding some time for you and him to sit down alone and discuss what each of you are thinking. It may be awkward at first, but if you are as good of friends as you say, it won't be too difficult. I respect your decisions to be celibate and I bet he would too. I think it is important to discuss stuff like this with him because it will help hime respect your space a little more. Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is that you should just talk to him! As far as icebreakers go, I suggest just jumping into it. It may be easier to get right off the bat why you are talking to him. I hope that helps, let me know if you have any other questions! Good luck!
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how do you stop loving someone? (link)
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Okay, I just went through a horrible break-up where I was left with my feelings for the person. She broke up with me so I had no choice but to continue loving her. But anyway, the key to stop loving someone is work and time. You need to get out in the world and jumpstart your life. Hang out with friends, go see a movie, talk to people about other things. This will take time but eventually your love for this person will fade away.
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OK well i got this girl i care the world for. I have wrote her a poem and am thinking bout printing the poem on microsoft word then putting a picture of a rose below the poem after i type it. Then i am going to roll the poem up and wrap it with some kind of ribbon. Then i am thinking bout getting her some real roses and being like i got you these real roses cause my love for you is real. And then getting her a fake rose and being like i got you this fake one to let you know my love for you will never die it will always be there. I have had people telling me to stay there and watch her read the poem and see her flowers then i have had some saying i ought o take it to her then leave my question is which should i do stay there while she reads the poem or give it to her and leave and wait for her to call? (link)
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Dude, if I were you, I'd stay and watch the reaction. Your plan is a guaranteed good one! She will love it. Plus, in my opinion the greatest gift to you personally is going be seeing her reaction. Who doesn't want to see their loved one happy?
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